| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 5:49:56 PM | thought about putting this in ask a guy but i figured it would fit in the sex spot better..
im wondering how many people share this trait with me that after cumming it seems like the girl is less attractive, sometimes by a lot sometimes by a little , than she was before.. like being horny actually made her hotter and more tolerable to be around and then after you cum its like who and she's not attractive and actually rather annoying now.. this mainly happens with girls i have dont have feelings for but it even happens with girls that i like and get along quite well with
the only girl i ever thought was just as beautiful before i came as after, was my ex.. and i realize im obviously not 100% over her but damn .. it just seems like no one is ever going to be up to par to her, or something is wrong with me or something, i mean even girls that are really hot just seem .. off putting after i cum..
anyone else have similar experiences? | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:00:59 PM | | damn i wish that was the case with me.. like it was with my ex but thats it.. and i wouldnt say she "radiated beauty" but i felt closer to her for a while.. where as i feel distant from other girls afterwards.. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:15:00 PM | You love flaming people up don't you. Boredom breeds mischief.
*laughs and walks away*
oh PS .. you should try leaving the rose colored glasses on, atleast until she or you have left. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:19:55 PM | Yeah, that refractory phase can hit some guys pretty hard.
But don't worry--a slobbery, sweaty, puffy guy flopped in a heap looking uncomfortable about what he's just done seems less attractive too. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:41:38 PM | .. 
They get annoying on purpose so you'll get the feck out quicker..
> If they're talking too much ~ enough that it actually annoys you afterward or, if they're even moving.. then you're not doing your job right.. sport! ..
That being said, going by your opening post.. you seem to be practising enough so eventully you'll get the hang of it.
Carry on! 
\/\/\/\ Edit to address post below: Dar'ln, If they don't look like the lead actress in a black and white French movie when you're done .. then re-think your strategy. ;0) | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 6:43:22 PM | | confused about the hostility over a simple question but i assume its because im an ass in most of my other postings? at least i got one real response so far. others would be nice. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 6:47:12 PM | Have you ever felt like you were half starved, and even cardboard would probably taste good ? How about the times you've probably had to p*ss like a race horse, and the urgency was unreal ? And an hour later, you don't have the same feeling that you did when you felt like the race horse ?
The urgent feelings that we sometimes have, over ride the other feelings we have...being highly sexually aroused by your lover, will probably take precidence over your previous feelings of being annoyed with your lover, until you get your sexual release.
Sometimes, human nature seems to make us want something badly when we have an extreme need for it, and it makes us act in ways that we normally would not. It doesn't have to be sexual. Of course, no man or woman has EVER gone impulse shopping : )
Sometimes, we think of things that we would never say or do, and that's human nature too.
So ask yourself... do you really need more space than you think that you do when you are in a relationship ? Are you really as into the woman that you are with, as you think you are ? Are there issues that need to be dealt with, when you can see the whole picture ?
After sex, some people like being held, some like being alone. But when all is said and done, you're the only one who can answer what you're feeling in the moment, and whether it's really what you feel. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 6:52:19 PM | I happen to enjoy reading your posts. Some I agree with, sometimes not. I'd say that you're rather mature for your age.
The reason I answered your question is because, in the past, I've had the same experience that you mentioned. And 'ya know, if you have those experiences with a woman too often, the experience is probably trying to tell you something : ) That something is wrong with the relationship.
Do you agree with what I've said in these last 2 replies ? | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:13:59 PM | | i've gone through the samething before, its what happens when you think with your**** i usually run for the shower when i get that feeling. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:25:04 PM | There was a guy like that in the bible....one of king David's son ( i think ).
He lusted after his own sister...forced her to have sex with him.....and afterwards despised her. When his brother found out about it......the brother killed him.
Sorry......you are out of luck......if they get less attractive it's because you have this sympton LOL 
Seriously though....maybe your horniness before you have sex makes you overlook almost every other thing about her that might not all that good. So you bust-a-nut and then the skeletons come out of the closet. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:27:30 PM | yes beach i agree.. idk why i didnt think of that way.. people just want something more when they dont have it. but it wasnt always like that is why it bothers me so much. i guess i just have to find the "right person" that i feel just as good with afterwards as before.. i know its possible..
and what do i say after i cum? no idea really.. usually i am quiet and she is the one that starts conversation. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:41:23 PM | | Can't say I've had that before, bro. Usually, the lady and I are so wrapped up snuggling and adoring each other that there's no notion of me not being happy with her, present in my mind. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:49:20 PM | You seem to be very aware of what you feel, and experience. As you date and have additional sexual relationships, and observations with women, you will have more to compare your previous experiences to. Both emotionally, and physically.
One thing that I've noticed.. a woman's skin feels to me that it's softer after she's climaxed. That's something you can be aware of, and possibly something you can comment on.
Sometimes, you don't have to say a thing afterwards. You can just hold her, or look into her eyes, or both. Sometimes, after you've pleased HER, smiling with her is VERY sexy : )
I am very much into giving my woman pleasure. This much I can say...after sexually giving a woman everything I had, if a woman reached for the remote control immediately afterwards, I'd be insulted. I would also think that she was a detached type of lover, and that would be the last time I saw her. Nervousness is one thing, but lack of tactfulness is another. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:52:45 PM | | I fall in love every time. Or I used to, way back when before the drought. Sex is love and love is sex so when desire is satisfied affection is the result. She'll look her best after. On the other hand, if I don't like her for some reason, nothing she could do would turn me on. I may have some wires crossed. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:01:06 PM | I think that was an honest fair question ... It also bring us ladies into why the next day phone call never comes. I dont think OP should be bullied over this post.. IF ALL men were azzes he would have already understood his feelings. Im sure the same thing has happened both and mens and ladies . Sex with out feelings for the other person isnt as good or intense as having love, and passion is not love.
If this is an issue that bothers you , then just take a few cold shower's until you find the person who you have a spark for....
and btw, ladies do experience something similar.. we get all hot into it with a new partner ... then when we go to feel.. and ummmmm nothing there, kills our mood fast, and the men dont look as attractive as they once did either | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:02:02 PM | You state that you aren't totally over your ex. If your not totally in the moment , immediately after you cum with a new partner, then you might very likely have some unresolved issues with your ex that are holding you back.
You're smart not to ignore these warning signs. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:11:14 PM | A lot of people think they know what they want, and they don't. Add sex, which is like a drug to the mix, and it can get more confusing to some people.
Speaking of drugs; I've heard that a woman's body is flooded with oxycontin when they cum.
25 years ago, I wondered why this particular woman wasn't as into me, as I was into her, the day after we had Calendar Worthy Sex. Turns out, her philosophy was.. sex is sex. Made me feel Sooooo special. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:25:48 PM | That would be oxytocin.
"Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter synthesised by the hypothalamus at the base of the brain and stored in the posterior pituitary, from where it pulses out when required, which is during sexual activity and in childbirth, after which it prompts the desire to nuzzle and protect infants. Oxytocin induces feelings of love and altruism, warmth, calm, bonding, tenderness and togetherness, of satisfaction during bodily contact, sexual arousal and sexual fulfilment. It is during orgasm in both men and women that oxytocin floods through our bloodstream. Oxytocin released by female orgasm helps women lie still for a while afterwards. This increases the likelihood of conception, as well as making it probable that women will seek further coitus because they enjoyed it so much. "
From http://www.sensualism.com/sex/orgasmic.html | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:26:52 PM | Personally OP I think it is because you are sober after sex. Stop picking up skanky hos after you have been drinking and it will solve the problem. | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:42:29 PM | I'll second what I believe "bwana" said in the first answer ....
My experience is quite the opposite. After sex, my lovers seem to radiate beauty.
Ya know what trhe difference is?
DO ya?
If you're just fawking some chick you picked up an hour ago and there is NO real attraction other than seeing her as temporary sperm recepticle for a testosterone spike on your part right after you orgasm you'll be wanting to chew off your arm and make like that flock of birds .... git! NOW!!
If you're IN LOVE the feeling is SO COMPLETELY different. I'd try and describe it but 20 year olds routinely insult us old faarts for thinking we "know" sheet and everybody knows you younguns know it all already so I won't bother.
It IS one reason why some women give up on 20 yr old guys and try and find a lover who won't look at them like a used condom stuck to their shoe 5 minutes after an orgasm.
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:43:42 PM | Thats a natural feeling when your screwing one night stands...
maybe you should hold out on sex until you find a woman you develop feelings for. Someone you want to cuddle with after making love, snuggle up and watch a movie/popcorn, order a pizza or get dressed and run out for a late/early morning snack...
Then do it all over again (and again, and again, and again...) | |
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| after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:56:25 PM |
Thats a natural feeling when your screwing one night stands...
maybe you should hold out on sex until you find a woman you develop feelings for. Someone you want to cuddle with after making love, snuggle up and watch a movie/popcorn, order a pizza or get dressed and run out for a late/early morning snack...
lol that is probably going to be a long long time..
and to the old fart who knows nothing.. i already said i feel that way WITH MY EX....... numbnuts learn to read.
and its not ilke these girls are just random girls or one night stands, one of them is a good friend who i enjoy spending time with but the intimate side still is lacking it seems.. and idk why.. | |
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