| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 12:54:11 AM | What makes a woman bad in the sack?
Is it possible to be truly bad?
Dressing up
Giving good oral sex
Moving around a lot
Being appreciative during
That's generally all good right?
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:08:38 AM | | faking it makes it really bad :) | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:12:58 AM | Ah but RPM can you really tell?
NO one has caught me out yet! 
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:15:49 AM | A mans ego is also rather fragile. ;-)
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:20:47 AM | Ha ha, Noo.. Well suffice to say I do enjoy it, within a relaitonship, so im not faking the enjoyment, its just I don't EVER get to the top of the mountain.
But that doesnt make me bad in bed I guess, more unlucky! | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:31:31 AM | | Perhaps it is not you that is 'bad in the sack', but your partner. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 1:45:07 AM | well for me i can usually tell when a girl is actually having an orgasm cause she clenches those muscles down there.. but its different for every girl.. some you can feel it very clearly and others its pretty hard to notice..
but anyway what makes a girl bad? just not being open to doing different things, or not wanting to put any effort into it.. my ex hated being on top and i love it when a girl is on top lol so that kind of sucked. didnt make her bad in bed at all but it wouldve been nice. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:48:31 AM | No ive had a few partners now, its not them its me, I didnt get the gift :-(
Greencarrot, women are often shy of going on top because it exposes everything, and they feel subconcious. It takes a a woman with a degree of confidence, to ride her man.
P.s you are sexy.
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 3:44:40 AM | I think what makes someone bad in the sack, is a lack of enthusiasm.
I honestly want to see, hear and know that they are enjoying themselves, and I want playfulness.... some people are so bloody serious... you'd think it was brain surgery.
Its nice if they move too. hate a person who just lays on their back and puts their hands behind their head.. WTF is that??
theres a joke about a guy having sex with his wife, she moves, and he thought he'd hurt her....... | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:01:37 AM | As a guy that does put woman bfore myself....it would be very hard for you to fool me with a bogus climax....lol....im no big head but know very well how to treat woman and pride myself not only on the physical but the mental which is VERY important to not only woman but men also..... | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:18:10 AM | A bad lover is one who doesn't communicate their needs in bed.
Faking it will never get you to the "top of the mountain"
Why in the world would anyone want to mislead their partner into believing
what they were doing was working for you.
You do nothing but doom yourself into lack luster sex for the rest of the relationship.
If you're grown up enough to have sex.......you're grown up enough to communicate and teach your partner your needs. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:38:49 AM |
Dressing up
Giving good oral sex
Moving around a lot
Being appreciative during
Geesh, yeah that's all good, but if it's a check list of what to do, it's probably going to be transparent with a lover,but not necessarily so if you're just getting fvcked.
I can't remember ever having to consciously check off the right moves, that would kind of make it like following a "To Do List". Spontaneity, that's the answer. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:44:36 AM | Your thoughts being one way or another will make the difference. Sex is automatically good unless your thinking about it ruins it. Think happy thoughts, if any.
If you could record what you were thinking before during and after sex you would see exactly how your thoughts were perpetuating the badness. You are literally talking yourself out of a good time. But you're unaware of your thoughts as such and so all you can go by is the result, which is unsatisfying.
When people enjoy sex they have somehow made the necessary mental environment for their minds to not ruin the experience. That usually happens by repeating what worked, or by suspending their control and going mindlessly ahead.
What makes sex bad for anyone is when they are not doing what feels good sexually. To have the sexual feelings and enjoy them is pretty easy. If you can feel good alone masturbating, then when you have sex with someone else, just don't do things that don't feel good, or think thoughts that stop you from enjoying sex.
If in doubt, ignore everything but whichever one good feeling you can have, and go with that feeling and see where it leads. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:51:44 AM | Yes, it's possible to be bad. And whether your partner calls you on it or not, faking is on the list as is not wanting to accommodate reasonable requests like being on top.
Other things:
- Talking too much (not dirty, but the distracting kind)
- Answering your cell phone during sex
- Laying there like a dead fish OR moving around too much
- Stopping right before or during orgasm (come on, you can do it five more seconds)
- Asking whether your ass looks fat in that dress (no sex for 24h) | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:23:42 AM | I dont fake it, I never said I did, at least not seriously anyway.
I was refering to not being able to, but never mind.
And this wasnt an Am i bad in bed question, because I know im amazing!! I have no hang ups, or insecurities there.
Im wondering what is classed as bad in bed, totally off the back of another thread I read.
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:42:39 AM |
I think what makes someone bad in the sack, is a lack of enthusiasm.
Indubitably!! I don't give style points, so unless you can do a triple axel and finish by impaling your pvssy on my axis, you're going in the wrong direction by compiling some must-do moves for a compulsory event. Think freestyle! 
I honestly want to see, hear and know that they are enjoying themselves, and I want playfulness.... some people are so bloody serious... you'd think it was brain surgery.
Always wondered why the participants are frowning while linked at the hips. For ^^^ lady, I'd be wearing one of those Chesire cat full-face grins, and nothing else! Lol
Its nice if they move too. hate a person who just lays on their back and puts their hands behind their head.. WTF is that??
theres a joke about a guy having sex with his wife, she moves, and he thought he'd hurt her.......
Lol. Yeah, or you can tell when she cums because she drops her nail file.
OP, I've found that almost everyone, from ages 4-forever, pretty much respond/behave the way you treat them, and that seems to be true whether it's sex or whatever else you two, or more, are doing. You want the world's greatest sex? Approach him, treat him as the world's greatest lover, and his response is probably gonna take your breath away.
Yeah, Yoda told me that.  But it's not just a jedi mind trick. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 7:12:06 AM | | Someone who doesn't enjoy having sex. THAT is bad in bed. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 8:31:42 AM |
Is it possible to be truly bad?
Yes, yes it is possible and Shell225 nailed it with this
I think what makes someone bad in the sack, is a lack of enthusiasm....Its nice if they move too. hate a person who just lays on their back
One of the most beautiful woman I have ever been with was also the worst in bed. She would just lay there, barely moving, never making a sound. She gave absolutely no feedback to what was going on so I had no idea if she was enjoying it or just tolerating it. Made for awful sex. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 8:55:37 AM | If she has to tell you about a comment that her Male boss said to her at the copier machine, that is bad.
If she never moves but comments that you need paint the walls a different color, she is bad.
If she ask you if you are done yet, she is bad.
If she starts texting her friends while you are going at it, she is bad.
If while entering from behind, she tells you not to go to hard because she can't write on the cross word puzzle, she is bad.
But then again, this may mean that you suck not her.
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 8:58:16 AM | | I agree with you bluesandrock, that is undoubtedly the worst sexual experience, is when a partner shows no indication of enjoying the moment, no movement, no sounds, just laying there and giving you no idea whether she is feeling anything of the pleasure you are trying so hard to give her! It is really a "deflating" situation! One woman like this was so hot until we got in bed, then turned so incredibly cold, like someone had hit a light switch. She acted like she did not want to touch me... I could tell she was turned on and said she wanted to continue, she seemed to enjoy the 4-play and became quite aroused, but laid on her back, arms at her side, and just seemed to want our sexual encounter to be over as soon as possible. Needless to say, that relationship went nowhere! That is definitely a type of partner that is bad in the sack! | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 12:03:46 PM | | A friend of mine, who was sleeping with her boyfriend in high school, once told me, "always keep your hands moving." I have remembered that because as Shell said above, I think it indicates an enthusiasm for the experience. HAVE to be enthusiastic. I can understand what guys say about f**king a dead fish. To be considered "good" I think would require going down on him, willing to touch, touch, taste, taste everything, be at least somewhat vocal, to feel and show that you want to gobble him up, be so into it you could just die from the pleasure and show that. Enjoy him going down on you. Role play or something if you have to in the head, anything that would get them into the moment with you. Not all the bells and whistles necessarily, just really INTO it--Geez, , it is so good without bells and whistles. Sometimes I think that's all you poor saps want is a reciprocal ummmh, ummmh, good experience-want to feel like it is good to their partner too, that is a huge turn-one. Otherwise, what's the point? That is what I would think would be a good lay. Gotta go, BOB is calling stat ;-)! | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 12:19:34 PM |
What makes a woman bad in the sack?
For me, and not in any particular order, it's:
1) Super hairy snatch
2) Bad smelling snatch
3) TOO much teeth when giving oral
4) Doesn't like to finish orally
5) Grips the rod WAY TOO tight
6) Constantly screaming like I'm killing them...I know I'm endowed but take it like a big girl (this is mainly why I like chubby or thick girls)
7) Drying up before I get off | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 12:36:19 PM | ^^^^^^
Message too short....................................................................... | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:15:16 PM | 2run,
Do mean getting up and going to the bathroom for her to wipe up after some intense foreplay and her lubricationb so it will feel tighter? Just wondering, here to learn. I say positive on the rest of your list. | |
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