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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:39:27 AM | Have other 30+ people noticed a rather disturbing trend lately of people being very flakey? That, and inconsistent and even completely unpredictable behavior seems to be something I'm encountering quite a bit lately. I'm very interested to hear what the experiences of other people have been.
When I lived in Michigan, I didn't really encounter this very often. Although I realize I could have simply lucked out, it doesn't feel that way to me. It almost makes me wonder if people in Florida (in general) play by a different set of rules in a sense. I wonder if I'm simply behind the curve, or is this something that happens everywhere and so far I've simply remained unaware somehow?
This question is non-gender specific. Although for my contribution, I can only speak in terms of the women I've communicated with on here, as well as women I got to know in person. I'm noticing a disturbing trend of incongruity when it comes to how someone tells other people they are. Maybe the problem is that the way they describe themselves is more along the lines of an ideal connection with someone.
It feels like a pervasive sense of apathy to me in many ways. It's a very painful thing to contemplate, since I've always thought that apathy itself would eventually prove to be the downfall of the human race. I think the most precious piece of our humanity is that we have the capacity to care. Maybe some areas of the United States have more people hoping to take advantage of you for that reason, but I'd like to think it's worth the risk.
I very recently moved to Florida. The Jupiter area to be specific, but I've made a real effort to get to know people down here since I moved. It's a real challenge to be 30+ and just move to a completely new area where you have no friends. Far from where you lived your entire life up to now. Do we even see other people in the same way online as we would in person?
I personally try to treat anyone that messages me in the same way I would if they were to walk up to me in person and try to start a conversation. I get this feeling as though most people don't do that. That perhaps it's based more on your personal experiences. How much people message you on here, and the way you're treated based on your physical appearance and perhaps even what you happen to be doing in the pictures you share.
Do the other people using this site find that the men and women they communicate with often disappoint? Does the person they describe themselves as being match the impression they gave you from talking with them? | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:05:33 AM | I honestly believe that they are just wanting someone so bad that they will lie to get it. I have had similiar experiences, and I too, try to treat people as I would had I met them in person. I'm not saying that they are not nice people, just makes you wonder what kind of person they can be if they have to lie on a computer about their appearance considering you will be meeting them at one point. Maybe they hope that once you talk to them a while, an emotional relationship will overcome the physical differences.
Good luck! | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:07:33 AM | On some level I can relate. Although Florida is my home of record ~ I spent the last 20+ years living away from 'home'. When I returned (for good).. I felt out of place.. as though I missed a Floridian social movement. Not sure if it's logisitics or the Florida culture. I thought Florida would grow me... been 3+ years and I feel exactly the same.. out of my element.
I think the most precious piece of our humanity is that we have the capacity to care.
^ I agree and believe this portion of the Floridian hand-book was omitted.
It's a real challenge to be 30+ and just move to a completely new area where you have no friends.
^ Sure but it's not the end of the world. I moved every 3 years for most of my adult life thus maintain friendships around the globe.
Do we even see other people in the same way online as we would in person?
^ Authenticity is hard to grasp on the www ~ risky business.
Does the person they describe themselves as being match the impression they gave you from talking with them?
^ For the most part ~ no. It's why I don't participate w/on-line dating any longer. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:15:54 AM | You have several different observations leading to several different questions. I feel that all of your questions can be summed up in a brief paragraph.
People can be anything they want to be online. They can be online, what they wish they were in real life. Most people that date online, do so because they either have busy lives or all else has failed to bring them what they truly want in life. A small percentage of online daters are actually legit. Most men on online dating sites are looking for the quick hook up which screws it up for those of us with real, meaningful intentions. Being that the typical woman that is online has been scarred by online encounters and real life encounters, they are guarded and protect themselves and often have their minds made up before they even try to take the next step. They prepare for failure. If you prepare for it, you will inevitably get it. Online daters often get caught up in the 'matching' or 'chemistry' comparisons the sites offer and they put everything in believing this online prediction. While that should be taken into consideration, sometimes it can be wrong.
One of my past experiences yielded me with a very intelligent woman but she had 2 sides. Not split personalities but she did have an online persona and an offline (home) persona. Her pictures were extremely beautiful, her words precise, and wit that could hang right there with me. Our relationship progressed and we spent a lot of time together. We didn't move in together but we often spent a few days at a time together. What she built up online, and during our dating was tore down by who she was 'normally'. She was nothing like she had led on. Time revealed that she was a slob of sorts. While maintaining that she had goals, and was a certain kind of person, she was trying to be in real life, the person she had become online. Had she just been herself online and offline, she might have had a chance with me. Most men refer to it as the 'bait and switch'.
I have noticed that she is back on this site under a new ID and even changed her age and location to show up in my search results. Unfortunately, you have to weed out the gravel before finding the diamonds and the online community is a gravel quarry but there are a few diamonds strewn throughout. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:11:28 PM | I have an Ex that says one thing and does an other..insist that she is truth full...Even had me convinced I was whacked !
So in desperation went to a councilor..
They said what that is an example of is "Crazy Talk" Some people seem to have it. Just recognize as soon as you can and move on.....(unless you like the diffusion between truth and non truth) | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:32:48 PM | Mate, your problem isn't localised to Florida or even the US. I'm from England and you get the same behaviour here, and I suspect world-wide.
I think the poster above alluded to it, the internet is a great invention, but it's a double-edged sword and brings out the worst in people as well as the best.
Good luck anyway | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 4:14:00 PM | LTL excellent reply!!! Did she realize she did this??? I was dating a guy not too long ago who brought somthing to my attention I did not realize I was doing. I am thankful he was repectful enough to tell me. I am sorry I did not know this before becuase maybe we would still be dating. I can't imagine not being who I am.  | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:42:07 PM |
You have several different observations leading to several different questions. I feel that all of your questions can be summed up in a brief paragraph.
People can be anything they want to be online. They can be online, what they wish they were in real life. Most people that date online, do so because they either have busy lives or all else has failed to bring them what they truly want in life. A small percentage of online daters are actually legit. Most men on online dating sites are looking for the quick hook up which screws it up for those of us with real, meaningful intentions. Being that the typical woman that is online has been scarred by online encounters and real life encounters, they are guarded and protect themselves and often have their minds made up before they even try to take the next step. They prepare for failure. If you prepare for it, you will inevitably get it. Online daters often get caught up in the 'matching' or 'chemistry' comparisons the sites offer and they put everything in believing this online prediction. While that should be taken into consideration, sometimes it can be wrong.
One of my past experiences yielded me with a very intelligent woman but she had 2 sides. Not split personalities but she did have an online persona and an offline (home) persona. Her pictures were extremely beautiful, her words precise, and wit that could hang right there with me. Our relationship progressed and we spent a lot of time together. We didn't move in together but we often spent a few days at a time together. What she built up online, and during our dating was tore down by who she was 'normally'. She was nothing like she had led on. Time revealed that she was a slob of sorts. While maintaining that she had goals, and was a certain kind of person, she was trying to be in real life, the person she had become online. Had she just been herself online and offline, she might have had a chance with me. Most men refer to it as the 'bait and switch'.
I have noticed that she is back on this site under a new ID and even changed her age and location to show up in my search results. Unfortunately, you have to weed out the gravel before finding the diamonds and the online community is a gravel quarry but there are a few diamonds strewn throughout.
Then I suppose we should all hope that people are inclined to pursue a greater level of self-awareness. It can be really hard to see yourself as you truly are. I think the greatest chance any of us has at ever being truly happy though, is to really embrace who you are.
After that, I guess everyone should hope that the person that's uncovered is better than someone only a mother could love. One of the beautiful things about life though, is that we all can change if we want to. Nobody is truly at the mercy of any label put upon you. There's always a choice. I just think a lot of people like to think they don't have one.
If there's one thing I've learned, it's that the easiest choice is usually the least rewarding. I hope I always challenge myself, and find someone that will continue to challenge me. Life is full of people that are complaining constantly about how bored they are. I've found that they almost unequivocally prove to be the very source of their boredom. Figuring that out and taking steps to change it could prove to be truly life altering. ;)
I've met only one woman that was very much like what you're alluding to. I think she still has a picture of herself up from years and years ago. In a blue bikini holding her arms up. I met her in person once at a book store at The Gardens & she really was nothing like what talking to her over the phone and on here made me think she was. She smelled really good, but that's about the best thing I can offer. I'm starting to think the highest praise anyone could add to a person's profile on here would be, "He/she is exactly what his/her profile says he/she is!". ;) | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:58:24 AM | Online or offline, we are still human. We want what is pleasant to the eye no matter what the text says in the profile. I for one know if the matching characteristics are not in place, then the pretty face in the picture will turn to an evil face in my life. Yes, it is online dating and it is the picture that gives the first impression and if it makes me shallow to pursue that pretty face and read her profile then I am a shallow man.
The difference is that once I read the profile, I know if there is a match or if there are walls that cannot be torn down. Others seem to disregard portions of a persons profile in hopes that things can be overcome because 'they are the ONE' that can make that happen. That is compounded by the other end when they look back at the pursuers picture and have a spark, they tend to let those point they feel so strongly for, go dormant. Months go by, maybe even years and then guess what, those dormant feelings spring back to life and the incompatibility tears them apart.
I am a firm believer and sticking to my beliefs and honoring what a woman says. Yes, I am fortunate to have good looks, height, and be in shape and I do think that I am all that but I am the first to recognize that I cannot change the core of a person neither do I have the want to. I want someone who has the same beliefs as myself and things just click naturally and not forced.
The best advice that I could ever give anyone, is to just be yourself now, and from here on out. If you start as a pretended person, your life will eventually fall apart. I am what I am, who I am and to some I am not all that, but to others I am, and to one person whether she is on this site or where ever she may be, I will be that Prince in shining armor. People just need to be themselves, post a recent picture, fill out the body type, be truthful and state what you want and not what you think others want you to say. If more people started relationships in truth, I think that we would not be in the era of the failed relationship. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:30:15 PM | LTL73 makes a lot of great points here! From the first paragraph, "People can be anything they want to be online. They can be online, what they wish they were in real life. Most people that date online, do so because they either have busy lives or all else has failed to bring them what they truly want in life. A small percentage of online daters are actually legit. Most men on online dating sites are looking for the quick hook up which screws it up for those of us with real, meaningful intentions. Being that the typical woman that is online has been scarred by online encounters and real life encounters, they are guarded and protect themselves and often have their minds made up before they even try to take the next step. They prepare for failure. If you prepare for it, you will inevitably get it." and the last one he talks about the need for people to be truthful online and how that could benefit not only online dating, but everyone. I will add to what he is saying here that a lot of women online have ran into married men, men who had girlfriends, men who are players, men who are criminals, men who are stalkers, the guy who thinks he is a nice guy but really is a stalker and/or super clingy, and host of other undesirables. The fact is though if the woman does not know the man is in one of these undesirable categories she will select the guy based on his looks, confidence/masculinity, humor, and a host of other factors of course. Naturally, the women have no way of knowing if the guys are that way or not. Would be nice if Markus the owner of POF could afford a private detective to investigate all the guys and some of the girls for that matter here on POF right? lol That way everyone would know that at least the person is not a criminal, player, married, taken, or whatever.
To the OP: I have been meeting people from the internet since 1997 (off and on) and let me tell one thing that you eventually learn is to LOWER expectations. Which means, if the person is the same exact person in the photos they have posted online then you are doing OK. At least they did not use photos of another person right? Both men and women can build up such HIGH expectations when meeting people from online that it can actually ruin their encounter. A lot of these high expectations can come from Perfectionism in general. DO NOT let perfectionism cloud judgment and raise your expectations to extremely high levels. True it is not healthy to have super low expectations either, but you got to find a realistic medium ground between the two before you meet them. IF you go into the mindset that you are "just meeting a new friend" it will save a lot of heart ache and headaches for that matter. Because it really does not matter what a friend looks like right or who they are cause you are still their friend right? If you keep the meeting a friend mentality you will be more relaxed as well and so should she. However, I understand that this is often easier said than done of course.
If it get's too bad you might try lock and key events, justforlunch, the Ukraine, or several other avenues. :-) good luck! | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/14/2009 2:01:01 PM | | Some have had great luck on here...me...NOT so much. All I have managed to meet so far, except for two men out of state who I met while living somewhere else, have been fake, narcissitic liars. Everything from false profiles, all the way to their personal lives. I do not get it either; men my own age, or damn close to it with ; no job, living off or with mommy and daddy, tons of kids, mean, and just flat out DISHONEST. Yeah, I am looking for a particular type; however, I am honest about it. And for people to lie off hand is somewhat stupid...because I can tell the moment they are walking towards me, they are NOT ATHLETIC as they claim. Like the last guy I met...I mean WTF. He had to be at LEAST 40 + and had used what became clear, older photos. What has pissed me off the most is not so much the condition of the person, as much as the lies. All the e mails, in the past I used to do phone calls; to meet, and be nothing but let down. I am far from perfect; however I do not hide anything about myself. I have been in Florida 7 years now, and it goes on all over the place. Not just here. Dating sites are popular for attracting a lot of people who cannot make it in the real world. But not everyone. I have met some really, REALLY cool people on here via e mails who I would meet in person as friends. And some of them, if they were not out of state, as a possible relationship. I am not looking any longer; because it has gotten to be like a second job that I do not have time for. Half the reason I even thought about a dating site, was I work, I am in College full time, I do not drink, and I really do not go out much and thought MAYBE I would meet people in my same situation. But, it has been JUST the opposite. I also firmly believe there are MANY good people on here. A lot who come into the forums especially. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/14/2009 3:21:02 PM | | Cordial Rule I forgot to add: If you EVER have any doubt how someone looks ask to see them on a webcam BEFORE you meet them. While webcams aren't accurate either you can at least see if they are the same person from their photos and see how accurate or inaccurate the photos are potentially. IF they have a super problem with getting a webcam that will tell you tons as well. FYI: They can get a webcam for $20...... | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/16/2009 11:24:21 PM |
IF they have a super problem with getting a webcam that will tell you tons as well. FYI: They can get a webcam for $20......
And for those of us who have no clue how to hook-up or operate a webcam, who have no other use for a webcam, who just have no desire to use webcams, or have better things to spend that $20 on? Just what does that refusal to get a webcam tell you? | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/17/2009 1:29:01 AM |
And for those of us who have no clue how to hook-up or operate a webcam, who have no other use for a webcam, who just have no desire to use webcams, or have better things to spend that $20 on? Just what does that refusal to get a webcam tell you?
Hooking up a webcam is easy. "plug and play" As for the rest of what you wrote, It will boil down to trying to trust each other.
Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
I'm in Ontario Canada, and its no different then anywhere else (it might even be worse). I have a male perspective on things and it's not pretty. lol But you learn to go on and become a better "judge" of character. Developing a thick skin helps too. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/17/2009 8:17:34 AM | The best advice that I could ever give anyone, is to just be yourself now, and from here on out. If you start as a pretended person, your life will eventually fall apart. I am what I am, who I am and to some I am not all that, but to others I am, and to one person whether she is on this site or where ever she may be, I will be that Prince in shining armor. People just need to be themselves, post a recent picture, fill out the body type, be truthful and state what you want and not what you think others want you to say. If more people started relationships in truth, I think that we would not be in the era of the failed relationship.
 So true!
I believe the flakiness you speak of are the people who can't be honest and or are afraid to tell others the truth even though they are leading people on. 
Oh and about that web cam..................I've only encountered that the majority of men just want you to strip for them...well at least the weeding out process goes quicker for me...wait..I suppose I shouldn't complain then should I ?
Whoops almost forgot the original question..... Flakiness is worldwide baby! | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/21/2009 11:08:56 PM |
Oh and about that web cam..................I've only encountered that the majority of men just want you to strip for them...well at least the weeding out process goes quicker for me...wait..I suppose I shouldn't complain then should I ?
Women do that too. Sometimes I will do it for giggles but I have never (other than jokingly) every asked a woman to do that. And if a woman has a half nude picture, I simply pass them up.
For laughs, you guys might enjoy this. I recently stumbled across a womans profile and she went on and on about how she wanted a meaningful relationship. She is tired of the BS, and guys saying anything to get in her pants. Her profile was actually good and almost impressed me. I looked at her pictures which she had plenty. She was very attractive but I got to one picture that she held the camera just above her head and gave a frontal shot of her body with nothing on the top but her other arm across her chest and some skimpy panties.
I messaged her and told her what a great profile she had and how it was really good right up until the half nude shot. She promptly wrote me back as if she were waiting with her fingers on asdf and jkl' and eager for a response from anyone. She said "I am not here to meat anyone for a relationship, I am done with that. All I want is a companion to have fun with once or twice a week if you know what I mean." She had some more choice words that she used in her feeble attempt to knock me down a notch, LOL yeah I am going to take it to heart right?
Just a real life example of the real person behind the online persona and the 'magic' words to lure in a potential partner, in this case a poor victim. I feel sorry for guys that fall for this womans shenanigans and I know it happens from both genders. My last email back to her before I blocked her was short and sweet. I simply said "For a 39 year old woman, I thought I might be able to have an intelligent and mature conversations. I thought you might be someone of integrity from what your profile says. Just remember, you get what you advertise for, good luck on your ventures."
People are really whacked online. OK, not all people, you guys seem pretty level headed but a lot that I have crossed on this site and others that I blog on, seem to be pretty far out there. I remain hopeful that there is a gem in this quarry of stone but I fear it is buried under too many stones and I cannot dig fast enough.
Good luck to all of you in finding someone. Just be honest from the start. You may notice your replies dwindle but the ones you do get are usually more genuine and something greater is more likely to culminate.
Don't give up,
LTL73 | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:55:45 AM | "Have other 30+ people noticed a rather disturbing trend lately of people being very flakey? That, and inconsistent and even completely unpredictable behavior..."
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Sure - all the time. It's a world wide trend I'm afraid. As I wrote in another thread - the world's become extremely immoral and not many give a s.hit about his neighbour anymore either. It's the illusion that no one's good enough, that there's always someone better right around the corner, etc., that does it. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:07:35 AM | I got to meet several men off this site and I found them to be wonderful, engaging, funny, different ages, attractive in their own ways, so much I wish I could date them all. And I wondered why aren't they all with someone, I think because we women put too much emphasis on the perfect one. Not just women, men also, that our perfect other half will come to perfectly mesh and complete us. Na ah. Life is imperfect and it takes us going through several if not many relationships to realize what what makes us complete on our own so that when we radiate wholeness we attract someone the same. I can merge with just about any personality, laugh, enjoy someones company fully because I see warmth and love in everyone. I have been jaded too many times to count, but I hardly ever bring that over, because how fair is that? Not to myself and not to the next person. So I think we have to take things with a grain a salt. I heard once a woman deflates their experiences and a man inflates his. So believe half of what you hear, dont wear your heart on your sleeve so soon, be open to new experiences as a journey and dont feel like you need to find the ONE right now. If he shows great, if not keep fishing.  | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:01:05 PM |
And I wondered why aren't they all with someone, I think because we women put too much emphasis on the perfect one. Not just women, men also, that our perfect other half will come to perfectly mesh and complete us. Na ah. Life is imperfect and it takes us going through several if not many relationships to realize what what makes us complete on our own so that when we radiate wholeness we attract someone the same.
I somewhat agree with you Sun. I for one am not with someone yet because I simply have not found the right combination. I can narrow what I want down to 13 things that I look for in a woman and a lot of people are the same. We have things we want and have to have and for me it is 13. Too many people find 10 of the 13 things (I am using my 13 as an example, some may have more some may have less) and they settle only to find out later that those 3 things were essential and the relationship deteriorates. DO NOT SETTLE is what I learned and eventually, I will fulfill all 13 of my criteria.
I am not perfect, I know this and I do not want a perfect person. I could not imagine how frustrated I would make a 'perfect woman' if she existed. People need to come to terms with themselves, list out the 'must haves' and the 'can bends' and stick to your guns. I am not in any rush to find the person for me. She will come along sooner or later, maybe here maybe in real life who knows.
I have learned a lot from past relationships, this is true. I agree, you have to know what it takes to complete you before you can add another person to your life. The most important part of a successful relationship, successful career, or successful anything of meaning is knowing yourself. Once you know yourself and stick to your beliefs, the ability to find, recognize, attract, and keep that special person will all fall into place. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:13:06 AM |
And I wondered why aren't they all with someone, I think because we women put too much emphasis on the perfect one.
You Hit the Nail on the Head Right here!
I dont know if it was on here, or another site that I saw something to the effect of:
"A majority of women will pass up a 7 or 8 , just to find the Prince Charming or Perfect 10, then run through the 4's to 6's until they find the 10. When they themselves are usually only a 5's-8's."
The problem lies within the woman stringing along the 7 or 8's, while running around with the 5's or 6's.
And I think the topic was "When is it ok to settle?"
I've dated many different physical types of women, as we all know there Has to be some kind of physical attraction. But the 1 thing they had in common, they could make me smile and feel wanted, even outside the bedroom.
This relates to this thread like this:
If someone is not perfect, does not mean they can be "used", when you yourself are not perfect. And though this applies to both men and women, usually women string along the guy, while trolling for others behind his back.
Pretty much saying one thing, then doing another.
Seen it happen to many times. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:30:59 PM | | Flakey people are definitely not localized. .or maybe they are, because the internet allows someone to be more flakey. I've been on this site for a couple of years, since I came back to California, and have met a variety of men from here. Both were great. .and showed up. But I'm referring to the ones that have emailed me, then I respond, and they never write back. Then you get the ones who you respond to, they don't talk to you for awhile, then try talking to you months later. .as if they never stopped talking to you. I really need to try something else other than this. .if only I could get over being so damn shy. .I tend to clam up and not say much when I find someone attractive. .which was the case with my recent date (on sunday). Haven't heard from him, and he said "talk to you later" which probably meant "This isn't happening again" | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:51:50 AM | There are people who have a distorted view of who they are as individuals. In the early stages of any relationship, it seems most of our information about the other person comes from their image of who they think they are....over time, the conversations about self are lessened and we can start to see someone for who they really are. Sometimes they are one in the same, other times they are opposites. It is what it is though....the internet has done nothing to change this, this is how it was before the internet came into existence.
It takes between 3 and 6 months to really get a feel for who someone else is (depending on amount of time spent with them).
There are the rare people who are "real", who know exactly who they are. They are usually confident enough not to try and please someone else to maintain a relationship with them by being who they want them to be and not who they really are.
Why is everyone in such a hurry to know everything about someone....what is wrong with investing a little time and emotional energy getting to know someone? If it works out, great, if it does not chances are you will have some nice memories to reflect upon. | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:04:23 PM | All I know is its lonley out here, my profile is as real as it gets. I fish and I fish and I fish anyone got some more worms, or one of those fancy lures that sparkle, flash and make noises to attract lol.... IDK my opinion is that its the net people are sketchy and apprehensive. Im getting to where I only log in to read the articles (forums). Id hope that one day I'd log in and see that message from the right person interested in me but i think thats a pipe dream..
Happy fishing folks | |
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| Flakey & inconsistent behavior. Localized or more common than I realize?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:50:41 PM |
If more people did that, people would find the relationships they've wanted all along.
but that would take all the romance out of it.....I don't want to be interviewed
When I used this site for dating, there was no bigger turnoff than the inquisition I was subjected to by some men who I suppose were trying to uncover any "deal breakers" . | |
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