| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/5/2009 11:13:57 PM | | I met a guy named Jack at a smoke shack at my college and we hit it off fairly well, so most days I would see him after class and we would talk. Eventually it went from friendship at school to hanging out outside of school, he would call me all the time and we would text back and forth. One night he took me to the Macaroni Grill with a coupon and I still don't know whether that was a date. It was nice and everything, until I quit smoking (which is when he claims I became "psycho"). I admit I can be a b*tch when I quit but he would stop talking to me all together. So I left him a message saying that "we need to talk." After not hearing from him for over a month, he calls me up drunk to tell me that when I left the message I had a tone that made him think that I was a psycho, crazy stalker. So yet again I stop talking to him for about 2 months, then he comes up to me while I'm at a bus stop and acts like nothing happened. I confront him and tell him that what he said hurt my feelings and apologized for my behavior if it offended him. He said he would text me sometime, and I thought yeah right. 1 month later he texts me and we start talking again. I leave it up to him whether he calls back or not and I haven't heard from him since. Do you see my dilemma? I like the guy but does he like me? Is this a game or what? | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/5/2009 11:17:02 PM |
Is he in to me or what? No. Not at all.
If he were into you, he'd call you, ask you on a date, take you out, spend time with you, pay you compliments, hold your hand, call you again, take you out again, respect you...
What does he do? Calls every few weeks or months when he's got nothing else going on? | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/5/2009 11:42:53 PM |
I left him a message saying that "we need to talk."
That's where you killed whatever might be brewing between yourself and this guy.
In my opinion, you should permanently rid yourself of that expression. First of all, what gives you the right to decide "WE need to talk"? What are you, the cops, the school principal, his mother? Why didn't you just say, "I want to talk"?
"WE need to talk" is going to put anyone off. Someone once angrily said it to me and I got angry back. I told them, "YOU might need to talk but WE don't need to talk! I have nothing to say!" | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:44:51 AM | | I think that it is all a bit childish aand the two of you probably need to address where things are at. Your saying that he should contact you and your not going to. He thinks that we need to talk means that your going to attack him. If i were you i would contact him and say to him that you like his company and that you would like to have a good friendship/ relationship with him and see if he wants the same and go from there as to how that goes. I feel like the two of you are just making things painful and it needs to end so that even if it goes badly at least the two of you can move on. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 2:07:39 AM | Hi,
He seems to like you on some level, otherwise he wouldn't call at all or be playful with you at the bus stop. However, I agree with some of the prior responses that it seems like a juvenille way to show interest. He may be playing the field and he likes you, but he's not serious about you, in my opinion. Otherwise, as someone earlier mentioned, he would be calling you more often and taking steps to get to know you more. I would recommend continuing to date other people, until someone shows more interest. You can often tell by how much each person reciprocates with one another.
Best wishes! | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 3:45:26 AM | I would say he isn't. But if it is a game, do you really want to play? I'd move on if I were you.
Congrats on giving up smoking, OP! | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 8:43:34 AM | UH, he took you out on a date and used a coupon. You should have disqualified him right then and there. No class.
Then he uses some stupid excuse about your 'tone'? Bull.
He's an idiot, tell him to phuck off.
Beth | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 10:40:48 AM | She doesn't even know if the dinner was a date or not. I go out for dinner or lunch with single guy friends and never consider it a date at all. And yes, sometimes they pay, sometimes I pay, sometimes we pay our own; it's still never a date.
If a guy is genuinely interested, he'll show you. If you even have to ask if he's interested, it means he's not.
Moreover, why worry? Few things are lamer than wondering or worrying whether or not another person likes you. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 11:02:09 AM |
Do you see my dilemma?
No.
Re-read your post. You don't like him. You find his behavior offensive and you don't trust him. I don't understand why you're even thinking about this. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 12:22:29 PM | What dilemma? what is it that you dont understand? It's actually pretty simple , like pouring milk over Coco puffs.
He likes you, he will call you or text you more, if he doesnt like that way, he calls and text's less. Simple. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 12:43:34 PM | | he's not into you hun im sorry to say that he is playing a game. ive been there and am acutally going through it right now. get out before you fall for him more and get hurt more then your going to.. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 2:05:29 PM | | I'm not trying to be a jerkoff, but you know if someone likes you or not, it's not really a dilemma if you make it one, which you are, you are both playing games with each other because that's what you like to do, now I'm not be hurtful I'm trying to be frank, from what i just read, if someone is passionate, truly passionate about something they will do everything in their power to go after it, and there will be no "obstacles" or games. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/6/2009 11:43:16 PM | | I was just trying to get advice about it, I did like him until we both started playing games. I just want him to leave me alone unless he's serious. I think about it because I feel played. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/7/2009 12:38:59 AM | | so its eight months later and you still havent smoked? congrats, drop him in the same fashion. Really, there isnt anything there anyways. After all those months he should have at least come up with a "um gee I think I might kind of like you maybe" indicator. Spend your efforts elsewhere. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:05:39 PM |
I did like him until we both started playing games
The problem is the games.
You need to stop playing games... untill the games stop, you will always loose.
T_M | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:29:45 PM |
"we need to talk."
I know I'm just being a troll and not really adding anything constructive to the conversation, I just want to point out that I love this expression. Ever since ever its been used as one of the last things you say before you have the "break up" talk, or the "you need to change" talk. Its completely awesome. I love to say this to my girl once and awhile, and have her mind racing around until we actually see each other, only to say "I missed you hun, and I needed to tell you that"........ Best thing you can do.... | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:14:14 PM | Men pursue what interests them.
If he isnt pursuing, then he's not interested.
Oh. you are 18. That makes virtually ALL the males in your gene pool little boys with the right to vote. They ARENT men by a long shot. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/13/2009 4:39:50 PM |
Do you see my dilemma?
Not really. He took you on one date, and doesn't put any real effort into talking to you anymore. Don't see where the dilemma is at all. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/14/2009 7:04:44 PM | | I don't think he likes you if it takes him a month to talk or text you. I would suggest you move on and keep your options open with other people. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/15/2009 6:26:55 PM |
Is this a game or what?
No, it's not a game. He wants to be friends and you want more. If you were his friend you'd be OK with his elusive behavior but instead your feelings are getting hurt.
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:31:58 PM | I've had cases like that. I've known women, with whom I believed I had chemistry, but I wasn't sure that other circumstances would be acceptable, so I just acted cool. I always believe, that when a woman likes a man, she makes it easy for him to get to know her. But some women don't do this, and I just play along, and nothing ever becomes of it!
So, that could be one thing. Chemistry doesn't always mean, one or both parties believes there is compatibility or some other deal breaker.
What I can't help notice again and again in these forums, is how interested women are when a guy is aloof and a challenge, and how they run in the other direction when a guy comes on strong! Funny, how that seems to work! It almost seems that women go CRAZY over that which they can't conquer! lol | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:53:41 PM | If you continue you will be this guy's next booty call. Not saying your easy but i am saying he will never treat you with respect.
If he wanted you as anything more he would have shown intrest from the start. | |
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| Is he in to me or what?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:10:14 PM |
I leave it up to him whether he calls back or not and I haven't heard from him since. Do you see my dilemma?
Yeah, your dilemna is that you don't have a mind of your own.
And losers use the psycho tag all the time...avoid them. They are bad news.
Surely you can do better than this wingnut? | |
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