| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:45:07 PM | | One of my co-workers/friend just broke up with her long term boyfriend. She told me about it and is totally crushed. They were together for quite some time and she's in a lot of pain. How do I help her? | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/29/2009 4:19:37 PM | If your intentions are honorable and you are not
going to play on her hurt and weakness right now-
you just be there for her. Someone to talk to - to vent, to cry.
Be her friend.
Thats all. | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/29/2009 5:35:19 PM | | You don't. She has to work through it herself. That's it. You can listen, maybe offer a few sage words of wisdom but at the end of the day there is nothing you can do. She has to work through it. | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/29/2009 6:46:47 PM | just listen-no need to fix or solve anything-someone willing to hear us in our greatest pain who can refrain from unsolicited advice and 'I told you sos' is a gift and a true friend | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/29/2009 7:59:41 PM | | Basically, the same responses as the above posters have mentioned... however, I add: Do NOT allow yourself to meander into a rebound position. | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/29/2009 8:18:52 PM | | Lend her an ear, but don't try to be her girlfriend. And don't delude yourself into a heartbreak. | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/30/2009 11:14:45 AM | Never would be a rebound person. That's complete disrespecting a person's feelings. I went through the same tragedy a few years back and my friends dragged me out of depression. After all, five years with the same person and losing her was trully damaging.
Back to the issue, she completely worshipped him and has done nothing but talk to me about him. I don't want to play Dr. Phil, but I just feel powerless. How do you help someone when you've been through the same pain? | |
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| How do I help her?
Posted: 9/30/2009 2:51:11 PM | | You help her by listening to her - what she needs now is to vent - get it all out - then she'll be fine - so just listen - don't make judgment just listen - | |
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