| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:26:06 PM | "You deserve someone better than me." I only ask because I've heard it more than once. Is it;
a) She has really low self-esteem
b) I failed to help her feel loved and secure
c) I'm not setting the bar high enough
d) She is letting me down easy
I know there is no right answer for every possible relationship or situation so I'm curious if others have said this or heard this themselves and what their thoughts are. Maybe there are some other possible explanations I haven't thought of? | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:30:16 PM | Could be either a or d, depending on her personality, which only you know about.
Now, if you've heard this more than once, chances are that it's d, and time for you to do a little introspection to find out what you're doing that brings your relationships to that point.
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:31:28 PM | My interpretation:
She cares about you but not enough to make a relationship work. You need someone who can love you the way she is not able to... | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:33:25 PM | | I am getting redundant thread removal warnings. If it is redundant, please be kind enough to link to another thread? I looked through a few pages but I can't read them all. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:40:38 PM | | You are not going to find it, but yes you are redundant. So try to revive and old thread that is at least from 2005 and the people are now with five kids and three dogs. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:41:27 PM | | Maybe she breaks up with every guy and never met a nice guy before so instead of having reasons to blame you for the breakup, she has to blame herself. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:44:23 PM |
What does it mean when a woman says... "You deserve someone better than me."
Translation:
"You deserve someone better than me, because I'm a fickle, lying biatch who doesn't really give a shit about you but you made yourself available for me to use. I've also been banging someone else who really makes me wet, which is something YOU just don't do for me."
It's not rocket science. Hope that helps.
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:48:19 PM | Op I have a woman to English decipher dictionary. Does not look good for you.
I would suggest you seriously FISHDO ! Just remember SRDH !
Time to go fishing in another pond, get a new rod!  | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:58:59 PM | d - she is trying to let you down easy. I have used that line for this exact reason. It sounds a lot better than 'WTF?? Are you crazy? Ofcourse you are but I am not interested in you and I wouldn't date you, despite the fact that you are getting $5000 settlement and wish to share it with me. I just ain't interested in you like that!'
Funny thing about that - he used his money to try to get me, and if I would have went for it and then left his ass after he was broke, he would have been calling me a golddigger and said I used him.
Well... I am and I would have. But come on, it's only 5k and I can run through that in a couple of days. And I wouldn't want to put up with him while I'm spending it or after.
And redundant threads aren't that bad if they aren't asking stupid questions like
- are all women shallow?
- do men want women with children?
- why don't hot men want a woman like me?
- how come hot women don't want nice guys?
- can i be divorced and say I'm single?
- why are men so interested in physical attractiveness?
You can start 'redundant' thread and get new opinions and insight because new people come to this board all the time, and many will not read pages and pages of an old thread that dragged on for ages. But they will read a new thread on the same subject. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:59:56 PM | What does it mean when a woman says...
"You deserve someone better than me."
Translation:
"Dear Baby,
Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You!"
But it takes longer to write that, and then you'd spend the rest of your life pouring over maps old and new trying to find this mythical place called Dumspville, completely missing the point that it's over. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:01:00 PM |
Could be either a or d, depending on her personality, which only you know about.
Agree, hard to tell. How does she act? Is she basically blowing you off most of the time or she hanging in the house not wanting to go anywhere with anyone?
BTW, there's a reason these threads are redundant: cuz there's never a sufficient answer.
Best! | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:01:36 PM | All of the above.
I've met many women over the years with low self esteem, who felt they don't deserve any better in a person than how they see themselves.
And yes, some of them are just letting you down easy. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:04:10 PM | | Unfortunately, this is a variation on the theme of "It's not you, it's me", which in plain English means "Someone will want you, but I don't." | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:04:27 PM |
"You deserve someone better than me, because I'm a fickle, lying biatch who doesn't really give a shit about you but you made yourself available for me to use. I've also been banging someone else who really makes me wet, which is something YOU just don't do for me."
Yeah, whatever he said 
Try not to take it too hard because women use this on attractive hot guys too - and boy does that burn them up! They can't figure out how some woman who should feel grateful that they actually bothered to give a little time too has the nerve to turn them down with the same stupid line they use on other women. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:07:42 PM | it probably means she's not that into you and would probably dump you eventually or cheat on you....and she doesnt think you deserve that because she likes you as a friend
i aint no doctologist but thats my theory | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 5:12:25 PM | I guess I might have prefaced it a bit better. The relationship is over so I don't need any alpha males telling me i'm a loser and I've been dumped. Also, you may notice that a, and b are similar with potential cause and effect and c is my thought on how to improve. That might illuminate my personal interpretation of how it all went down. Of course I threw D out there as the "She's just not that into you" factor.
Someone asked about her behavior which did, again, hint towards the a and b. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:31:01 PM |
Wow. Now I think I'm not good enough for me. Thanks Capitano Blaugh.
You're welcome.....
I've heard that line several times as well and my translation, with a couple of variations, is pretty well what it meant each time.
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:32:46 PM | The relationship is over so I don't need any alpha males telling me i'm a loser and I've been dumped. Oh there there now. No need to get defensive sweetheart.
Nobody is calling you a loser. We don't even know you like that. That was just a very BLUNT way of telling what a lotta of women and men may mean when they tell you stuff like that.
Also, you may notice that a, and b are similar with potential cause and effect and c is my thought on how to improve. That might illuminate my personal interpretation of how it all went down. Of course I threw D out there as the "She's just not that into you" factor.
Someone asked about her behavior which did, again, hint towards the a and b. If you already knew her demeanor and what she was like, and what it might have implied when she told you this - then why ask us in the first place? Sounds like you already surmised an answer. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:41:13 PM | I've used this line! It meant I was trying to let him down easy. But I meant it, too. He was a great guy who deserved someone who could care for him in a way I couldn't.
And BTW, it had nothing to do with me not being able to handle a man treating me well, or other cr*p like that. Not all of us like dirtbags and losers. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 6:04:08 PM |
What does it mean when a woman says..."You deserve someone better than me."
Here's what it means to me:
I don't have any real interest in you but instead of telling you that I'd rather suffer bamboo torture than continue dating you, I'll give you this line and let you wonder if there really is something wrong with me. In the mean time, while you sit and ponder if
a) She has really low self-esteem
b) I failed to help her feel loved and secure
c) I'm not setting the bar high enough
d) She is letting me down easy
I'm out and enjoying life and not caring about you | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/4/2009 6:04:27 PM | | Sorry nappykat, I do have my opinion of how it went down but the experience of others might help justify my thought or perhaps give new insight. I'm not trying to be overly sensitive either I guess sometimes I misread people's sarcasm. | |
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