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Posted: 9/27/2009 11:29:15 PM | My prospective lover and I went out to lunch to talk and meet and greet. He was IMing me and emailing me until Thurs because he had to go to MA. Everything was going fine, then all of a sudden out of the blue he isn't texting me from his phone, emailing me, but by god he was on POF all the time. This was weird cause he said his phone was all messed up in MA and they have the best service down there for Verizon. Needless to say this tool decides to email me one last time, after talking to me about all of his life stuff and how he was finished with his wife etc, didn't care if she cheated on him, etc. just wanted to get to know me better, and this letter was about things we never talked about, he said one thing about letting go by the breeze with us that was never said. I decided he was playing the field and decided he found something better. Said he was going on vacation for the weekend, out of the office in MA all this week, and going to SC the following week. What an absolute tool, I cried anyhow but still, my first meet and greet then dumped.
Now how does one deal with that when you can't put some type of testimonial on his site because he doesn't have you set to favorites. I wish they would change that one thing on here, people should know what this guy is up to; I am sure many are. You get onto this site if you are ready not to just look and see what is out there.  | |
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| Meet and Greet, A Kiss
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:35:12 PM | You are friggin' MARRIED you silly woman!
Okay at least you're honest about it on your profile, but what is it you are seriously expecting? Sympathy, or indeed respect?
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| Meet and Greet, A Kiss
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:40:52 PM | | I am technically separated we live in two separate rooms and are like ships in the night. There is no love there. So I am waiting to find a place I can afford, there is a long waiting list. That being said, I was honest on my website and he was married too, do you think guys don't have needs either??? Don't judge me for being married/separated! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 12:15:10 AM | Lemme get this straight...
a 43 year old married mother of 4
CRIED
when the married man, a"prospective lover" she had 1 lunch with wasn't very interested....
and now wants to warn other women about him?
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Posted: 9/28/2009 5:02:09 AM | Well if you are seperated then why do you not make that clear in your profile? All it says is that you are "Married" and looking for "Other Relationship"..........And that you are looking for a "Compassionate Man".....good luck with that hahahah!! No one with compassion will come anywhere near you! You need to get your own place and get divorced before you even consider a new man. This is not the place nor is it the time for you to persue a new relationship.
And you cried????????? After one date???????? Oh dear! You will have to grow some thick skin if you are considering dating again. Not everyone is going to fall in love with you. You will meet plenty people who you are not compatable with. And even more that will use you for your "needs" then dump you. And whats worse, you feel the need to take some sort of revenge on him for dumping you? You have a lot to learn! | |
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| Meet and Greet, A Kiss
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:08:54 AM |
I am technically separated we live in two separate rooms and are like ships in the night. There is no love there. So I am waiting to find a place I can afford, there is a long waiting list. That being said, I was honest on my website and he was married too, do you think guys don't have needs either??? Don't judge me for being married/separated!
A quiz.......
1. What are you the day before you get married?
A) Single
B)Married
2. What are you the day before your divorce is final?
A) Single
B) Married
3. What are you the day after your divorce is final?
A) Single
B) Married
Ummm. I hate to tell you this OP, but being S E P A R A T E D is STILL MARRIED! And you yourself are crying over yet another MARRIED man on here?????
In all reality, where did you expect all of this to go????? Did you think HE was the one for you???
I hate to say it sister, but you don't need to be on here. You need to be getting your head screwed on straight, and your life situation in order.
No amount of saying you and your husband don't love each other/living in "separate living space" will justify your being on here, because believe it or not, there are a few of us out here who happen to have morals, ethics, and values about us and won't tolerate that type of behavior.
I will say though, at least you ARE honest about your marital status on your profile, as there are MANY on here masquerading as single, when they are actually married. - I'll give you that. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 6:21:08 AM | Of course we're going to judge you, its human nature to judge
lets look at the facts, you're * ahem* separated ( in the eyes of the law your MARRIED) doesn't matter if you sleep in separate bedrooms you're still married.
You had one guy who was married, and you think he's playing the field, and you had one meet and greet and it didn't turn out the way you hoped and you want to put a nasty testimonial on his profile warning women to stay away from him??
Good thing he didn't have sex with you, I think you would of alerted the media.
Does the mind not factor in that after he met you he changed his mind, is that so hard for you to understand, he's a married guy probably looking for a little leg on the side.
Would it of killed you to get a divorce first, then look for dating, you expect a normal guy to want to get in a relationship with you while 1) you're still living with your husband 2) get into a relationship after one meeting/date? thats not the sweet smell of chanel no.5, that's the smell of desperation and that attracts the losers, wingnuts, whack jobs, jack off's and freaks.
A quiz.......
1. What are you the day before you get married?
A) Single
B)Married
2. What are you the day before your divorce is final?
A) Single
B) Married
3. What are you the day after your divorce is final?
A) Single
B) Married
Ummm. I hate to tell you this OP, but being S E P A R A T E D is STILL MARRIED! And you yourself are crying over yet another MARRIED man on here????? well that says it all Renegadeoutlaw.
Does she get a prize for the bonus round?
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Posted: 9/28/2009 6:31:12 AM | Amen to that, Mahogany!
Mahogany......you are always there to back me up!!!!!! Woooo Hoooooo!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 7:42:30 AM | Im sorry you feel that way hun ...
I dont mean to sound heartless but you are still married to a man that you are living with ... I totaly understand that ppl live together now becuase of money problems but to still be married AND live with the man is pushing it hun ...
You being mad cause the man played you when you need to either move or be divorced from your husband is wrong too ...
Wish you the best ...
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Posted: 9/28/2009 8:50:49 AM | Life can be so unfair at times. Most people come on POF and in a day or two meet their soul mates and walk into the sunset on a romantic beach.
I am shocked, shocked to hear that some cad was playing the field, got his women mixed up, and then cyber dumped you, a married woman with kids!
You had a lunch, emails and text messages invested in that jack ball. Please don't let the boorish behavior of this one man affect your view of the gentlemen on POF. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 10:12:55 AM | OP it sounds like he got to know you better and didn't like what he saw.
Until you are divorced and on your own, you are living with your husband and are married. Word games don't change that. Not sure how you got hurt by anyone you only met once. Perhaps some counseling might help you to finish your relationship you are in and perhaps will help you to get in a real one in the future. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 10:46:52 AM | "I am technically separated we live in two separate rooms and are like ships in the night. There is no love there. So I am waiting to find a place I can afford, there is a long waiting list. That being said, I was honest on my website and he was married too, do you think guys don't have needs either??? Don't judge me for being married/separated!"
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Um, okay. So you are looking for another guy to move in with while you and your husband, get all the divorce paperwork done? You have a website also? Wow, congrats on that..You know you are not supposed to advertise these things in the threads.. Thanks for telling us all that you are still married and that you have needs that need to be met as well... Wow nothing like learning about folks these days.. Oops, it appear that I forgot what this thread was about anyway.. Oh well. Good luck and maybe your husband or soon to be ex husbands will be able to find some one on this site as well... HA HA HA!!!  I appreciate threads such as this one because they provide so many laughs during the day.. tee hee hee hee... | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 11:01:18 AM |
So you are looking for another guy to move in with...
She has told the truth about her situation. If some man likes her, there is no problem for anyone. At least, she is much better than some guy who asks a woman if she has a house for him to move in... | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 11:39:07 AM | "She has told the truth about her situation. If some man likes her, there is no problem for anyone. At least, she is much better than some guy who asks a woman if she has a house for him to move in..."
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HA HA!!! Yeah but everyone is supposed to tell the truth... anyway hey if that is what she wants then good for her.. I just don't understand how someone can want another relationship while still living with their soon to be ex.. Too much drama for my tastes .. but to each their own I guess.. Cheers. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 12:50:07 PM |
I decided he was playing the field and decided he found something better.
Not necessarily someone better OP ~ someone better suited for HIM maybe. One or two great meetings/dates does not constitute exclusivity unless that's agreed upon by both individuals. JMO  | |
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Posted: 9/29/2009 9:14:38 AM | | He's a married man- why would you want him??? And you cried because a cheating man treated you badly? Have you ever thought about how badly he is treating his wife by being with you? Get real. You have a huge load of responsibility here to knowingly get involved with a man who is ultimately out to destroy his wife and children. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2009 9:31:23 AM |
He's a married man- why would you want him???
Because she's a married woman and doesn't really seem to let little trivialities such as marital status get in the way of her search for happiness.
You have a huge load of responsibility here to knowingly get involved with a man who is ultimately out to destroy his wife and children.
Is that what he's ultimately out to do? | |
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