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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:00:37 AM | I don't want to post my pic on here for all the world to see. When I talk to someone and they want a pic, I send them one and then no response. I'm told I am an attractive person, beauty is in the eye of the beholder....why can't they be honest and tell you that they aren't interested instead of saying nothing??? | |
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| no pic...send one ..no response
Posted: 10/16/2009 9:08:06 AM | The pics you send aren't flattering.
If you have it on good authority that you're attractive, yet every time you send a pic you get dropped.....clearly you need new pics.
It's not rocket science. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:09:52 AM | Two possible reasons:
1) Because they are rude, cowardly jerks who would rather leave you wondering than take the trouble to tell you they don't find you attractive.
2) They are voyeurs who just wanted your picture. There are more men like that online than you might think. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:10:36 AM | "I don't want to post my pic on here for all the world to see. "
You are on a free online dating site. If you put your picture on your profile then people will see what you look like and then give them the opportunity to contact you if they so wish.
" I'm told I am an attractive person"
You have to remember that what is attractive to one person is ugly to the next person. If people are not responding back to you after you have sent them a picture is because in their eyes they don't find you physically attractive.
Put you picture up on your profile and be done with it and quit complaining.
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:12:39 AM | You want them to be shallow and say. "From your picture I can tell you aren't interesting?" or be shallow and not say anything?
Yea, don''t take it seriously.
oooh maybe they are just adding to their online contact picture collection.
Kinda like stamp collecting. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:13:44 AM | | No reply means "not interested".They don't owe you an explanation. Do you feel the need to explain yourself to strangers on the street ? Same thing here. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:16:17 AM |
why can't they be honest and tell you that they aren't interested instead of saying nothing
if you're as good-looking as you think you are, put some photos up. in about two hours you'll have your answer. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:16:45 AM |
why can't they be honest and tell you that they aren't interested instead of saying nothing??
Seriously?? You want to be told: "sorry, but I simply don't find you attractive"? I would think that no response is a pretty clear indication that they, for whatever reason, aren't interested.
I have to say, you're going to continue to have problems until you put a picture on your profile. Personally, when doing a search I don't even look at profiles without pictures and MANY men get suspicious when there are no pictures. For instance: is she married or otherwise attached? Is she unattractive? Paranoid? Hiding from an ex? Etc., etc.? There's just this stigma surrounding women (and I assume men) who don't post pictures and TRUST ME, we've all heard the lame excuses for not doing so - even the one in your initial post! Add to that the fact that your profile is incredibly sparse & full of cliches' and you're making things VERY difficult for yourself.
I do give you credit for at least sending a picture. 9 times out of 10 when I get an initial email from a woman w/no picture and I respond requesting one, they never send one. Again, kind of confirming the whole "need to be suspicious" part.
The bottom line is that in online dating, you get out of it what you put into it and frankly, you aren't putting very much into it.
Good luck. You're going to need it! | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:23:20 AM | Post pictures on your profile.
Seriously. It'll help, 'cause it'll weed out all the people that aren't interested and reel in the ones that are. Are you a convict or something? Are you troll ugly? Well, you say you're attractive, but you're on a dating website, ma'am. Pic up or shut up. ;) | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:45:18 AM | OP... Welcome to POF..
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I guess on the picture thing, you have everyright to feel the way you do, and well on the other hand this is the internet. It is your job to sell ones' self. Via profile and pictures in saying that if you send a picture and they quit communicating they ARE TELLING YOU...
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and well I don't hold alot of priceless artwork and I can enjoy looking at it.
why can't they be honest
I am sorry just exactly do you want them to say...
The first thing that popped into my mind was.
Dang Girl...You are bloody ugly...
Oh yeah you really want a guy to send you this, I know I don't.
I could see the thread over this response.
Something like this..
He told me honestly I was to ugly to date him, instead of just not answering my email.
IMO in this analogy a guy is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 9:45:29 AM |
I'm told I am an attractive person,
Unless you've been told this by someone with whom you share a mutual dislike, I'd treat it as more of a supportive statement than a descriptive one. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 10:20:34 AM | I'm told I am an attractive person
It's all personal points of view. Women see attractivness and beauty differently than men do. Meaning no offense here, but for women, if another woman has 'nice' eyebrows then they'll say she's beautiful. Guys won't even notice your eyebrows unless they're doing the Einstein thing and sticking out past your sunglasses.
IMO. We may debate it all day, but BOTH genders are visual creatures. I'm sure YOU think some men look good while others don't. Yes? There are guys out there that will find you unattractive. There are guys out there that will think you're drop dead beautiful.
But again:
I'm told I am an attractive person
This one line speaks volumes. Do YOU not think you're attractive? Men, as well as women, like a person who has confidence in themselves. We're not talking over bloated egos here, but someone who has a sureness of themselves. Not arrogant, that's a whole different ball of wax.
At first I wasn't going to post any photos of myself, but I thought, what the heck...SOMEONE will think I'm attractive enough to strike up a conversation. Even then I've had a few one or two emails and then never heard from them again. So even having a photo posted is NO guarentee.
But, as I'd said to myself at one time...if I don't TRY......I'll never know. Give it a shot. Throw up a photo. If nothing else you'll weed out the folk who DON'T think you're attractive....but I'd bet you good money that you'll get a lot of mails from guys who think you ARE.
But, as always, that's just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 10:23:06 AM | This has happened to me before.
Around the time that I used to have just one photo on my page, I had a few guys ask to see more pics, and I sent them the link to my online photo album, and never received a response.
I'm not sure if they found me to be unattractive, or if they thought I was just too good looking. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 11:17:43 AM | | This type of thing can happen to people with pics who have engaged in meaningful conversations. It is a good rule of thumb to keep options open until a definite relationship has been formed. As such, you may meet the right guy moments before he consummates a relationship with a lady he has progressed further with. It's not dishonesty that causes him to disappear. Rather, it's the fact that he's spending his time kindling the new relationship :) | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 11:49:02 AM | When I talk to someone and they want a pic, I send them one and then no response. I'm told I am an attractive person, beauty is in the eye of the beholder....why can't they be honest and tell you that they aren't interested instead of saying nothing???
This topic has been done to death. Do a search on "no reply."
Nobody owes you an explanation. Just like you don't owe anyone an explanation for the fact that you don't show a picture in the first place. (Something that annoys some people.)
No-reply is a reply. It means "i'm not interested."
Welcome to online dating. Rule #1: grow a thick skin. Rule #2: no whining.
Best of luck to you
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Posted: 10/16/2009 11:54:20 AM |
why can't they be honest and tell you that they aren't interested instead of saying nothing???
Why do you care?...My suggestion is to move onto one of the other million guys on this site.
...but what do I know? | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 12:20:15 PM |
Welcome to online dating. Rule #1: grow a thick skin.
Agreed 100%.
If you let something like not getting replies discourage you, you'll probably end up quitting before long.
Try not to take it to heart. | |
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