| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:09:44 PM | Today, before my fiance left for work, he put a roast in the oven. He called around noon to tell me about it. Of course I could smell it the moment I woke up. (He had to be at work at 6am. He has a timer oven.) I thought it was so wonderful for him to think about an early dinner before he even left for work! I have never been with another man that really cooked, so just now I thought that I bet relationships, where the man cooks, are perhaps better. I am not saying both people don't cook, just that the man does too. It seems like it relieves stress because the woman doesn't have to stress about dinner every night. It also seems like it could be fun cooking together, something I have yet to do.
So if you are in a relationship or have been and you are a woman, have you had a better relationship because your SO cooked, or if you are a man do you think your cooking helped your relationship? | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:12:42 PM | | yes, a man that cooks is nice. sharing the responsibilities. my ex loved to cook, however, he also loved meat, which i don't, but i always took care of the side dishes and it worked out well. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:15:44 PM | | I cooked dinners with my ex almost every night we ate together. I feel it is great for bonding and if we are both eating it, why not have both of us cook it? | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:20:25 PM | OP -- My ex and I used to share the cooking duties when we were together. We enjoyed it and as far as I can recall, there were never any complaints about who's turn it was, or things like that. We cooked for ourselves and each other, and it was all good.
Whether a full on meal, or just some simple things thrown together - we never went hungry. We'd occasionally help the other in the kitchen and it was fun now that I think about it.
And nothing says sexy like sneaking your arms around her waist and kissing the back of her neck when she's rinsing vegetables lol. Yea, I miss those days...
But sadly when she went on her diet, there was no shared cooking anymore. She had her "safety" meals, and that left me to cook for one each night. That really sucked but I never really realized how much until after we broke up. Those moments we had to have fun, be playful, and bond in the kitchen were sorely missed at least by me.
Now I'm so used to cooking for one that it'd seem odd for me to cook with someone else, or cook for more than myself. Damn odd indeed.
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:29:40 PM | I've always cooked. My mom literally taught me how to cook when I was a little kid (mediterranean).
I cook almost everyday. And I really like to open a restaurant one day too. I have my own recipes and everything ..... BUT
I suck at relationships .... the answer would be a big fat NOOOOOOOOOO!
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:29:41 PM | | A man who does laundry is also good. I've yet to meet a man who wouldn't trade me laundry for yard maintenence. And THEY always thought that they were getting the better end of the deal. One even ironed! Whoo hoo! | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:33:48 PM | OP, great topic!
My b/f loves to cook. I love to cook. We have our happiest times in the kitchen making all sorts of creative meals. Some are experiments and some are destined to be favourites. My all-time favourite was when he made me a steak and lobster dinner with all of the trimmings. Special dishes were laid out and there was candlelight and romantic music. I fell in love with him that night.
He says something about watching me cook makes him hot.
Of course, we have tried out the counters.....
Yes! Men that cook are better for relationships! | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:43:05 PM |
Those moments we had to have fun, be playful, and bond in the kitchen were sorely missed at least by me. Hmmm bonding and making some memories sounds great! I may have to think of some dishes for my next visit with him.
Not sure about laundry, I have had my share of making pink marks on my whites. But hey, I never thought about being with a man that cooked, so I won't say never let a man do some laundry. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:49:34 PM |
Are men that cook better for a relationship? Not for me. Unless he's a professional chef, there's something a bit twee about a man futzing around in the kitchen-- and wanting accolades for whatever he produced. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:00:30 PM | ~ OP ~ I think that is like asking the question, "Are ________________ men better for a relationship?" (Insert: tall, thin, heavy, smart, funny, sexy, etc., etc.) I've been with excellent cooks (my former was an amazing cook and he took the time to actually present the meal, not merely putting it on a plate.) We had just as many issues as my ex who couldn't boil water. I love to cook, I love to cook with someone, but it certainly isn't a signifier to me that it's a trait which makes them more suitable for a long term relationship. JMO  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:10:13 PM |
I've started a fire trying to cook toast.
True story.
Ha Ha Ha ..sorry you said "cook" toast.
A girlfriend of mine burnt down a 3 story apt. making fries.
Don't panic,nobody died!Just my other friends cat..RIP. Mama Kat!
True Story | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:17:42 PM | I guess it impresses me greatly never having been around a man that cooked. I can still hear my ex coming home 2 hours past when dinner was ready saying the meat is dried out, or my spaghetti sauce is too runny, etc. Nothing I cooked was ever good enough. So someone cooking for me, is blowing me away. Another adventure, sharing the meal preparation, seems like it will be more fun. Instead of stressing about having dinner, I don't have that at all because my fiance is cooking, complete enjoyment on my end. It is a new thing for me and I think it will make our relationship better for it.
A body type isn't the same as a skill or ability. I am sure that there are other abilities you can ask about, but eating is something everyone must do. Someone has to prepare the food and I know that used to always be me. Today I had an amazing gift, someone that didn't ask, or tell, but started a meal without asking, he did this on his own. It was wonderful. I am looking forward to this, it really isn't like him being able to fix plumbing... | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:32:25 PM | | i've met guys who are great cooks, but horrible at relationships. I think like most adults male or female...we learn either how to cook , starve, or get fat off fast food. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:14:09 AM | Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Dunno if they're better... but its waaaaay fun if they're enthusiastic about it.
It also seems like it could be fun cooking together, something I have yet to do.
A guy I was seeing... we'd go shopping together... work out a menu... we'd go back to my place...
He'd put my Chef uniform on and... woo woo
...Id show him what to do. 
And then... we'd cook  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:40:49 AM |
I've started a fire trying to cook toast.
Don't feel so bad... I know someone that got his hand STUCK in his toaster. His wife had to come help him out of it!
Hint: Next time, take the paper off your waffle BEFORE you stick it in the toaster. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:58:03 AM | | I love it! Every man I've been in a relationship with could cook, and I think it's a wonderful way to spend time together. Plus, I love to eat, so that works out well. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:11:00 AM | I didnt keep count, but after reading all the posts on here it seems that for ALL the WONDERFULNESS of these men who cooked, they were all EX's. I dont see ONE post on here where any of the women say...
"OMG, Once I tasted his spinach casserole and the chicken, I never EVER wanted another man"
I mean.. WTF??? ALL the men you ladies are gushing over about being great in the kitchen got left behind in divorce court of got dumped.
Splain that one to me Lucy.
I'm a great cook. Have owned restaurants too. However, have yet to find a woman who could bring home 6 or 7 figures, much less the raw food FOR me to cook. Seems I had to do the heavy lifting too. Money, cooking, kid raising, cleaning, yard, house, cars.
Maybe men should rent-a-uterus for offspring and just be alone..
now, before the hate mail, look for SOME of the irony in the truths. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:13:25 AM | | I must say...I'm not big on cooking. I have been brought up to do all the housework anyway and am very well house trained, but as far as cooking is concerned, I'm afraid I'm not going to dazzle any woman with that 'skill':-) If a woman wants me to cook her a great meal each night, she'll have to find someone else:-) | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:39:58 AM | Although there's a LOT to be said about not having to cook dinner every night, I can say from my own experience that no, men who cook are not better at relationships..
In fact, they can be a downright pain. Like Landra said, they (well the one I was married to) expected accolades for everything. For example - when our daughter was about 8 months old, he cooked her a meal. It was poached chicken in a cream sauce, mashed potato and something else white.. She took one look at this all-white stuff and went "nah". He absolutely chucked a wobbly. It was sooooo ridiculous.
I'd much rather have a grateful man who adored everything I cooked and left me to it while he poured the wine and set the table. Yeah!
but aaam, your fiance is a gem...And he's totally hot! | |
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