| | Do you really mean it? Page 1 of 1 | Hi guys! (and ladies, too! )... I have often read in numerous profiles a guy say 'if you want to say hi feel free to drop me a line!'. I am wondering, do you really mean that? I mean, I am no grand prize, but I love to make new friends, male and female alike, so when I read 'go ahead and say hi', I often do. About 90% of these end up on my sent list as 'read / deleted'... and that's okay, but I just don't understand why anyone would present themself as being so open to a chat, or accepting of a persons greeting simply for the sake of making a friend, if they don't really mean it. I'm not saying anything ugly about anyone, or if I sound like I am, I apologize... I just think if you only want to interact with a tall, rail thin, gorgeous woman, you should maybe at least hint at that's what you'd prefer and spare those of us in the second row the disapointment of not even getting a 'hi' back... I probably sound self pitying and whining, but I don't mean to... this subject just sort of sticks in my craw. Thanks for listening! Wishing all of you fishies love and luck!  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 2:40:03 PM | Darlin guys that say that are numb nuts that can't describe themselves.
If they do not reply it simply means they are NOT interested for what ever reason. Who cares??
Wish you the best of luck
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Posted: 10/2/2009 2:40:41 PM | | I've got a line like that at the end of my profile, and I mean it. If someone takes the time to write me a message, I certainly take the time to write one back. I understand that not every person that messages me will be someone I find attractive, physically or otherwise, but if our conversation goes to the point where I enjoy talking to the person, why not add them on msn or something? You can never have too many friends. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 2:42:07 PM | | I don't need a big first message and any message even a Hi I answer with Hi how are you? and usually I perfer questions with messages or I fell they are just being polite and not interested in talking to me. But always willing to make a new friend unless I'm way to busy chatting with girls I like and trying to find a relationship. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 2:46:55 PM |
'if you want to say hi feel free to drop me a line!'. I am wondering, do you really mean that?
Nah.. why would a guy on a dating site want a woman to contact him..  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 2:54:33 PM | People say lots of things they don't really mean. Often as not, it's because they read it somewhere else, and added it to their speech and writing patterns without thinking about it. Kind of like the common greeting "how are you doing?" Almost NO ONE wants you to actually answer that question.
These folks you refer to (and the many women who do it too) simply want to present themselves as being open and approachable TO THE PEOPLE THEY WANT TO MEET. They use the common phrase you mentioned to indicate it.
Just to be a bit picky on their behalf, note that they do NOT add "and I will answer ALL emails cheerfully." | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 3:00:57 PM | | I see no harm in conversing with somebody, even if I'm not interested, what's the harm in getting to know somebody? You never know when a contact could be useful. I've booked photography gigs through people I've met on here. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 3:39:57 PM | a million threads on this topic, though usually it's the guys whining about no return email.
hon, nobody owes you anything on here, and you owe nobody anything. setting aside the fact that 'drop me an email' is a bonehead thing to put in your profile - i mean, what else is a profile for than to prompt someone to send an email? - it's just a fact of life that the rules of conversation here are different than most other places. for the most part, people only respond to those they are interested in. it's ok - you get to play by these rules too. try not to take it personally, because i guarantee you a whole lot worse things are likely to visit you if you hang around awhile. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 3:50:54 PM | Hi guys! (and ladies, too! )... I have often read in numerous profiles a guy say 'if you want to say hi feel free to drop me a line!'. I am wondering, do you really mean that? I mean, I am no grand prize, but I love to make new friends, male and female alike, so when I read 'go ahead and say hi', I often do. About 90% of these end up on my sent list as 'read / deleted'... and that's okay, but I just don't understand why anyone would present themself as being so open to a chat, or accepting of a persons greeting simply for the sake of making a friend, if they don't really mean it. I'm not saying anything ugly about anyone, or if I sound like I am, I apologize... I just think if you only want to interact with a tall, rail thin, gorgeous woman, you should maybe at least hint at that's what you'd prefer and spare those of us in the second row the disapointment of not even getting a 'hi' back... I probably sound self pitying and whining, but I don't mean to... this subject just sort of sticks in my craw. Thanks for listening! Wishing all of you fishies love and luck
Unless the profile also says "...I will respond to all emails...", they have not broken any trust or implied trust as they only stated feel free to email them which is essentially just stating the obvious.
If you are doing something with an expected result, then you are just setting yourself up for allot of disappointment.
Do something because it is something you want to do, see the result as a bonus. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 3:53:49 PM | Sure they mean it, but don't get all cry baby on us because they
only want to interact with a tall, rail thin, gorgeous woman
Or some other thang....
I always pass them up because it is a lazy azz thing to say..David is right. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:01:47 PM |
if you want to say hi feel free to drop me a line!
As a nerd, captain obvious phrases like the above bother me. They're right up there with, "I like to have fun" and "I have a sense of humor". It goes without saying. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:03:31 PM | Thanks to all of ya'll that commented... lots of good insight and advice here. I really appreciate it and am going to just keep on saying 'hi' when the mood strikes and if they don't answer, oh well...and if they do, yay! I might make a new friend... ya'll are great thinkers... thanks again ,
Gypsy
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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:29:26 PM | It's basically a money grab line.
It should really read "If you want to say 'Hi', feel free to drop me a line! If I'm interested, I'll respond but otherwise it's a good ego boost knowing someone is interested in me."
For me these lines at the end of the profiles are just blank filler words. They might as well say 'blah blah blah' because it has about the same meaning. It's a line that states the obvious. It doesn't matter who's profile you come across, unless they have a set restriction that you would be unable to send a message to them, you are welcome to send them a message.
My advice for you is not to put any value on lines like that. If you are interested in someone, message them, whether they have that line or not.
Oh, and P.S. drop the self pitying and whining, be confident in who you are, it'll help a lot. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:37:22 PM |
For me these lines at the end of the profiles are just blank filler words. They might as well say 'blah blah blah' because it has about the same meaning.
Yeah, just like I said in another thread......sounds like the teacher's voice in the
Charlie Brown cartoons............of course a lot of people sound like that.  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:44:05 PM | If you literally mean just saying "Hi", then I wouldn't be very likely to reply, as it isn't much of a conversation starter.
If you followed it with a question or something I could give more than a one word response to, I probably would. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 5:06:34 PM | Ummmmm, not to start a peeing fight here, but nocatchy, did you not see where I specifically addressed that I did not intend to appear self pitying or whiney? I can certainly see where my question might make me appear as such, and I intentionally clarified that it was not my intent to do so. I was asking a question concerning and issue that truly puzzled me and I wanted input on... and I appreciate all of the advice I recieved... it was eye opening and everyone seemed sincere in their opinions and that was a fantasic result of my asking.
Take care,
Gypsy  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 6:58:11 PM | if i say it i mean it
btw op?.............you might not think your a grand prize........but i'd be tickled silly to find you in my cracker-jack box | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 7:07:28 PM | I don't say anything. If you are brave then email me. If not, keep it moving.
I think that most people put that down because they haven't got all day to surf all the pics on the site so if you just so happen to find his profile, then send something before someone snatches him up. *oh, lord* | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 12:31:46 AM | im with "raxarsr" on this...(different worlds i know...but you look pretty appealing)
i love it when a lady is willing to get to know me and dosent judge me outright...i am not what i seem to be acording to many of my friends...i guess my appearence is my own personal wall...sigh...
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Posted: 10/3/2009 12:38:47 AM | | This is a first and foremost a dating site. So whe he says feel free to say hi, he means that not in a friendship sense, but in a "if you are romantically interested, say hi" If he feels the same, he will respond. what did you really expect? | |
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