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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:20:52 PM | How is crying viewed by others? Silent tears, not falling apart kind.
What about apologies...are they a sign of weakness or resignation or admission
of guilt? Do very young disrespect a middle age person who apologizes? Why ? | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:59:33 PM | Strange thing, when my ex and I broke up I cried to be honest. Her words were " stop your fake $ss tears, suck it up and put your big boy britches on" It hurt that she didnt care i cried and till this day i dont feel any less of a man doing so.
Man, Woman, child, tears come from pain its human nature | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 9:06:27 PM | "Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth". – Benjamin Disraeli
I'd be more worried about a person who shows NO emotion, than one who does... | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 9:07:37 PM | Do many people regard tears as a sign of weakness? Is it a turn off to some or many men? I cried for two weeks straight, maybe more when my 22 year marriage ended.
He told me he hated to see me cry, but said it without any concern. I think it is cathartic, stress relieving, tension relief. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 9:08:26 PM | | well spoken, thank you. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 9:15:57 PM | some people cry with a drop of a hat. OMG my corn flakes are soggy waa waa.
some people never shed a tear, they have no heart. I was a firefighter/medic for 15 years.
I will give you this, I cried, i cried plenty of times. Every single relationship I have had after it was over I put my head down and cried. I let it out, call me weak if you will but i shed it.
I am sorry about your marriage thats a long time. you made it 22 years to me that is wonderful thats alot of good times. but on your side thats alot of heartache to deal with. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 5:29:20 AM | As I have learned over time both TEARS and LAUGHTER are a sign of healing.
Unfortunately, in this society, crying and tears are viewed as a sign of weakness. - Especially for men. - We all have heard things like "real men don't cry" or "man up and stop your crying" or "put your big boy pants on" . - Which is sad. I am a former human services worker (worked a drug rehab, the foster care system, CPS, a Shelter for Abused Women, and a few other places) and have seen many a man come to my office for individual sessions to work through their issues and try to hold back the tears.......I would say to them, "it's okay to let it out and cry"........upon saying that, more often than not, they did let go. And many times, there were tears from many, many years ago. From sad things that took place in their childhood and/or things that were current.
Feelings aren't right or wrong. They just are. And that is just the way it is. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 8:55:00 AM | I had been through this once, actually I had met her on this website. We had been together for about 7 months. (i know that it's pretty short) Anyway we where engadged to be married, then out of the drop of a hat she decided to call it quits.
Needless to say the whole 1 hr and 30 min drive back home I couldn't hold it back any longer; sobbed the whole wa home. Really dosn't make me less of a man. It's always best to release your emotions, never hold it back. Otherwize, disasterous results or eaven catastorphic. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2009 3:48:05 PM | | The woman who I had recently realized I wanted to marry someday broke up with me out of nowhere, after saying similar things to me. This was two months ago. I have cried multiple times a day, each and every day since then. Do I care what others think about it? Not one bit. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2009 4:00:48 PM | It depends alot on the individual I imagine, sometimes when people cry over small insignificant things it can be annoying, but again what is perceived to be insignificant is subjective.
I personally don't cry, maybe I can't anymore I'm not sure. After my last relationship ended a couple of years ago it hit me rather hard to the point I forced myself to become emotionally numb. Wasn't a particularly healthy thing to do seeing as I now can't allow anybody close to me. I still feel emotions don't get me wrong, I haven't become a cyborg or anything, I just don't allow anyone to see what I'm feeling or if anything is bothering me.
The moral of that is, if crying helps you process your feelings towards something or someone by the gods do it and don't be ashamed of it. Some may think it weak or silly, but the only person whos opinion truely matters is your own. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2009 4:05:30 PM | Number One# It's frowned upon by other men from the last century,and is accepted by modern males .
Number Two# Apologies are accepted when there's a divorce or death involved.Some males can beleive others do this...but rely on others to understand the causes.
Number Three # Because the younger person is not use to a mature person to anything wrong. Most mature people will justifed their actions somewhat logical,if not emotional.And if they get a mature person to a apology,they can justify their wrongs as well. It's really... a opening that doesn't happen often...when it does..they go for the throat and try to draw blood.
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Posted: 9/24/2009 4:19:43 PM |
I'd be more worried about a person who shows NO emotion, than one who does...
**Tumbles through the room doing cartwheels, clapping my hands, giving shouts of praise, and setting off a few fireworks at random... as a show of my full support for that statement.
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Posted: 9/24/2009 4:27:31 PM | | I cried when my wife told me that I am going to be a daddy. Tears of joy on my part. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2009 6:57:46 PM | | If you are so happily married, what the hell are you doing on here? | |
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Posted: 9/25/2009 2:22:39 PM | | I read forums. I started doing it looong time ago. | |
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Posted: 9/26/2009 5:36:19 PM | My opinion for what it's worth...
Nothing at all wrong with crying i.e. being human and having emotions imo.
Is it percieved as weakness ?, possibly but certainly not by me.
I actually wish I could cry more easily, I find it very difficult, my heart is broken and I can't muster a tear, I'll end up breaking down over something stupid, like a movie or the like. The last time I cried was when watching JFK, Of course while I find it deeply sad that someone who wanted to make change in this world was 'removed' by those who like the world as it is, it only really served as a trigger I'm sure most of the tears where bottled from elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2009 9:52:52 PM | | OK, I'm slow. What is EMO? | |
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