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Posted: 10/5/2009 2:30:44 PM | | Is it wrong to be upset if a man that you are dating goes to a female friend of his. and co-worker asking for advice about your relationship . When the woman don't even know you . I am thinking woman are all very different mean we like some of the same things flower candy. etc etc, . But when they end up fixing them up with a nother female friend do you think . They would give a true answer | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 2:41:20 PM | Why wouldn't someone go to a friend for advice?
Why would it matter if the friend was male or female? | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 3:29:50 PM | Ummmm, you're going to a board full of strangers for advice...  | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 4:28:54 PM | Since I can answer this somewhat easily.
Men goto other women to understand "women".
Since the male of the species generally have no clue to the female mind. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 4:46:28 PM | OP, would you rather he did not care about you nor showed any interest in you to seek advice in your relationship?
What possibly could be the down side in seeking information?
The info might be good or bad. That will be for you him and possibly you to determine.
There is rarely anything wrong with gaining knowledge or insight.
I might be more concerned if you seem to feel threatened by this advice coming from a female. Are you perhaps feeling insecure? That is in itself a different issue. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 4:51:49 PM | Why would it be wrong to ask others for advice, regardless of your relationship with them or their sex...?
Is it wrong for the folks here to ask advice from strangers on the internet?
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Posted: 10/5/2009 5:20:33 PM | "Is it wrong for the folks here to ask advice from strangers on the internet?"
Good analogy. And sometimes we fvck strangers from the Internet, too. Like I said, good analogy... | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 5:23:33 PM |
But when they end up fixing them up with a nother female friend do you think . They would give a true answer OP are you saying this woman fixed your bf up with another woman when he went to her for advice about your relationship? | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 5:24:05 PM | Psst.. OP, you're insecurity is showing.
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Posted: 10/5/2009 5:31:18 PM |
Is it wrong to be upset if a man that you are dating goes to a female friend of his. and co-worker asking for advice about your relationship .
he's a sap dump him.
airing his dirty laundry with a co-worker is pathetic. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 11:18:51 PM | | Why not? I ask guy friends for advice about relationship problems, and I ask strangers on these forums for advice occassionally (as do you apparently.) Sometimes, you just need someone of the opposite sex to enlighten you on the inner workings of their brain. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 12:32:05 AM | I think your post is lacking alot of info, but I have to agree with:
{"Why would it be wrong to ask others for advice, regardless of your relationship with them or their sex...?
Is it wrong for the folks here to ask advice from strangers on the internet?"} | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 1:24:40 AM | | most my best friends are girls. deal | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 6:02:03 AM | i believe it's not wrong for a guy/woman to ask for advise here and there but in the same time it's best that he /she will respect their relatioship ; i believe in beeing open but there are things that it will only concern you and the one involved with you in the reolationship ; the fact that the person giving advise doesnt know you it's irelevant as there is no such thing as perfection, ideal will be that the person giving advise knew both of you , knew what was going on and so on ...but that'a a bit hard if not impossible
a true answer-what's truth ?....in your opinion what's truth ...do u want to go to the lenght were u'll bump into the impossible ....
be relaxed about it because nothing in this life it's certain
plus why would u bother asking yourself if the friend will give a true answer ....why would it matter to you ...and if that bothers u so much just get him to talk to you and see where's the problem ... | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 6:11:24 AM | Don't women go to other women, coworkers etc about their relationships all the time?
not understanding the difference.
what did you do? | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 6:35:10 AM | “Is it wrong to be upset if a man that you are dating goes to a female friend of his. and co-worker asking for advice about your relationship .”
Women tend to have a chronic tendency to share too much with friends and coworkers. Been there so many times with many ex. I always maintained that this was very respectful to me. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 6:36:27 AM | | If she's a good friend of his (not just a co-worker) I'd be OK with it. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 9:34:21 AM | | Hmmm...I'm sorry OP, but I don't see the problem. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 9:37:05 AM | | A friend is a friend. But I am not the type who enjoys other people knowing my business. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 9:52:17 AM | I think this summed it up best!
Ummmm, you're going to a board full of strangers for advice... | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 9:58:43 AM | I agree with most others on this topic - I don't see an issue with him asking a friend for relationship advice.
It does sound like you are being insecure about it, though I am still uncertain if you are saying that this friend/co-worker (assuming that they are one and the same) fixed him up with someone else - which if this is the case, I can see why you would be upset and insecure. Though if you two have been dating for a while and he decides to go out with someone while dating only you (somewhat committed, monogomous relationship) then there is something between the two of you that you both need to work out.
Also, to other poster: I do not see that she is asking for advice - to me it just seems like she is asking for us to help justify her emotional reaction to her plight. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 12:09:57 PM | No, but why did he tell you he went to her for advice? Should have kept his mouth shut  | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 1:03:29 PM | I would actually see it about the same as him going to a male friend of his that doesn't know you. People are going to do that. They're going to look for advice from people who don't know -you-.
However, the female COULD be much better than his male friends, or much worse. Much worse meaning that she's single, she likes him, etc. If not like that, then it's the same or better than him going to his male friends who don't know you. Also, some people who may know you may not like you and be biased, too. :) | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 1:12:20 PM |
Ummmm, you're going to a board full of strangers for advice... | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 8:17:15 PM | | Yea, its okay since he's trying to get a female perspective on how to improve your relationship. | |
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