| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:05:48 PM | | Ok, so typically i'm not attracted to a lot of guys that are my own race (not that there hasnt been a few...) but usually i like other races. the predicament seems that the only guys lately who are interested in me are black guys. is odd that other races dont share the sameaffinity to me as i have for them? what should do? | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:29:04 PM | | No it's not weird you are not attracted to your own race, actually i commend you for being honest you like what you like., there are lots of people who don't like their own and will not admit it, they mask it by saying "They like Everybody". as far as the race that is your preference, I say hang around them more if you aren't already and maybe you one will dig you. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:29:55 PM |
Ok, so typically i'm not attracted to a lot of guys that are my own race (not that there hasnt been a few...) but usually i like other races. the predicament seems that the only guys lately who are interested in me are black guys. is odd that other races dont share the sameaffinity to me as i have for them? what should do?
Contact guys that interest you.
There is only one race.
The Human Race.
So as long as you stay within those guideline you should be ok. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:36:36 PM | | No problem; you just need to hang out with young men that you do find attractive and be friendly. They'll soon get the message. Everyone is attracted to beautiful intelligent women. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:40:49 PM | | Sounds like you are attracted to individuals regardless of race, since you find men of your own race attractive sometimes. You may have a gift for looking beyond skin color, something to treasure. Keep contacting men who interest you, regardless of race. Good luck! | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:11:14 PM | | Yes it is............you see that quite frequently....I guess the question is why don't you find your own race attractive? You see this a lot with White women who only date Black men, who knows why they are only attracted to Black men but I think the more natural state would be to be attracted to all races...excluding your own race may be indicative of some unresolved emotional or psychological issues..... | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:36:52 PM | I am guessing there are not many phylogenetic taxonomists here to answer your question :)
Stick with the program.
I wouldn't, however, rule out somebody right off the bat because of their race. It all comes down to personality in the long haul.
is odd that other races dont share the sameaffinity to me as i have for them?
It's not odd, it's untrue. There are always exceptions, and just because you've had bad luck with one particular race doesn't mean that entire race is not attracted to you. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:06:00 PM | **ok so for you smart alec...when i say race i still mean human of course...perhaps i will state ethnicity next time for you ;)
-i would agree with the personality thing 100%, i would never write someone off because they are also black, they just arent normally the first ppl who catch my eye
-lastly, psychological i would say no. practical yes, i live in a state where there is less than 5% black. that tends to have a larger influence for my taste in men.
-for the rest of you,i appreciate the postive or even constructive criticism... i needed the feedback | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:03:34 PM |
message the guys who you find attractive.
It's really not any more complicated that this.
IMO, it's not weird at all to be attracted to different races. If the guys that you're interested in aren't approaching you, then you can either sit back & hope OR, you can go after what you want. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:41:19 PM | I'm the same as you OP.
I mean I love white women (always have & always will) but I happen to be physically attracted to black and Asian women the most. It's just a preference.
So your not alone. Maybe open up a little more and send messages to guys of other races. If they reject or don't reply....who cares. Keep looking and you will find someone who see's you as a beautiful woman of whom your attracted to as well.
Good luck!  | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/13/2009 3:23:41 AM | | Not weird at all! Opposites attract! You like what you like and you shouldn't be ashamed of it! Problem might be, that the guys you are interested in, don't know that you are interested in them. Speaking for myself, I think that I would try to approach more Black women if only there were some way to know that they were attracted to me as well. I think it's a "rejection" thing. We are often intimidated by people of other races, because we automatically assume that they won't be interested. So you may just have to go outside of your comfort level and start approaching them first!! Hope this helps and good luck!! | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:21:02 AM | " Stay open minded", and "color blinded" and you will find more interesting men. The color sheild has faded away over time. Last century you would have beeb chastised for you statement - seeking men outside your color. The is some men today think that way. Being old fashion isn't being controlled by others way of thinking,but the proper way you would like to be treated. Go out and be friends with whom ever you enjoy...you'll find your heart soon enough. I have dated all the colors of the rainbow,many differant religions,and found some of the most beautiful women in the world . You are your own person and have the right to see/date/? anyone you choose. It's not "WRONG " by any means. It's only wrong to narrow minded people who want to control others by the way "they think " !
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:42:41 AM | | You will be physically attracted to whoever rocks your boat, be it black, white, green, or purple with yellow polka dots. It don't matter, physical attraction is physical attraction no matter what colour they are Don't let it bother or concern you what race you are attracted to. It is no one else's business but your own. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:00:15 PM | The3Cha, it's not "weird" at all.
When you state that you live in a state that is less than 5% black, it's probably also the case that you grew up, went to school etc. in an environment where you were surrounded by people of (a) different ethnic background(s).
At a certain age human beings tend to "imprint" their internal models of what is and is not attractive, and the people you are surrounded with tends to have a large impact on that.
Also, depending on where your ancestors came from in the U.S., chances are pretty overwhelming that you have plenty of "non-black" ancestors, just as the so-called "non-black" people have 'black' ancestors and so forth. Ethnicity is basically a social construct anyhow. | |
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| Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race?
Posted: 10/13/2009 3:09:33 PM | I don't think it's weird at all. You're attacted to whomever fits your preferences. Take me for example, I'm mixed and I've dated an assortment of ethnicities...my preference? I go ga-ga for tall and pale redheads.
What can you do? Must be the freckles.
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