| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 10/16/2009 8:11:06 PM | I was supposed to make a speech after my best friend's funeral,but was too broken to even stand in front of the large crowd of people who attended.Rose,was like her name,a beautiful woman both inside and out.She had a quiet strength which many of us leaned on,a contagious laugh that many of us enjoyed and a pot of coffee ready in a flash whenever anyone showed up.Guests were always welcome with a smile that lit up the room and as you entered her home you felt the love that was contained inside its walls.She was a loving wife,her three children were her reason for living and her friends and her family were the most important thing to her.She was very intuitive and always knew when something was wrong with anyone close to her.You'd receive a phone call and her first words would be "Is everything allright?" I am honoured to say that she was my best friend for 20 years.After a short illness,we lost Rose on Sept. 30/2009 and the world is a much darker place.She was my best friend,my "sister" and my partner in crime,always able to read the look I would give her before we played a prank.We never had to speak.We always knew what the other was thinking and I know how blessed I was to have had her in my life.She was definitely proof that angels walk among us.And now,I have to go on without her and to be honest,I really don't know how to do that.(we had even planned on going to the same nursing home to wreek(sp?)
havoc on all the staff and arrange day trips and parties to keep all the residents happier.(She had worked at a nursing home and saw all the lonely unhappy people and we were going to change that and make it a badge of honour to end up there rather than a place for your relatives to dump you off and forget about you)She was a remarkable woman.She quit the nursing home at the end of August this year to be able to spend more time with her threee kids.It was as if she knew.She told me of a dream she had but I didn't get the meaning of that dream until I got that dreaded phone call.You will always be loved and cherished my "sister" and I WILL keep my promise to you until my dying breath.Be at peace dear Rose,be at peace.
Thank you all for letting me get this out.There really aren't enough words in all the languages of the world to properly sing her praise.She was that one in a million and you knew how lucky you were to be her friend.I hope you all have a "Rose" in your lives.Cherish them as they are a gift from heaven. | |
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 10/17/2009 10:05:39 AM | Thanks Icecapqueen for this I lost my older sister Elaine on October 25, 2007 and she was my best friend. I am the youngest in the family of all girls Elaine was ten years older than me. She was my second mom.... So I thank you for sharing..
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 10/17/2009 4:57:01 PM | | What a touching memorial to your friend. As with everyone, I too have lost friends and loved ones that were and are very dear to my heart. I'm a firm believer that by holding their memories close to me, and by sharing memories of how wonderful they were, their lights never truly go out... they live on in our hearts and minds. | |
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:45:59 AM | Socail butterfly and lint spotter I am so sorry for both of your losses.I never imagined a world without Rose in it and I really find it hard to accept as this was so sudden without any warning.I have never experienced such a deep sense of loss in my life.I have lost people I loved before,my Dad which I took hard but I knew he was terminal for at least 10 years before he died and the fact that he was 82 made it a little easier to accept.I know that God only chooses the best but it still doesn't make the pain go away.I worry for her children and her husband and my heart breaks for them.And I worry that because my heart is so broken that I won't be able to help them through their pain.As I said she was my best friend and I would have gladly died in her place rather than her family be left without her.Thanks for the hugs and back at you both.
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:57:04 PM | Although I would not consider myself religious. When a person passes away, I usualy tell the Close family/children of that person that God needed reinforcements to battle the Bad. So some of the best good people down here become angels up there.
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:16:46 PM | i'm so sorry for your losses, they sound like really special people
i'm sure they valued your friendship and love too
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:31:23 PM | BestKnight I did tell her children that and I do believe she is an angel in heaven as she was on earth.Somehow it doesn't make me feel any better.I have called her house when I know no one is home just to hear her voice on the answering machine.I'm still not sure how to handle this as I can't imagine a world without her.I have many other friends but none that knew me as she did.They say time heals all wounds and I'll just have to go on without her.I had recently purchased a house and we were going to decorate it together.I am forcing myself to go forward with this project to honour her and so I can have her family over for dinner.Plus it keeps me busy and other friends have offered to help,but I want to do this by myself as no one can replace her.
OP you have all been really supportive and I thank you for your sharing and your hugs.You can never get too many hugs.
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:34:04 PM | | Icequeen..I total understand where you are coming from about every it has been 2 years on October 25 for my Sister. and there is not a day goes by that I do not pick up the phone and try and call her and no that she not there. I have other sister's but like you. She was my best friend who I would have done anything for.. I even told her that I would change places when she had chemo... She was like a second Mom to me... | |
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:19:26 AM | The loss of someone we care about is never easy and we all deal with it in different ways. All I can say is sorry for your loss and hope that you find solice in the good memories of your dear friend.
I once had a very close friend pass - who I could not overcome my deep saddness for - one night he came to me in a dream and told me he was OK and happy - to be happy as well. I have never cried for him ever since - I only smile and laugh at the humour he brought into my life! | |
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| When a bright light goes out
Posted: 11/9/2009 9:10:11 PM | | Leeanne I pray for a dream like that.I know she wouldn't want me to mourn and I do find solace in the good memories.It's just dealing with the fact that she is no longer here that I'm having real trouble with.I worry about her beautiful children left without a Mother that they cherished.I worry for her husband who lost the love of his life.And I can't quite figure out how to let go and move on without her.A friend suggested grief couselling and I think I'm going to look into that.Thanks for the hugs and back at ya. | |
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