| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:57:55 AM | | I had met someone online - after our first time out she insisted on wanting to tell me about other men pursuing her both online and in her personal life. My position was I'm not interested in knowing - it's not my business nor do I want it to be. I realize there is some underlying purpose for wanting to share this, any thoughts? | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:59:00 AM | | Sounds like she's trying to create a sense of competition. According to all those people who say men want a challenge, that's supposed to make you want her more. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:02:08 AM | | She's letting you know why she will be unavailable. Her other men will be keeping her busy. Don't expect much attention or to mean anything to her. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:22:52 AM | I dunno
Maybe she was just being honest about her intentions regarding dating you and others.
You'd be back with a different complaint if you later found out she'd been dating others and didn't tell you, saying it's not your business. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:23:51 AM |
wanting to tell me about other men pursuing her both online and in her personal life.
Been there...
Had a date that spent most of the evening telling me about all the younger guys she was seeing and/or having sex with.. truly sad part was that it wasn't enough just to tell me.. she had to show me photos of the guys to prove it...
Next. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:31:58 AM | You'd be back with a different complaint if you later found out she'd been dating others and didn't tell you, saying it's not your business.
Are people that naive into thinking they are the only ONE when they first meet someone? If your on here for a day, your communicating with someone. I'm not sure of the relavance compelling someone to lay it all out there. Someone sitting in front of me always has my complete attention. Is it unrealistic to expect the same? | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:38:03 AM | | I guess she may be bragging that a lot of men are going after her and thus her stating that. Obviously she enjoys it or else she wouldn't have made any indications of it. I would say that maybe you should keep your options open. The biggest mistake that someone can do while meeting someone on a first date is thinking they are the one. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:40:41 AM |
Are people that nieve into thinking they are the only ONE when they first meet someone? Yes. People are "nieve" (and also naive) enough to assume they are the only ONE.
Just do a thread search on "dating multiple people" and you'll find 50+ threads with majority stating they ONLY date ONE person at any given time and would never ever EVER date two people. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:48:51 AM |
So your implying that communicating and dating are one in the same?
Communicating is a part of dating. If she made it clear that you're one of many men, she was communicating to you where you stand with her....one among many.
Some men might find this perfectly fine if they're dating multiple women
Some men might find this unacceptable if they're the "one date only" type. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:54:49 AM | | My initial thought is that she's trying to hint at how desirable she is. By informing you of the (seeming) competition, maybe she hopes you'll find her that much more alluring and enticing, since all these other men want her. *shrug* | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:03:47 AM | Was it like a conversational thing where she talked about meeting people from the site? If so it's not personal - if you've only met once, it shouldn't bother you really. If you were dating for a while and more attached I could see not wanting to know.
If I meet guys out, I assume they know I have talked to others, as I know they have, so it doesn't bother me to discuss this. Trying to ignore it would mean I have an ego problem, or it's personal to me, and it really isn't.
However you should be able to talk about the same thing as well - if you mention meeting women from here and she has a problem with it, then it's wrong.
Beyond that, I agree that she may be bragging, letting you know she's wanted by other men or letting you know she's not looking to get serious with you anytime soon (if at all).
I'd ask why she's telling you, honestly - that may be the only way to tell. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:07:02 AM | | simple she is telling you she does not want to be played but she is also insecure...do you like her? if i was you...i would have said ...if this is the case...go after other people and leave...she did not have to telll you this...i do not put all my eggs in one basket...but i do not need to tell anybody what is going on...if i have 10 men or 50 men...drama | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:37:53 AM | The responses so far seem to fall into two camps:
A) She's letting you know you're not in the running;
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B) She's letting you know a date with her is a prize and you should feel lucky.
Either is a possibility, and about as attractive as an untreated goiter.
However, there is a third possibility:
C) She is providing information about her life in the hope that you will return the favor.
In which case, you've made it clear she's barking up the wrong tree. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:35:54 PM | slow down OP
obviously her constant bragging is pissing you off....
just end the sh!t......seriously.....it sounds to me like
she's "trying" to make you jealous.....eh is that really
the way you want to feel in a new dating relationship..
idk that sounds like a complete "turn off" to me........
dump her | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:44:00 PM | I think if you had asked her about her dating style then would be a good time to communicate it to you. Apparently, she initiated in telling you about hers, and I don't know her intentions.....it could be out of being honest with you about her dating style because some men do only want to date one at a time, or to make you desire her more out of competition or challenge. She's the only one that knows her intent towards you, and you could have asked her why she was telling you about it in the first place, rather than just thinking it to yourself.
If you bring it up now, she might think you are asking because of insecurity. Nip it quickly if it happens in any other date so you aren't kept in the dark as to the reason why. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:56:51 PM | | It sounds like she's the type that likes men to compete for her attention. The problem with these types of women is that they will stick around if you put on a good show but once the entertainment is over they move on to their next victim. Why anyone would go on a date and then proceed to tell the person about all the other people they are seeing is beyond me.....she seems a bit boring/simple. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 5:07:34 PM | I've never been a mulitple dater myself, OP, but if the woman in question is? I'd imagine it would suffice for her to simply tell you "Just so you know, I'm also seeing one or two other people". Period. End of sentence.
If she's going into detail about it to you? I'd guess she's posturing, and probably lying her ass off, or trying to make you jealous. Or else she's a simpleton...I mean, really...does anyone REALLY think the person they're on a date with, wants to hear about last night's date with someone else? 
Decide if you can live with it, I guess OP, or else move on. I'd take a pass, but that's just me. Just on the off-chance that I might, indeed, be dating a simpleton. | |
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| What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:30:55 PM | Perhaps she is being honest with the idea she wants YOU to be as well.
I talk about things in general, not detail because I like to be as clear as can be that there is no way I will just see one person at a time. It envokes attachment which I can't really afford.
But I am with people who are open and honest in kind. I don't bother with men who have no interest in being upfront as well. (no offense OP, your choice is valid... perhaps trying to pick someone who is more suitable for you... and don't tell me that you didn't know this about her before meeting, most people show their true colors long before the face to face) | |
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