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Posted: 9/30/2009 11:43:18 PM | So there is this new Anesthesiologist at my job. Everyone was questioning if he was gay or not, but I didn't understand why. The girls told me to look at his Facebook page. So I decide to look him up and add him as a friend. Not even 10 mintues later he accepts and sends me a private message. We start messaging back and forth and things get deeper. This lasts all night, and we eventually talk on the phone til 4am. During these messages he tells me, he can give me a great life, wants me to be the mother of his children, wants to marry me, spoil me, take me anywhere, and so on...you get the picture here. Well this is our first time talking!!! I was freaked out! He tells me to start taking my prenatals and looking for us a house to live in the next day. He was being so nice to me and I really believed his bullshit. Saying, God brought me to him, he new I was "The One" and stuff. This kind of talk lasts about 2 days and then he gets quieter. He stops texting me until I have to text him to talk to him and stops calling me. Then one night I go out and get drunk with friends and call him *67 and he answers and says nothing after I tell him it's me. So I call back without blocking it and he doesn't answer at all. I text him how ****ed up that is and ask why he lied to me and to go back to where the **** he came from. Now it is over between us of course but I really miss him, even though we never went out. Work is awkward kind of and I want him back!!! Why did he lie and say all of that?! I am only 21!!! He is 46 BTW and NEVER married and has NO kids...he is from Miami but just moved to Gulfport, MS for 3 months and maybe for good now...
Please help me figure out WHY he said all of this! Is he crazy? And WHY do I want him back!! How can I WIN him back?? I really want a REAL chance at this! | |
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Posted: 9/30/2009 11:52:30 PM | | i suspect that he just wanted to get in your pants or he was lonely in a new place and thought he would latch onto you then realized he was going too fast. I think you want him back because it felt great being with him and you want that feeling back but you know deep down that he wont return, it is normal to feel this way as who wants to feel bad when you can have joy. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2009 11:55:00 PM | | So you think if I totally just IGNORE him it will help?? I kept texting him everyday and calling but no answer... I deleted him number yesterday and havent tried to contact him anyway in over 24 hours..maybe he will think I lost interest and try again? | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 12:04:41 AM | If I may take a stab at the armchair diagnoses:
HIM: bipolar disorder, or coke-fueled bender
YOU: spoiled and want what you can't have, or low self-esteem | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 12:05:36 AM | Sounds like that you found yourself a certified wackjon. For one thing, he already wants to raise a family with you and he pulls that kind of shit? well to be honest with you I had been through this once, usually it's a certified wackjob, or in this case for his age; the maturity level's just not there. Honestly you really diserve better than that; human beings van be cruel in this sort of way, but on the otherhand there's plenty of good folks out there as well. Alot of times that you have to kiss plenty of frogs before you find "Mr right". With my luck I nick named this sight plentyoffrogs.com had found a couple of wackos, users, and fakes. That is the chance taken w/ my own free will. well I wish you the best | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 12:16:58 AM | | I think it would be best to just stop contacting him indeed to see if he will make any effort to have you back in his life and if he does contact you then get to the bottom of his behaviour so that you can go forward together and he is genuine. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 12:56:16 AM | You should consider why a few words from a man old enough to be your father have you so wound up. From the outside it looks like an inexperienced young woman being swept away by her own fantasies about a man who can solve all her life's challenges; instant wealth and status.
I suggest that figuring out his behavior should take second place to figuring out your own. You can learn from what happened and be better prepared to test a prospective mate's suitability in the future. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 1:08:52 AM |
HIM: bipolar disorder, or coke-fueled bender
Wow Idk how people in where ever it is you're from do it BUT men from the mid to Southern part of Florida flirt,& flatter lol.
All jokes aside, you're 21 and he's 4o something and saying all of this stuff in jest more than likely. For you to take every word some well paid, relatively young, NEW guy has told you makes you nieve and truly unready for a relationship. I think you were looking to be spoiled and it just spiraled into something you attached feelings to and now the beast in which you've fabricated is running around in your mind untamed. Good luck but don't and I mean DON'T make things awkward to the point where one of the two of you are in a position to loose your jobs. Nine times out of ten younger people(such as ourselves) are the one's to get axed before the degree holding individual oozing more experience in his specialized field than we have work experience as adults (ie four years ago).  | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 1:10:20 AM | | Ill solve all your problems with two words.......RESTRAINING ORDER!! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 1:41:03 AM | Something wierd going on there. Find a guy nearer your own age.
Why do you want him back? You never had him.. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 2:27:10 AM | All this from two days of phone calls and texting? Am I right that the two of you haven't actually been out together on a real date?
You're way ahead of yourself. Instead of trying to win back something you never had, you should be focused on whether this is a guy you actually want. Based on how he's treated you to this point, I don't know how you can be even the least bit encouraged, much less interested.
If you're serious about wanting a real chance, then you'll get out of the drive-thru lane and try to enter this relationship at a more realistic pace. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 4:43:32 AM | I'm sorry, but this whole story just made me laugh soooo hard!!! 
There are SO many things wrong with this story... I'm not really sure to begin. Maybe making a list will help.
1. He claimed to be in love with you and want to marry you on the first night you talked to him.
2. For some odd reason, instead of being creeped out and blocking his ass ASAP, you ate it all up.
3. When, 2 days after this all happened, he started to disappear, you had the audacity to get pissed at him for "lying to you."
4. Oh, right, he's old enough to be your daddy, and then some.
Ahahahahahaha oh lord.... you just can't make this stuff up. Oh jesus.....
If I promise to marry you, will you fall in love with me too??? I mean, I'm only a couple years older than you, but the same lines should still work, right?? xD
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Posted: 10/1/2009 7:05:22 AM | | ms princess, I know you are 21 but any man who says all that stuff after one convo and not even going on a date....well that is a red flag and actually that would creep me out. He either wanted in your pants or is bi polar. Any guy that comes on strong like that you seriously have to take a good look at and wonder wtf. Stop texting and calling the guy, have some self respect already. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 10:41:34 AM | | I'm not a gold digger, you don't even know me. That is very rude, please keep your nasty comments to youself. Thank you (: | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 10:58:42 AM | | ms princess 09...You put the post here. You're in a public forum asking for advice and opinions (points of view)...Posters being rude?...Suck it up, girl...the guy is old enough to be your Dad...we may not know you, but what you have (or not) told us gives us the impression you are, young , niave and a gold digger. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 11:19:36 AM | believe me i have been there too. When it sounds too good to be true it normally is..i mean why would a guy give all that he has worked for(and anesthesiology is hard work) for a girl he just met, your beautiful but im sure this man comes into contact with beautiful women all the time. Guys know tha alot of women go googoo gaga when they mention marriage and kids..so if its very early in the relationship HEAD FOR THE HILLS...i tend to believe a man in his forties of high status and good looking/personality that is unmarried is probably a player, narcissitic, incapable of a relationship, workaholic, or just simply dosent want to be tied down... | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 12:36:03 PM | | you gave him some attention, he played along, came to his senses and now you want to stalk him? You could recognize next time a guy tells you the 'future plan' within a few days how ridiculous that is and slow down enough to actually get to know him over time. You are still stuck on the fantasy-not reality | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 12:40:59 PM | | I guess I just wanted what I thought was something serious, the way he worded it was unbelievable!! I am young and I know I am very naive and not to learn from this.. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 4:56:06 PM | | jesus, miss princess, you are very gullible, you really would shack up with a dude who offers to take care of you and have babies with and never even went out once? I don't think he's crazy, but I think you may be suffering a little bit, "just a little" bit, of course he's going to feed you lies, no reasonable man I know is going to take care of a woman who he's never even been out on a date with. good luck with everything. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2009 7:43:07 PM | | The guy does "the homie" yeah he probably was just playing with your emotions that is really wrong but gay guys know women must have them and he took you for a ride. | |
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