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Posted: 10/13/2009 10:25:55 PM | | i met a sweet caring loving guy that i met on here we chatted on here than went to AIM and talked for hours would say hey baby hey sweetie all that mushy stuff !. So we decided to meet and he wanted to take me out for breakfest. So we pull up into non other than Wawa we went in he got coffee redbulls a breakfest sandwhich and other stuff. while getting that he would try and make me fall playfully or crack jokes that im short but never offers to buy me anything. i mean i dont say " buy me this " i think thats rude. so he eats and we decide to go back to my house watch some tv. he starts to kiss me and i kiss him back but he wants to go further and i stop him right then and there. we talk after he leaves he calls me to talk which was nice and after that day we rarely talk or text me no more . WE were suppose to meet that following week but he had to get knee surgary and now his comp is broke isnt on aim but signed on pof not long ago. He use to be so sweet to me b4 we met and now nothing . sorry this is long but what is his intentions? | |
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| what is this guys intentions
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:29:05 PM | | His intentions were to have sex with you that day and disappear. He didn't get sex, so he just did the disappearing part. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 10:36:07 PM | | My rules are for defining a real relationship to occur during the dating process compaired to a FWB or FB relationship is when the guy or girl goes for 2nd and 3rd base before you 2 decissus the relationship interest. And concidering it was only the first date, day you went out and he tries that stuff and on top of that doesn't continue talking to you after is a big red flag indication that the relationship wasn't going to become a serious one with exclusivity and commitment or he would of been allot more patient. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 10:54:32 PM | OP
He didn't get the "goods" that he was looking for. Figures it will take too much effort to get some poon tang. So, he's gone.
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| what is this guys intentions
Posted: 10/13/2009 11:00:02 PM | Ah yes....the old knee surgery and now my computer's broke excuse.
One day in the future you'll be able to just shake your head and laugh. It's part of the learning process. I'm sorry you're going through it. It will make you wiser though. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 11:05:27 PM |
So we decided to meet and he wanted to take me out for breakfest
Was this the actual agreement? Is this what he said?
If so-He's an a$$.Forget him. But here's the rest of the story: During your first date with this obvious charmer....
so he eats and we decide to go back to my house watch some tv
HIS THOUGHTS: 'Hmmm,this chicks seems a little easy,I think I'll get me some of that
sweet p for desert and go home and take a nap'.
You came on a little strong too OP- Then when you didn't deliver the goods and came off looking like a tease....He fled the scene. What did you expect? | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 11:38:59 PM | You were a booty call. You invited him back to your place but didn't put out, so he's moved on
What were you thinkin anyways inviting him, a stranger, back to your place? Are you crazy? | |
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Posted: 10/13/2009 11:58:37 PM | | when i mentioned we went back to my house meaning he was gonna drop me off but asking if he could come up for a little.. i wasent a tease . And yes he did say he would take me out for breakfest.i laugh about it now cause he text me like a week ago said that he had his house to himself and wanted me to sleep over haha wrong! | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:45:56 AM | I believe you answered your own question. You stated that on your first meeting with him the two of you kissed and he wanted to take it further. Obviously he wanted a one night stand. He should have stated in his profile he was seeking intimate encounters and you could mention in yours that you're not looking for that.  | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:56:41 AM |
His intentions were to have sex with you that day and disappear. He didn't get sex, so he just did the disappearing part
Agreed. This has 'hump 'n dump' written all over it.
Just out of curiosity, if he'd have bought you the 'moons over my hammy', would it have helped him score a 'grand slam'? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 1:02:46 AM | I agree with the other responses.
Por curiosidad: You profile says you are not single/not looking. Is this guy your boyfriend? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 1:14:00 AM | wOw, A LOT A NEGATIVE REPLY'S, PEOPLE ARE SO COMPLEX THAT TO THINK YOU CAN DECIPHER WHAT ONE PERSON MOTIVE IS , AND WHEN THERE IS ANOTHER PERSON IN THE MIX IS IMPOSSIBLE, WHAT ARE YOU MOTIVES AND GOALS AND IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE AN INTUITION THAT GUIDES SO MANY PEOPLE THAT HAS "SAVED THE DAY" AGAIN. I BELIEVE THAT UNTIL YOU WALK THROUGH A DOORWAY, THAT DOORWAY WILL STILL BE UNWALKED BY YOU..
ON A PERSONAL NOTE, I RECENTLY WAS DISCHARGED FROM WORK AND NO LONGER SEE A GIRLFRIEND REGULARILY, WE BOTH WERE FELLING SMOTHERED BY OUR RELATIONSHIP BUT SHE HAD THE UTS OR LACK THERE OF TO END IT AND WE DID AND IT WAS PAINFULL AND I LEARNED THAT HONESTY IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY AND THAT FRIENDS ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN MAN EGO RELATED FEELINGS FROM PAST CLSE RELATIONSHIPS. OK I DO LOVE CARL JUNG AND FREUD, BUT TO DISCOVER TOTAL CONSCIENCENESS IS BEING. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 2:47:00 AM | I think he intends to recover from knee surgery, sweet-talk some girl online, meet her for lunch (he's doing the buying *and* the eating), then go back to her place for some no-strings-attached dessert.
If that doesn't work, he'll try again at dinnertime.
If you take nothing else away from this experience, then please understand: "Sweet, caring and loving" do *not* describe a guy who fast-talks you into a date, declines to even buy you a doughnut, then goes silent after failing to hit a homerun in his first at-bat. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 5:33:15 AM | | wait.. he invited you out for breakfast.. but didnt buy you breakfast? erm??? ok red flag right there or am I reading it wrong? | |
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| what is this guys intentions
Posted: 10/14/2009 6:20:37 AM |
what is his intentions?
Seriously?...You don't know what his true intentions are, OR you don't want to believe what he's true intentions are?...Let's recap...
1) Communicates with you ALL the time
2) Asks you to breakfast at WAWA and then doesn't offer you a thing
3) You deny him sex
4) His computer is broke and he can't chat with you, but he can get on POF
You can't really be that naive...Can you?...
..but what do I know?  | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 7:28:23 AM | | ya i try to give people the benefit of the doubt on most occasions.. but even this dude sounds pretty straight forward in that all he wanted was to get some and you said no so he lost interest. i would just stop thinkin about him. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 8:56:18 AM | wow... that dude sounds like a real catch... bullshits about being sweet and caring, telling you exactly what you want to hear to meet... then hogs down his fast food breakfast bought at a 7/11 type gas station in front of you, offering you not even a muffin or donought and then with his sausage and coffee breath starts making out with you... his octopus hands groping all over you and you stop him short... then like a hurt little rejected bunny, he hops away never to be hear from again... on to the next target, sharing his wonderful, sweet, caring charisma...
how did you let a gem like that go? Wow... such a mr right. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 9:09:05 AM | | I think he was after some sex. Since he didnt have the curtiousy to take you out to a diner for breakfast, nor purchased you breakfast items at the Wawa, I find that rather rude and selfish after stating going out for breakfast. He might of been fun to go out with but he doesnt appear to respect your personal space nor making good on what he says. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 2:06:10 PM | | Maybe he got confused by your profile. "Not single/not looking" but looking for Mr. Right. Anyway, he didn't score, that's what he was after and you know it. Be VERY CAREFUL about inviting strangers to your place. I don't want to read about you in the newspaper. | |
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