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 aaamm

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:40:30 AM
What would you do if this happened to you?
Inside Todd English's canceled wedding
By BETH LANDMAN
Last Updated: 5:08 PM, October 11, 2009
Posted: 3:31 AM, October 11, 2009
http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/inside_todd_english_canceled_wedding_dCYVs3irQACM2TUAUTFJOI

In February 2008, raven-haired beauty Erica Wang got the surprise of her life. Her boyfriend of two years, swarthy celebrity chef Todd English, whisked her to St. Barts, rented a yacht and led her out onto the bow.
Overlooking the clear, azure sea, English pulled out a 6-carat diamond ring and asked her to be his wife. Wang happily accepted but with a caveat -- she wanted to elope, she said. For her, a big white wedding wasn't important.
But English shook his head.
"Erica," he said, fixing her with his intense brown eyes, "you'll resent me for the rest of your life if you don't let me throw you a big wedding."

Wang, 33, didn't feel like she could argue.
"It was so romantic," she recalled in an exclusive interview with The Post. "I never asked him to marry me because I knew he was the kind of man you can't push. We were having a great time, and I loved him."
Wang isn't exactly feeling the love now. After planning a lavish, $150,000 wedding at The St. Regis last week, the 49-year-old restaurateur jilted Wang -- leaving her to host a party for 150 guests on her own.
He even stiffed her with the final charges for the wedding, she said, forcing her to fork over $12,000.
Now that it's all over, English has cut off her credit cards and is forcing her to move out of their Chelsea apartment at the end of the month, she said. Because she was effectively English's personal assistant, she's also out of a job.
deal with all of this," she said.
... He left me alone to got one last slap in the face -- a $12,000 bill for the remaining cost of the wedding.
"He lied," she said. "He said he'd sent in the last check, but he didn't. I was horrified."
That night, Wang and a girlfriend stayed in her wedding suite at The St. Regis -- the Tiffany Suite, estimated at $1,150 a night -- and soon after reports surfaced that English had been partying in South Beach, where he was photographed with a group of girls.
But Wang said her pain didn't end there. On Thursday, English sent two security guards to their apartment with an inventory list of what belonged to him and what she was allowed to take on her way out, she said.
"They stood there while I packed, to make sure I didn't leave with anything that Todd wanted," she said. "He knows I have nowhere to go. Why not call and ask if I am OK?
"I did everything for him. I was even working for him, but I wouldn't take money. I totally trusted him, stupid me, and he left me with nothing overnight."
Now, as Wang faces a future without a husband, a job and -- for a short while -- a home, she said she is shell-shocked, angry and sad.
But she refuses to feel sorry for herself.
"I'm not upset about not being a wife," Wang insisted.
"I guess it wasn't meant to be. I'm upset at the way it was handled. When I look back, I realize that I asked every single question a woman should have asked. He just avoided details. I've been thinking about it a lot, and I could really be bitter, but I actually still believe in love."
I know I would be seeing a lawyer for unemployment or severance pay and at least the amount of the last bill. What would you do?
 JulietJuliet

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:47:50 AM
Something tells me there is more to this than meets the eye.
Ms Wang is coming across as totally angelic......and the prospective groom.....a villian.
Who goes from wanting to elope to planning a $150,000 wedding?
Ms Wang could have avoided this situation.....she chose not to.
 OnlyThis

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:50:01 AM
If she stills has the 6 carat ring.. that should ease the pain a bit..
 absofreakinlutely

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:05:55 AM

Wang, 33, didn't feel like she could argue.


I'm sure the proposal came with a .57 magnum held to her head. What's wrong with saying "Thanks but no thanks."?

The story does portray her to be the very injured party but there is his side to take into account as well as the truth. If it seems too good to be true is an adage she should have taken to heart.

I'm sure there were many red flags along the way but she couldn't see them due to the brilliant light coming off the rock on her left hand.
 XOthermic

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:16:57 AM
I'd sue his azz.
But there are three sides to every story....
 ~The Rock Man~

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 9:19:14 AM
I'd start packing and start looking for another place to live and another job.
That way my real life problems would be worked out sooner then later.

Sorry if it's not dramatic enough, but it is what it is!
 CassaGo

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 9:27:00 AM
Uh, NY POST article. Not exactly "journalism" at its finest.

Sounds like he was her sugar daddy and she got a little too long in the tooth, to me. She had a good run, now she should suck it up and find another sucker to pay her way through life.

I am not the least bit sorry for this "raven-haired beauty".
 gtomustang

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Control freak, anyone?
Posted: 10/13/2009 9:34:22 AM
hmm, she felt she couldn't argue, that it was soooo romantic. what was romantic, being told that her thoughts about the wedding didn't matter? that she'd "regret" not doing things his way? that she knew she could never "push him"?

There's enough red flags to land an airliner here. for the women who aren't picking up on this....if you ever, EVER want to know the signs of a control freak--re-read this whole thing.

its all there, every part, in black and white. the security guards, avoidance of details that would ruin his dream with reality, et cetera. Any woman who wants a "real man" to handle her responsibilities as an adult, rather than handle them herself and stop playing the princess, can fall right into the situation described above--and pass it off as a fairy tale romance.

manhood ain't about handling a woman's needs like a child's. so, what would one do after a control freak has left them high and dry? the answer's pretty obvious...I hope.
 ItsMargo

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Yeah, right
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:27:47 AM
Well, other stories (some posted before the wedding day) say Wang was violent with English which led to their final break up the week before. According to these stories, Wang went ahead with the "condolence party" on the wedding night with her family and friends because it was paid for. Presumably she called the Post to attend and cover the exclusive story because she is lining up the media for the important stuff... the legal battle.

So, yeah, break ups are an ugly thing... especially the ones played out in the media.
 DeepLuv09

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Yeah, right
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:34:54 AM
She can write a book and make money LOL!

Come on, this is not the whole story.
 daynadaze

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:50:06 AM
What would I do, first I'd cry and act all immature and crazy, then it would hit me...don't shit where you live! and after than big DUH! moment, I'd get my ducks in a row and move on. Who would want to marry this guy after that and who wouldn't feel relieved to have him out of their life? After the initial smack in the face and emotional pain, one can either act rationally or spend their life being bitter.

I'm not sure about the bill, seems to me that she very quickly jumped on the spend-the-money-train, so maybe she is responsible for paying part of it...maybe not....I'd need more info and this whole thing to know if she really got shafted by owing the last 12,000.

But all-in-all, she's no more worse off than anyone else who got dumped right before the wedding, the fact that it involved some celebrity statues and lots of money doesn't make it any different than Susie Nobody getting left at the alter after buying a 100.00 dress on eBay by Charlie Nobody who decided at the last minute that he didn't want to get married after all. Better to be left at the alter than after a few years of marriage, some kids and lots of mortgage, although at the time it may not seem like it.
 aaamm

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:23:42 PM
See I haven't read the other articles, please do quote the sources. But I did read he had a nonlegal wedding a couple months before. I know there is more to this story. Real life is always more interesting than fiction.
 scorpiomover

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/14/2009 4:28:50 AM
I'd wonder why a guy would pay $150,000 for the wedding, then break it off, and then stiff me for only $12,000. That guarantees he's out $138,000. Why would anyone blow $138,000, particularly someone who had worked so hard first as a chef, then as a restauranteur, to earn it in the first place?

I agree with ItsMargo. This is just fodder for the lawyers, for the inevitable legal battle. After all, if they'd married, she would have got half his fortune. So it's very possible that she might fight to keep as much of it as she can. All depends on whether or not she thinks money is important, and many do.

http://www.boston.com/ae/celebrity/more_names/blog/2009/10/english_and_former_fiance_make.html
 Consigliori

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/16/2009 2:33:40 PM
Wierd stuff. If it was a set up it sure was elaborate - and expensive.


If she stills has the 6 carat ring.. that should ease the pain a bit.


Engagement rings are "conditional gifts" - conditional upon fulfillment of a contract: i.e. marriage. No wedding - no transfer of title. I bet she didn't even get that much.
 aaamm

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:04:07 PM
Actually they had a court case where they said that if the guy breaks up with the woman, she gets to keep the ring. If a girl breaks up, she breaks the contract, so he gets the ring.

I thought there would be more in the news about this, but haven't heard anything. I am wondering if they are talking and working out a deal.
 Cebrhocabi

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:55:55 PM
Why would it be in the news? Maybe Entertainment Tonight or TMZ...does anyone know who these people are, or care? I've never heard of them. Are they worthy of anyone's attention? Have they done anything important? Does it matter that the guy dumped the girl? She should hock the ring if she needs some dough.
 Consigliori

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Posted: 10/19/2009 7:21:04 AM

Actually they had a court case where they said that if the guy breaks up with the woman, she gets to keep the ring. If a girl breaks up, she breaks the contract, so he gets the ring.


Do you have that cite? That's a pretty dramatic shift in the law.
 aaamm

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Posted: 10/19/2009 8:49:10 AM
There is a huge thread on here about a break up from last year. It was closed by the mods, but it is pages. You can search it on here, I am not sure what it was called.

But the laws vary state by state, and country by country. In some areas, the law would allow her to keep the ring only in the case that you broke the engagement. In California, it depends on who broke the engagement. If the person who received the ring is the one who is reneging on the engagement, then that person must give back the ring. In New York, North Carolina, Minnesota, Tennessee and other states, engagement rings are conditional gifts that must be returned to the gift giver if the marriage does not take place. Kansas and Montana say a gift, once given, cannot be taken back.
 TOMic bomb

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Posted: 11/14/2009 12:28:10 PM

I know I would be seeing a lawyer for unemployment or severance pay and at least the amount of the last bill. What would you do?


i think if i were her i would be down on my knees every day thanking God in heaven i was able to have (even for a short while) the extreme benefits such as a paid for credit card and all the perks (luxury apts, travel, expensive clothes, parties, notoriety and the finest lifestyle) that came with being this guy's girlfriend.

what would she have gotten if she weren't his GF? none of that. plus she keeps the ring. so i would say she was extremely fortunate. she should be very happy she enjoyed all that at his expense. walk away. no lawyer.
 Tarah0128

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Jilted the day of your wedding, fired, kicked out your house and left with the final bill.
Posted: 11/16/2009 5:52:07 PM
6 carats! Some people have all the luck! She got the best of both worlds ~ staying single and living on easy street

 SaharaM

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Posted: 11/19/2009 11:21:35 AM
Only the two of them will ever know the whole truth about why they broke up.

Funny how the original post says nothing about the relationship; just talks about one sliver of the financial fall-out.

Can't get more gossipy then that.

Something tells me that this woman is not the victim she paints herself to be. Wonder what will happen (or what did happen; can't find anything) with regard to the assault charge against her?
 aaamm

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Posted: 11/20/2009 5:02:55 AM
This story dropped off the face of the earth. I am thinking that she settled out of court when she took the story public. He was a business man that didn't want his reputation tarnished further is my guess.
 SaharaM

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Posted: 11/20/2009 5:08:20 AM
This story dropped off the face of the earth. I am thinking it wasn't a story to begin with. He is a business man who wasn't taken for a ride by some two-bit scheme to go public with lies is my guess.
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