| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:29:15 PM | I am just curious what people think about this question: Is it ever okay to push, slap, kick or bite someone no matter what that person did - excluding self defense? And is it a sign of control or more violence to come in a relationship?
If it is acceptable to some degree what are those circumstances? | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:32:50 PM | NO , NO, not ever !
And is it a sign of control or more violence to come in a relationship?
Sign ? SIGN?
No, it's not a sign,.............. It's a friggen BILLBOARD ! | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:45:12 PM | I've never hit anyone first...
I've never hit a woman...
I've hit plenty of men... (but as I said, they hit me first...)
There are several men I have regretted NOT hitting....
Anyone who thinks using violence on someone they are in a relationship with has definate issues... and the other person should get out of the relationship at the very first sign of it... and never go back... this is one of those things that ZERO TOLERANCE is the only way to deal with it... | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:49:07 PM | | It's wrong and it's criminal assault. In self-defense the goal is to kill your opponent or get away, whichever you think gives you the best chance at the time. You could disable them and flee, or if you were fearing for your life and not able to judiciously apply force then go all out. In an argument, out of annoyance, even in a rage, touching the other person in any way amounts to assault and is best to avoid unless you want to be beat up, killed, or put in jail. I think it's a lack of control and a sign of immaturity to let your emotions get the best of you to the point of physical contact, and, for that matter, even if you become verbally abusive. Unless you have a problem, as a mature adult you should be able to keep your temper in check and if need be, leave to calm down someplace else. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:54:01 PM | Never. Never. Never. It is an attempt to intimidate and control and the violence will escalate.
RUN, do not walk, from anyone who uses violence or force of any kind (throwing stuff, verbal abuse, etc).
You cannot have the "good" part of this person without the "bad," and the "bad" is dangerous and potentially lethal to you and to anyone you have near you--a friend, sibling, parent, or child. You leave, you don't tell him you are going to leave. You don't tell him where you are going. You don't tell anyone else either; you call them. If they "get it," and you can be 100% positive that they won't tell him, you can perhaps tell them, but be sure.
Women have been killed in courthouses by the men who "love" them. It isn't love. It is a desperate need to have someone to control, someone they own. When you resist/leave, his terror becomes rage. Violence ensues.
I repeat, run. Don't look back, ever. He cannot change without considerable counseling, and your pattern will already have been established.
Did I say, run? | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:18:22 PM | | Other than self defense, absolutely not! And yes, it is a sign. It just going to get worse so get out while you still can. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:19:38 PM | Somewhere along the way, the person who hits, pushes, slaps, kicks or bites someone got their way for a moment by doing this. They then think this works, but it only gets them into worse trouble eventually. The more you listen to their excuses and explanations and let them off the hook "one more time" the more they will use this way of dealing with emotions. It shows immaturity, in that the person doesn't know how else to relate to other people when things get tricky for them, or they learned it from another person who didn't know, but made it seem like it was ok, like a parent.
This person is a loose cannon that can go off at any time, and often at the wrong time. This will only affect your life badly. You will never be able to let down your guard with them around. Because you are the "designated one with the self-control," like a designated driver, you will have all the responsibility and none of the fun. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:35:57 PM | Ive only had one woman attempt to hit me, I wouldn't hit her back dont believe in hitting a woman, mind you Im also a black belt.
If you were to pull a gun and attempt to kill me, thats another story. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:43:10 PM |
Is it ever okay to push, slap, kick or bite
Remember on Seinfeld how she would always shove the guys :)
Knock yourself out.. you can't hurt me | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:44:43 PM | Bored much? Why would you even need to ask such a stupid question? Do you think someone might actually say, "Well, yes it's ok to hit someone if they make you really mad!" Gimme a break.  | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:57:38 PM | | No it's not ever ok. I am curious tho why do you ask? Are you being violent with someone? Is someone violent with you and either of you making excuses for the violence? | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:01:30 PM | Only if your filming a 2009 Version of Moe, Larry and Curly!
Which only one of them would even consider asking this question. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:05:54 PM | I am asking because I pushed someone (NOT PHYSICALLY) too far with a confusing situation in a relationship. He was so angry that he reacted in that way. Also, when he was angry the c-word comes out of his mouth like every other word. I hate that word!
I am not making excuses for him, but I didn't treat him with respect like I should have.
I guess I just wanted to know if being so angry and frustrated is ever an excuse. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:06:36 PM | Is it ever okay to push, slap, kick or bite someone no matter what that person did
well if you must ask then... yes!
some people enjoy that kind of thing... but it has to be discussed first in detail. you have to have complete trust in the person... and do not forget your safe word.
BUT...if you are asking if in a loving relationship... out of anger one of the partners resorts to violence. NO! it is never ok. NO! it is never excusable. NO! it is never acceptable. it is however a very clear sign that the relationship is over, and the time to move on and never look back has come... never doubt if you did the right thing. never even think of forgiving the abuser. | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:07:55 PM |
Is it ever okay to push, slap, kick or bite someone no matter what that person did - excluding self defense?
Why do you ask? | |
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| Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:11:17 PM | | Is it ever acceptable to hit? like you said only in self defense. More than likely if someone beats on you the first time, it's not going to stop because they got away with it from the get go. I've seen abusive relationships and it's almost never any control. I don't know any other circumstances where hitting is cool. | |
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