| Discussing intimacy or just adult natured topics
Posted: 9/26/2009 4:47:56 AM | In the past I have seen many bedroom topics get deleted from the Texas forums. I know there are some who are easily offended and I know there is a sex forum on POF, but, not every discussion about intimacy issues is perverted. No matter what topics I think up, I am interested in Texan responses.
As far as my topic here, how do you feel about those discussions? I don't mean first dates or anything specific as far as timelines, I mean in general. Are you reserved in discussing it due to embarassment, privacy, etc or are you open to it?
I speak for myself only on this, but I love when a woman is confident enough in herself, her likes, dislikes, beliefs, etc that she can discuss it. I think due to some typical perverts that it has become taboo to bring up. I don't rush or push anyone to discuss it, but I do encourage it between people. To me it is part of the building blocks of a relationship and communication in general. We know no two men or women are alike so the benefits and positive reasons to do so are ideal.
If you've ever been with someone who acted like they knew it all and didn't care about you preferences or limits, then you know what I mean.
The little things that make up romance, togetherness in general and development are just as important to discuss I think. | |
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| Discussing intimacy or just adult natured topics
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:52:38 PM | Every single thing posted in a forum is on the internet for as long as the internet exists. There are some things I simply won't post about, and sex (except in the most general terms) is one of them.
Face to face, I will not have explicit sexual discussions unless it is with a person I am ready, willing, and able to have sex with. As far as I'm concerned, sexual discussions are just another form of foreplay, and I'm way too old to play silly, teasing games without a conclusion.
By the way, IMO, sexual discussions have nothing to do with confidence. They have far more to do with intentions. For some women, it is a flirtatious game. For some, it is a way to earn a living. And for some, it is a foray into a much more interesting evening than eating popcorn and watching a movie. | |
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| Discussing intimacy or just adult natured topics
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:09:24 PM | | I think these kind of topics shouldn't be discussed here. Discussions of this nature should be between the two people face to face and onl;y then would it be appropriate if the people area quatinted enough to trust each other.... | |
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| Discussing intimacy or just adult natured topics
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:59:20 PM | I think it is repressive to limit conversations about sexuality. Sure, two people in a relationship should keep specific conversations and their intimate lives private (in my opinion that is appropriate.) However, general discussions about sexuality should not be discouraged. Sexuality is part of being a healthy adult. There is nothing wrong with it, and the idea that it should not be discussed implies that it isn't healthy or "ok."
There is also nothing wrong with being uncomfortable with such discussions. In that case, it is appropriate to decline to participate. It is not appropriate to try to prevent others from participating. | |
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| Discussing intimacy or just adult natured topics
Posted: 10/1/2009 12:31:12 PM | I just wanted to be the first person to post in this thread with a face.
I've known a couple guys, both very proficient at bedding women, who basically talk about sex with women as soon as possible. If the woman runs away, she was going to be too much effort anyway. If she sticks around, it tends to speed up the process.
Another side benefit they've told me is that by keeping it simple and talking about sex, they don't have to keep track of the details of a woman's life - where she works, how many kids she has, where she grew up, her hobbies, etc. Because when talking to multiple women it's impossible to keep all those details straight and not make a mistake. | |
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