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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:06:15 AM | | Just started this online thing so very new at it. Looking for some help on my profile to improve its content. Any help is appreciated, just want to make profile better. I have not had many emails so just trying to make this work better. Thank you in advance. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:50:17 AM | There's zero reason to explain that its difficult to get out or that the girls are with you. Just click the "has children" box and leave it at that. Volvo doesn't start commercials with junk about high downpayments, poor resale, nasty repair costs. boxy interiors or muddy colours - they only speak about the positive. Obviously you can get out to meet up with a women - you're making it sound like that's not something you'll make happen.
Pics are okay. Don't really seem to show much effort though. Several pics help. Have variety. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 12:18:13 PM | Your profile's great.
No changes needed.
Too bad you live in northern Florida.
Best of luck. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 2:30:23 PM | If I were in your age group, there are a few things that would raise questions for me.
You're just looking for Friends, and say so in your headline, and have it in your opening line. Yet you also say you're looking for dating and have a first date idea. This is a mixed message to your viewer. If you are ultimately looking for a smoochable partner, emphasize the Dating. It's understood you can choose to just be friends (or not!) if it doesn't work out that way. Someone who stumbles across your profile looking for Dating will be confused as to what you're really wanting.
For the Kids question, you have 'prefer not to say'. Does that mean you don't want any MORE kids or you don't want to date a lady with a child(ren) of her own? Your viewer will perceive this in the most negative way possible unless your either a) clarify, or b) change the option to Undecided/Open or No.
I like the image of the BBQ's in the back yard. Can you expand on that with some light humour? "All bets are off if the hose is missing and it's a sunny day" or whatever.
You may also want to drop some of the email restrictions. You'd date someone 13 years younger, but not any older than you? hmmm.... Why not just leave it open and be pleasantly surprised. Or - if you get bombarded with emails from gnarly old 39-year olds you can simply say "thanks, but I don't think we're a match". The 'must have photo' may also bite you in the butt. Many great women here have no main photos posted for a variety of legit reasons, but have private images to share.
Hopefully you're sending short, casual introductions to ladies that interest you. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 2:41:17 PM | Well, let's see.
You already have 3 children...yet you won't consider dating over 1 year older than you? Maybe, just maybe you could take out the age restrictions on emailing you and see what happens.
Also, what if 'the one' or 'the one's cousin-in-law's best friend' wants to contact you and fix you up and they can't email you?
You're also confining yourself 'Friendwise'...since you listed yourself up for the dreaded Friends category. I'd replace that with dating, since you mentioned you're on here for both. Most women are not on to find friends.......You'll come up in more searches.
You're also excluding any woman that is 76 miles away and sitting there staring at your pic thinking 'wow, handsome dad of 3...I'd like to email you....but you've blocked me'...LOL....I'd reconsider taking out the 75 mile max. You never know.
I'd expand your Interests to include more things. Someone will think you only like the outdoors, beach and such. Add a few more.
Oh crap...I forget the rest...LOL...but for now...nothing major.
You sound like a nice guy. Don't wait for the women....email them. ;)
Best wishes.
blonderoses1 | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 2:55:43 PM | | great profile, you seem to have it down. as one of the other girls mentioned, too bad you are in Florida LOL. your profile had everything i think most of us women look for: informative without being boring, non-blurry pictures, and well written. you just need to email some more of the wallflowers that catch your interest, they may have not even seen your profile but would love to talk to you! best of luck sweetie, *aquamarine* | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 3:44:47 PM | The "prefer not to say" on children is a deal-breaker for most. Just make up your mind and choose something. It can always be revisited if need be.
I know that with most women our age having the age restriction so as to exclude all but those younger than yourself makes us giggle. I get a lot of emails from men who have me restricted. I would never be able to contact them but they contact me. I just roll my eyes and say no thanks. Get rid of that. I have a lot of friends you might like but I can't email to tell you.... | |
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