| "Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?"
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:32:39 PM | | I am single with no kids. I have good values and am looking for marriage. I love having fun in the outdoors among other things, and always wanted others to join me. I don't really have many friends to do things with. I'd like to date some young single moms, and if we become close do activities with her and her kids (if they'e have me. The catcher is that I just stated college and will not be capable of financially caring for a family for a number of years. So My question is "Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?" | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:39:47 PM | No. They are not. Unless you want them too.
But I do like money. I like spending other people's money.
Romance with some finance. You finance. I will.. um... who am I kidding I have no idea how to romance.
But I like money. I like spending others people's money. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:44:55 PM | | No one can really speak for the masses..Only for themselves. I personally am not. I'd hate for a guy to support me financially. If he was a super rich millionare I probably wouldn't mind it, but if he had a regular Joe job I would. I have to feel like I am contributing somehow...It just bugs me if I don't. Now if I am physically unable to work (as I was during most of my pregnancy) that is different. But if I can work then I can't just sit around letting someone pay all my bills. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:03:20 PM | Isn't that the same as the "spoilt brat" who only looks for a lawyer to marry?
Don't put people in catagories. It's the individual person.
I'm curious though... What is the attraction to you, to date young single moms, why not a single lady, with or without children who you like as a person...? | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:35:07 PM | "I don't really have many friends to do things with. I'd like to date some young single moms, and if we become close do activities with her and her kids (if they'e have me.)"
It also seems when I browse for women alot of them that fit me just seem to have kids. I am under the impression that many mothers are arent into the party scene or spending time with lots of friends. I just want a few very close people to dedicate my life too. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:36:42 PM |
I'm curious though... What is the attraction to you, to date young single moms, why not a single lady, with or without children who you like as a person...? I was wondering the same thing, but got sidetracked because... well I like money. I like spending other people's money.
This posts was about money wasn't it?
A single man with no kids who is seeking out single mothers specifically to date and wonder if they want a man to take care of them sounds like he might be insecure and thinks single women might be desperate for a nice younger guy with no kids. But he's scared they might want him for his money.
Or he might be sterile.... with thoughts of all the above. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:44:27 PM | Sgt...!!
you take your proud self and MAKE your OWN family..!!
your charecter, your job, your pay, and your commitment, along
with the fact that you stand tall in your uniform ,...
will make finding your "partner" easier then most...
TAKE YOUR TIME...
you got your whole life ahead of you,
and a career to boot..
Take Care & Stay safe..
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:46:40 PM | LOL nappykat.
Well OP...
It seems more to me that you aren't social.
That your a homebody.
And, that what you are searching for is a woman who can't get out, doesn't like pubs, is a homebody, and therefore you can just spend quality time with her and her kids.
Then the fear of money comes into that, that she will expect you to be the provider of the family in the long run and you can't do that for 3 years.
Love is love... for those whom are only seeking that but you'd have to help at least, you couldn't live with someone and not be able to contribute.
And, even single mums, probably especially single mums, need time out, need to get out even if it's dinner with friends.
So you may have to sharpen your social skills just a little.... | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:56:00 PM | Of course it would be nice to meet someone who had money....duh!
That being said though, money without love would still be a no-go for this woman. I have to love the man I am with and he has to be financially self-supporting (I already have two children to take care of...don't need/want to take care of a grown man). I can handle my bills myself and don't "need" someone to help pay them....sharing expenses (eventually) would mean more disposable income that we could save/use to have fun.
My current SO and I are on par financially in terms of what we earn and what our bills are.....that is just fine with me...better perhaps. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 7:52:05 PM |
So My question is "Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?"
Some do. Some don't. Neither kind is good for you right now.
I'd like to date some young single moms, ... (if they'll have me.)
OF COURSE they'll have you! You're a fine young man!
You're only 29 for Pete's sake, why even THINK about taking up someone's obligations? Finish school, and you will find the right woman for you when you are good and ready to have a family. You'll make friends at school, and it will be easier to meet someone. There is no shortage of girls your age who will not saddle you with their financial woes.
I'm nagging like your mama here, but I smell that you are in danger of falling victim to some sleazeball who'll take you for a ride and all you've got.
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 9:06:16 PM | Ha! Funny, Norty! To be honest, Military Man, I think not. I know that as a single mom, I was ready to support my kids financially before becoming single. BUT...I was the one who decided to become single. So, in retrospect, I think you have 2 kinds of single moms to deal with. Those who chose it, and those who have it forced upon them. I chose it, I have 6 kids I am supporting on my own. I have a bit of help from my mom and dad....bless them. But I also go after every resourse available to me so that I can be free to have a relationship with ANY man I choose, regardless of their financial means. Cuz respect is most important to me, not money.
However! Of the single moms I know who had no choice...yes money is what they mostly want. Self and family preservation is very important to these women, for the most part. Obviously, I cannot speak for all. So find out which catagory the mom of your fancy fits into. Do some research!! :)
Best of luck and God bless. You will be fine.
C | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 9:27:35 PM | Well I am a single mom and yes I am looking for someone to care for me financially. I have a full time job and go to work every single day. I want someone in my life who makes more money than I do (which is NOT hard!) so I can quit my job! Just being honest :D
I grew up with dad being the bread winner and mom being the housewife. That's what I want too. Maybe it's not reality but a girl can dream can't she? :D | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 9/30/2009 11:48:53 PM | Well I am a single mom and yes I am looking for someone to care for me financially. I have a full time job and go to work every single day. I want someone in my life who makes more money than I do (which is NOT hard!) so I can quit my job! Just being honest :D
I grew up with dad being the bread winner and mom being the housewife. That's what I want too. Maybe it's not reality but a girl can dream can't she? :D
Yes a girl can dream, however, can you not see the difference between what your father did for his family vs. what you would like a man to do in your life? Your father worked hard to support his wife so she could care for HIS child. You are asking a man to support you to care for ANOTHER MAN'S child.
Do you see what a huge difference those two scenarios are? What would a man get out of supporting a woman and another man's child?
Do you see the benefit a man gets when he supports his wife and his own biological child? | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:23:56 AM | Geesh Louise, did yall miss the part where he said he was STERILE?
He obviously likes kids but at some point in this juncture somebody told him he can't have any. So he wants a young woman who already has kids that he can be a step father to, but he's afraid of getting used for his money - what little he has.
Here's the deal - when you enter a relationship with ANYONE, not just single moms - and choose to marry or cohabitate with that person, they will expect some kind of financial support from you. You may not have to be rich but they will want and expect help with the bills and utils, they will expect money for essentials, non-essentials, and recreation. They will expect you to help with the kids like a regular father and not say ' it's not my kid. Where the daddy?' They may expect that you laugh, play, and babysit the kid eventually, pay expenses toward the child like daycare, pampers, presents, clothes, and such. Yeah, the real dad can pay for this but remember - you're offering to be a dad who can do that also.
If you are not prepared to take on this responsibility of being a father, then wait until you are established. Single moms are like other women - they want love, affection, and financial help for them and their kids. Yeah, they can support themselves, but money is only one thing that you should bring to the table if you want to start a relationship with them and marry or live with them. You'll need to bring other things too that is dependent on each woman.
Now there some single mothers who will take care of all the bills as long as you bring the love, the affection, and the emotional gratification. Ain't nothing wrong with that either way if it works for your relationship.
And yes, there are some single moms (and women in general) who want you to pay for EVERYTHING while they sit at home with the kid or go out and have fun.
It really depends on the women and when you find someone - it's hard to say which one you will accept and want because different women bring different stuff the table. You might fall in love with one and wish to work and take care of her and she can stay at home with her kids. Or you might fall for one that will work and allow your to be a SAHD. Or you might get one where you fall right in the middle.
So are single moms looking for a guy to take care of them? Most definitely. And most definitely not. It really just depends on who you meet and go for. | |
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