| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:17:06 PM | There are many threads that talk about men and their financial situations.
What about the women who are broke and jobless?
There are some men I'm sure who won't date these women for many reasons, but some out there will. Would you? Discuss. | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:53:32 AM | In this day in age there is no reason to be broke and jobless - there are jobs out there - you just have to be willing to take them. What most people do is expect jobs that are out of their reach. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and take what you can get - get your foot in the door and work your way up to where you want to be. It's hard for those who have found themselves out of work and needing to go back into the work force - agreed - but sadly you've gotta do what you've gotta do!
So with that said I wouldn't take anyone on in a relationship who didn't have a job or didn't show some initiative to get a job. Life is way too expensive to support another adult! | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:36:55 AM | I agree with Leeanne, there's no reason to be without a job and to be broke. That screams of poor planning.
Far too many people are living paycheque to paycheque and that's not a lifestyle that I would want to revert to... it was ok when I was in my teens and early 20s, but at some point you have to realize that you aren't just working for today, you're working for tomorrow as well.
If you're jobless, your focus should be on job hunting, not dating... | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:11:20 AM | I'm jobless because I'm in school and a parent. I've had a guy not want me cause the "debt" I'll have after I'm done, which doesn't bother me because education is my huge investment in life. I can lose everything, but my education will always save me.
I personally wouldn't date someone jobless, I have myself and a kid to care for, and my loan isn't no 3 digit income lol  | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:16:35 AM | Well I for one will ask everyone a simple question.
Why does someones income decide if their dating material or Not??
If its income that decides if someone is dateable or not then why are all the women hiding from me ?? Hmmm makes you wonder what people actually are looking for .
Is it Money or a sweet Loving Honey ??
As for me its not what you have or Own its the person themselves that catches me . | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:45:50 AM | If its income that decides if someone is dateable or not then why are all the women hiding from me ??
Financially you may be set but,
Its your attitude. Take the time to read over your history of comments. Resentment and negativity towards people has one outcome. It might answer your question regarding why women are hiding from you. | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:54:50 AM |
I'm jobless because I'm in school and a parent. I've had a guy not want me cause the "debt" I'll have after I'm done, which doesn't bother me because education is my huge investment in life.
There are good debts and then there are bad debts. Lisa, you have a good debt.
I don't date girls with bad debts.... that is irresponsible on their part and a liability to me if things got serious. There are many women who are gainfully employed and earning good incomes. Yet, they are up to their ears in debt.
I would sway towards a woman who is employed and responsible. But then again, I've dated the type women I swear I would never date. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2009 4:15:05 PM | Yeah I agree - Lisa - your debt is totaly different because you have a goal - something you are striving for. That's the difference between you and someone sitting back on their lorals expecting to be on the top of the heap and not willing to take a job to fullfill their own needs.
... and it's not about seeking someone based on income - it's about someones selfesteem - balance - fortitude - ability to stand strong on their own feet. Having the ability to be self sufficient and doing what it takes to get by. If someone is not willing to do that for themselves - then I wouldn't be willing to carry them the rest of their life! | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:48:45 PM | Hey old curious !LOL
I am not like so many of you pretending to be what I am not in hopes some woman will email me !LOL
I guess if you lie to women like so many guys do then maybe I would get tons of women chasen me ! LOL Yeah in your F-n dreams .
I say always be real and be who you are and if they don't like you who cares!
But then so many people are very needy and need to be accepted by everyone or they feel like crap!
So big deal I treat all those the same way they treat me !
You get what you ask for from me ! So if you want to play games F -off !
If your being real then cool !
See its okay for women to be broke but its also a double standard as they won't date a guy who's not got lots of cash & he has too have a house too !
LOL
Gotta love canadian females !LOL | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:41:39 AM | | I wouldn't call myself jobless. I think being a Mom is a pretty important job. Plus I just had to change my career goal due to a medical condition recently diagnosed. I went to school for a year and aquired some debt. Now I will have to start over again in another course and aquire some more debt. But the long term goals that I am putting into place will ensure that my children and I have the best future possible with or without a man coming into the picture :) | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/14/2009 11:04:30 AM | I wouldn't date a woman who doesn't have a job.
I don't care what a person does for a living as long as it's an honest days work.
How much money doesn't matter. I'm not lazy and I don't like lazy people.
There are lots of single moms out there and dead beat dads who don't help out. They can't work so we should take care of them... But then again, I don't date women with kids either :) | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 1:55:54 PM | Im doing the school and mom thing too... Im ok with being "poor" for the moment. My bills get paid, I own my car, I have my own place... I just cant always buy whatever I want, my impulse shopping has gone WAY down...lol
I have some bad debt from a lifetime ago that Im working on paying off but the way I see it, at least Im trying and not just ignoring it like a lot of people do. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 2:08:30 PM | See that's another question that I have seen in the past... Just to add. Would you date someone with a huge debt ? This is something that can destroy a relationship in the making.
Anyone looking to make it with someone in the future would rather not walk into a huge debt problem... Cant buy a house or anything with baggage holding you down.
Problems with our Jobs, Debt, and extra members to the famly become a factor... Am I wrong ? This is a deep subject that most keep on the low low. | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/14/2009 6:42:03 PM | | If someone were to aquire a debt - it is thiers alone to pay back! I would never find myself in a position to pay someone elses debt. If they did not appear to be responsible for taking care of their own business - Bye Bye!! | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:10:43 AM | | Taking any job for the sake of having one can have serious reprocussions down the line. When the economy does improve and better jobs open up that may be in your skill set will be tougher to get and employers don't like to see menial jobs when sorting through potential candidates, it makes them think something is wrong with you, kinda like internet dating sites :) If unemployed it is a much better plan to take advantage of retraining programs and upgrade current skills that improve your resume. Taking a job at Wal-Mart, as an example, will not help your resume or future job searches due to the simple fact of the stigma associated with it and good employers will pass you over when sorting which resume's get filed under 'G'. It is simply the cold hearted truth. And let's be honest here, the type of job one has will also determine the ability to find a date, you can dance around that all you want but you can't escape the truth on that one. And it is pretty easy for someone that may be sitting on their high horse with a good job that hasn't been affected by the recession and say they don't see why someone can't find a job, that's called living in a bubble. But, people like to pass judgement on others, makes them feel important. That's ok though, doesn't make them date worthy either :) | |
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Posted: 10/15/2009 9:53:35 AM | i just wana put something out here my friend whos Turing 50 this weekend married her 3erd husband 2 yrs ago their total debt was about 200g combined now this was just credit cards lines of credit stupid debt but 2 yrs later they have everything paid off and just bought a house , they have 2 new trucks and are doing well.. now i know some ppl just keep overspending and are just stupid with money but sometimes there are debts that come with getting in a relationship and i think if both ppl are willing to work together it can get better.
my mom married my dad who had a great job at bell he was the supervisor for the technicians house4 paid new cars boat whole shit locker we went to Florida 3 times a yr and staid weekends in hotels just for fun. she had never had to work and in 20 yrs she was never happy | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/15/2009 2:24:36 PM |
my mom married my dad who had a great job...... house4 paid new cars boat whole shit locker we went to Florida 3 times a yr and staid weekends in hotels just for fun. she had never had to work .......she was never happy
And those type women are usually very miserable in divorce court... they want half of everything and then half of his half plus legal fees.
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Posted: 10/17/2009 4:00:55 AM | | I don't think that whether or not you are broke and jobless should deter anyone from wanting to be with you. I am currently broke and jobless but am not a hobo, do have a little bit of money and can still have a good time. The only time it should be an issue is if you are expecting your significant other to support you when you are broke and jobless; that's not right at all. | |
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| Women Who Are Financially Broke
Posted: 10/17/2009 9:25:04 AM |
I don't think that whether or not you are broke and jobless should deter anyone from wanting to be with you. I am currently broke and jobless but am not a hobo, do have a little bit of money and can still have a good time. The only time it should be an issue is if you are expecting your significant other to support you when you are broke and jobless; that's not right at all
In all fairness, you are a young woman. You have many years ahead of you to reorganize and get things in line.
Women at an older age who have a history of bad credit and poor financial decisions are a liability. They've shown a tendency to disrespect money. When that happens, these type people usually have great excuses (usually emotionally charged) as to the reasons money should be spent rather than be saved.
In all fairness, there are women who are in that situation for reasons beyond their control. However, I would focus on these women's attitude towards spending and what they spend their money on - that indicates a lot about the woman and how she would treat my finances.
Some women respect money; some women expect money | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 11:00:16 AM | | Just because I am as they say between jobs and financially challenged (like most) doesn't mean I am not dateworthy!!! I am extremely upfront open and honest about my situation with potential suitors if and when it comes to that. I am not one of those women who expect the man to pay for everything by any means I believe in total reciprocation in a relationship. I want someone for the size of their heart and not their wallet. I can't believe the comments on here. Eventually things will turn around and for those who shunned me because of my temporary situation I wouldn't classify you as dateworthy. People should be judged for the size of their humanity and not their bank account | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 12:23:14 PM | Posted By: My I on 10/17/2009 12  04 PM Message: In all fairness, there are women who are in that situation for reasons beyond their control.
In all fairness, one of the big contributors to poverty and debt in our society is relationship breakdowns, especially when young to teen children are involved. The cost of child support, splitting assets and retirement funds, maintaining two separate households where there once was one, and legal fees associated with acrimonious separation and divorce agreements are financial anchors that are extremely hard to overcome.
And guess where the victims of such relationship breakdown circumstances end up?
Right here! 
That said, some people are just plain careless with money. If you're already financially strapped yourself whether for good reason or bad, you probably wouldn't do well to hook up with such a person. After all, money may not necessarily be the root of all evil, but it can be a major source of stress in a relationship.
It all comes down to what you are looking for. If you want quality companionship in a partner, that comes down to finding a quality personality that meshes well with your own personality. Last I heard, money doesn't always buy good personality. Lack of money shouldn't be a disqualifier, but being stupidly and habitually careless with money isn't a good qualifier either.
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Posted: 10/17/2009 1:10:34 PM |
In all fairness, one of the big contributors to poverty and debt in our society is relationship breakdowns, especially when young to teen children are involved.
I agree that some women, and women's groups, have forced the courts and politicians to become gender bias. As a result of that, many men have the impression that women aren't as committed to relationships as they once were - hence the infidelity rate has more than doubled with women, since the 70's. I read a stat about one year ago where it claimed cheating wives increased from 23% to 53% since the 70's.
Given that, and the gender bias climate in family court, there is definitely a lot of things a man must consider when entering a relationship.
In my previous post, I was referring to women who had fallen onto hard times because of job loss, abusive relationships, spouses with alcohol/gambling problems, illness etc. There are things a person can't control and thus, get stuck dealing with an issue they shouldn't have to deal with. For those type situations I don't think a person should be judged/deemed unsuitable. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 1:43:27 PM | Comb54..you are so right...
All this "take whatever you can get" politically correct garbage is just that....just how are you supposed to pull yourself up or be out of debt on a minimum wage service sector job. Then again, how can you afford to date on the meagre after-tax leftovers on your minimum wage job ...stop with this bogus hype.... Anyone who is employed in a job paying a good wage is lucky...plain and simple.....you poison your career history with service sector jobs for too long...thats all potential employers see you will ever be capable of.
There are lots of hypocrates on here who had no issues on what a man did for a living as long as we was working...But now...if his employment should support a negative lifestyle of indebtedness...or low standard of living....now all of a sudden he becomes "undateable" or "substandard". We are a money focussed society...stop denying it...stop pretending...nobody is believing all this politically correct hype about being "productive". You care about the indebted lifestyle but not about the job....please give your head-a-shake and finally admitt the job does matter since you want him to have a debt-free lifestyle (you can't pay back a mortgage as a Walmart greeter). Everybody wants a lifestyle...nobody desires to live like a college student cutting out coupons, constantly shopping at the dollar store or taking an extra part-time job (on top of your full time one). This might look hip and trendy in your teens...early twenties...but in your thirties and over the novelty wears off very quickly and there is no nobility or dignity in being poor and broke - and everyone knows that. So lets all agree to that point.
And lastly ...all this mumbo jumbo about ...good debt....what about those folks with a "professional student" history. I have met many professional students working on multiple BA's..Masters or their very own Phd... so 10 years later...they own 80,000 in student loans....yet their only means of paying it all back is slinging beer, cutting subway sandwiches or pouring coffee. And their first wish is Federal student loan forgiveness. All I have to say is...wasn't your master's degree in Greek Mythology supposed to land you a good paying job?
The only good debt is debt inside a 4 figure range...plain and simple...the minute you start going into a 5 figure debt range...that my friends is completely irresponsible...I dont care how good that paper degree looks on your wall. Too many people with GOOD DEBT invested in "artsy" f@rtsy degrees in basket weaving history are suddenly overwhelmed how the current job market finds them virtually unskilled and unemployable. They cry they aren't hired for good paying jobs and cry for debt relief.
For those holding a home mortgage... you made great efforts to prove your reliability to a conservative bank so kudos to you for hanging on in these trying times...
I am very weary of "good debt"... that good debt limits the contributing income potential of that partner and that "good debt" legally becomes half yours when you get married... now how "good" is that.
Women who are financially broke... date and marry rich men...problem solved. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 2:03:25 PM | How can you afford to date/etc .... on a service sector job?
I guess it depends on what activities and standard of living you define as being essential to dating/living/etc.
I know people who live quite contentedly and comfortably on low paying jobs. I also know people who are not satisfied with what they can afford with their much higher-paying jobs. It just a matter of personal expectations. | |
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