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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:27:17 AM | Ok, this is not a "poor me, I'm not good enough" post. I think this guy is a freakin moron.
I messaged a guy on here a few days ago with no response. And since I am a fairly agressive lady, I messaged again, with a "don't be shy" tone. He messaged me back with:
No, not shy, just shallow I guess
I like girl who are skinny and athletic
not average and chubby
WTF. I'm not lookin for people to check out my profile, trust me I get enough attention on here, but have you seen my pics?? I'm about as athletic as they come, short of a body builder!!
What is with these kinda guys??? What is the obsession with very thin women??? I am by no means over weight and out of shape, I'm a girl with curves. Is ot and age thing or what?? Is it an insecurity thing on mens part? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:30:43 AM | He probably knew this was the most effective way of getting rid of you.
A guy who wants to get rid of you will say you are 1.) fat 2.) easy looking or easy.
Who cares what he thinks? Seems like this upset you so much over something you might be insecure about. If he wants a twig... let him have one. There are MUCH more men who prefer curves, its even hard wired into their biology to look for a high hip to waist ratio. So keep up the first contacts but also... take no for no!
I'm concerned that you didn't heed the fact he had no interest in talking with you, though. Indeed, after one message that was not replied to... leave it be. You are harassing him if you keep messaging and expect the nasty messages. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:33:56 AM | Beats me, I find you quite attractive. It does seem that regional differences play a role in what is considered "thin" versus "average", etc. An "average" sized girl in anything other than the metropolitan region of Michigan, for instance, generally is considered "a few extra pounds" almost anywhere else.
Maybe the guy you've encountered likes his girls anorexic so he can save on meal costs when out on dates.
Always remember, people for the most part, have ridiculous expectations, priorities that will often lead them to the exact location they'd rather not go, and, overall, an immense level of stupidity they're utterly blind to on their own. Consider him a part of that group. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:34:05 AM | The guy has the right to like whomever he wants.
Maybe you shouldn't pry so hard for a response if you're not willing to accept their answer?
And exactly how is him not being attracted to your body type a possible "insecurity thing?" I don't follow your thought process. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:35:56 AM | Yeah, when someone doesn't reply it's best to let it go. That's true for men and women both.
And you might be athletic, but you can't really tell that from the pictures you have posted (not saying it looks like you AREN'T either, just that you can't see enough to tell). You can tell from your pictures that you're not particularly skinny though, which is obviously this guy's thing. I'm skinny and I've been dumped by guys who prefer curvier women. Preferences are just part of life, no point hating on people whose bodies are different from your own or trying to convince everyone that they should like yours. | |
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| Skinny- athletic Vs. Average- chubby
Posted: 10/14/2009 11:38:55 AM | athletic ? where ? in chubbyville ?
you don't look athletic to me either .... average at best...
or maybe my (and his) idea of athletic is different than yours.....  | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:39:17 AM | It's not an insecurity, it's a preference. Lots of men (including myself) have this preference. It's a little insurance against the future ballooning that occurs to most women.
He likes thin - atheletic women. Big deal.
There is no full body picture on your profile. I would have guessed that you were an average to slightly chubby woman myself. Nothing wrong with that, you are still gorgeous, just not his type.
You mailed him.
He's not interested.
You mail him again.
Now he's forced to tell you why he's not interested.
Does there have to be something wrong with a guy who's not interested in you? That's a little presumptious. | |
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| Skinny- athletic Vs. Average- chubby
Posted: 10/14/2009 11:39:43 AM | wow op, he really touched a nerve, didn't he? a little concerned with body image, are you? you're on here so offended, making big claims about your fitness, trumpeting your photos. but your case is weak. you've chosen photos that do not show your hips, let alone your full body. this is a common tactic among 'average and chubby' women, or worse.
quit b|tching. you're abusing this forum. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:47:28 AM |
but have you seen my pics?? I'm about as athletic as they come, short of a body builder!!
Yes, I've seen your pics and quite frankly, I can't tell what your body type is! One, clear, FULL BODY picture is your best friend. Everyone's perception of "athletic" is different and from what little I can see of your body, it doesn't qualify. Now, don't go getting all b!tchy and ragging at me - this is just MY opinion and you DID ask for opinions. I reiterate: One, clear, FULL BODY picture is your best friend.
I also have to say, the fact that you sent him a 2nd message without him responding to your 1st one, speaks volumes about your character and you probably deserved to reply you got. He didn't respond and figured that you'd get the message that he wasn't interested, for whatever reason. When he got your 2nd message, he was left no choice but to spell it out for you. So Sweetheart, you kinda set yourself up for disappointment. You really have no one to blame but yourself.
Is ot and age thing or what?? Is it an insecurity thing on mens part?
NEWS FLASH: You aren't his type! You aren't a LOT of men's type, but that doesn't mean that you aren't attractive to a lot of OTHER men.
So, suck it up, put a full body picture on your profile, stop b!tching about a man being completely honest with you, and MOVE ON.
EDIT:
Besides,everyone here knows that if you were a bubble gum you'd be babe-o-licious.
Umm yeah, I don't know if I'd go that far. I mean, he's not an idiot or bad guy just because he's not attracted to her - which is what you seem to be implying... | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:48:25 AM | What is with these kinda guys???
I'm gonna go out on a limb here: Maybe he thinks you're chubby. From your pics it's hard to tell, and perhaps his imagination is filling in the details.
What is the obsession with very thin women???
People like what they like. Who cares what this particular guy thinks? He's a total stranger who is not interested in you. So why does it matter? You need to develop a thicker skin. There are a lot of guys in this big bad world who are never going to be interested in you and have opinions about you that you don't like. That's life.
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:49:13 AM | Rhetoric is easily misconstrued in text form. Maybe he took your "Don't be shy" as a serious accusation, or perhaps he was teasing you in his reply. He could have been testing you personality to see if you'd react harshly, deliver a cleverly pointed reply, or run away.
How is the aggressive approach working out for you? IMO, men appreciate having to work somewhat to get the girl (not too easy or too difficult, but work nonetheless). | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:50:52 AM | Well he said himself he was shallow - guess he's right. Better off without him I would say.
You look plenty athletic to me. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:57:42 AM | If you have a doubt about your body description, post your clothing size. Me, I wear a 40 jacket with a 33-34 waist , that puts me in the athletic category. Actually it's all size to height dependent. A size 8-10 on someone under 5'5" makes them "A few extra pounds" in the dating world, where as anyone over 5' 6" is average to awesome in my book.
I don't care for real "Skinny" women.
The best thing to do is to post a couple of "full body" shots. Women can get away with showing themselves in a 2 piece, most guys get their pics dropped if they're shown without a shirt. If the guys want to show off their abs then put on a "wife beater" and pull it up. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 11:59:37 AM | That's funny. That's really funny.
Now imagine that same rejection 10-20 times before you even get a response and you now have the average guy. | |
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| Skinny- athletic Vs. Average- chubby
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:00:08 PM |
WTF. I'm not lookin for people to check out my profile, trust me I get enough attention on here, but have you seen my pics?? I'm about as athletic as they come, short of a body builder!!
OMFG! You mean you got rejected?...How dare him!...Apparently he didn't know who you were...
...but what do I know? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:02:17 PM | He wasn't interested thats for sure but still,he could have been a little more tackfull in the way he siad it.A gentalman never says things that can bruse or hurt a womens ego when tell her "no" or not" interested".
Besides,everyone here knows that if you were a bubble gum you'd be babe-o-licious. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:15:47 PM | Guys are usually the ones who send follow up messages along the lines of "why aren't you contacting me back?" and "you don't know what you're missing!" You know what, they have about 0.0001% success rate. Big surprise it didn't work for you.
I've hidden my profile because I'm dating someone at the moment. When it's not hidden, I have pictures that show me head to toe, from a straight on angle. It's important.
When I've been messaged in the past, I look for the following in the pictures, or I won't respond (these aren't always deal breakers, I am flexible to an extent):
1. One picture of her face, preferably smiling (no one likes a negative nelly).
2. One whole body picture, just so I can see her shape. I like many different body types, but I need to be able to form an attraction, just the face isn't enough.
3. No "from above" pictures. This usually means she's hiding something (chubby midriff), or doing the classic overweight woman trick of showing no body parts but cleavage.
4. No "swimsuit" photos unless she's out doing something. I love a good body, but not a conceited attitude. Posing in a swimsuit or lingere for the camera is not my cup of tea.
Am I picky? Yes, probably. But, I've met up with more than one woman on this site who's pictures and profile drew me in, only to find out 10 minutes into meeting her in person that there was no chemistry.
Good luck!
BTW, you are quite attractive, and if I was lucky enough to get a message from you, I would probably respond. | |
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| Skinny- athletic Vs. Average- chubby
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:23:53 PM | If you are "athletic" Your pictures don't look like it.
Put some pictures of the muscles up if that is what you are claiming to be.
short of a body builder!!
You don't message someone who doesn't respond and expect him to suddenly find you attractive because you want them to.
He has just as much right to not want you as you do not to want someone else.
Your words are misleading..curves or athletic..which is it? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:35:28 PM | You're adorable. but I wouldn't call you chubby...but athletic may be pushing it though. But it's VERY hard to tell from your pics. The pic of you in the black shirt, actually makes you look big. It makes your head look tiny on your body. I'm the opposite, I have a big head. Airplanes have to set their flight plans when I take my dogs out for a walk. It sucks, but what ya gonna do?
It's so funny as the guys on here always say they want a full length pic. I took mine down and have no problems getting men to write me. I've even put I'm not here to date and men still want to date me. I give good face.  Oh yeah and I'm actually interesting. 
Anyway, good luck to you and don't sweat the nasty emails. Be careful what you ask for cause you might get the truth! | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:38:55 PM | Athletic or Average, … whatever you want to think, however your pics are the typical type pics a woman takes when she is hiding her true body shape, side shots, face shots, and no full body shot.
This guy may have been burned in the past and has caught on to these tricks. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 12:40:01 PM | Mademoiselle, your frustration is understandable but we, humans, are tricky. We've have weird fetishes and thoughts that would disturb others but they seem natural to us. Think of BTK, to him his way of life was normal but freaks the hell out of you and me. And besides men and women come in all sizes and shapes. There are no rules dictating who will fall for who. My aunt is 5'11 and she fell in love with a guy who is 5'5. To each his own, mademoiselle.
p.s. The men and women in this thread unequivocally find you attractive. And that should speak volumes. | |
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