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 makeba
Joined: 9/28/2009
Msg: 1
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I recently met a guy who I found a little bit too obsessed with his looks re: nails, eyebrows, nose-hair, etc. Our first date was wonderful. The second date was to a spa, the 3rd date was shopping (he turned down tickets to go see a football game). Needless to say, that was the last date. I found it a bit awkward and uneasy doing stuff that I will normally do with my girlfriends. My girlfriends said he was gay or metrosexual. That led me to explore what the f*ck a metrosexual is..

So for those of us who may not understand metrosexuality, here is a little definition I found on the web:
A "metrosexual," is the straight man so feminized that, like a woman, he is obsessed with his appearance, daubs on makeup and opts for cosmetic surgery" etc etc - AskMen.com
WIKI defines it as " Metrosexual is a neologism of the 2000s generally applied to heterosexual men with a strong concern for their appearance, and/or a lifestyle that displays attributes stereotypically related to homosexual men."

Has anyone dated a metrosexual? How do I get over the "uneasy" aspect of it? Is it a CHOICE or are people born that way?
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:17:00 PM
If his hands are softer than mine it's NOT on...
 ForumGoddess
Joined: 8/22/2009
Msg: 3
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:23:28 PM
Yea, yuk! I gotta have a manly man!!!
Relationship with a metrosexual!
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:24:16 PM
Victoria Beckham - David Beckham. Posh may be on to something...
 Hearttune
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 5
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:25:00 PM
As with most topical topics, you'd be wise to consult "South Park" for the answers you seek.

http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=5&ved=0CBcQFjAE&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.xepisodes.com%2Fsouthpark%2Fepisodes%2F708%2FSouth-Park-is-Gay.html&rct=j&q=south+park+episode+708&ei=jOnbSteNB5H2sQPzo-yIBg&usg=AFQjCNEwnfaZgXe-5QNmntImUrte7Vh1sA
 Kofi - 68
Joined: 2/20/2009
Msg: 6
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:26:20 PM
ArabianAngel

If his hands are softer than mine it's NOT on...

And what if he has more shoes and clothes than you?

I happen to have a friend who is thus. He is a nice person to be around but I can't say much about his luck with women. Initially I thought his batting average will be better but I am beginning to realize the women seem to be getting mixed signals as to his real sexuality. I have heard some say he is too emotional, too nice, too feminine, too petty, too caring, etc - which all along I thought were traits women seek in a guy. So ladies, please help out here. What is the right amount of these qualities required in a good man?
 Shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:28:40 PM
I always operated on the theory that if he has more beauty products then me... Im outta there

I dated a guy and asked him to help me lay a slab of concrete, of course he said yes and arrived with a cake he'd baked!! Suffice to say he wasnt much help in the concrete department. The relationship ended soon after.
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:33:25 PM
I'd be open to it so long as I actually liked him as a person. Not a problem for me.
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:46:54 PM
I know what metrosexual is, believe me! These guys want to go to the spa, get their manicures/pedicures, are so feminine it isn't funny.No thanks, I want a manly man!
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:48:54 PM
I think it would be FABulous! A guy who gives a shit about his appearance? Almost unheard of, in Colorado.
 Landra2
Joined: 6/4/2009
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Posted: 10/18/2009 9:59:44 PM
Not excited by guys who spend more time and money on their appearance than I do
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:04:40 PM
I already have plenty of gay boyfriends. I'm not attracted to any of them even though some of them are quite handsome. I'm not saying that "metros" are gay, but they might need more testosterone.

Hm. Something to think about.
 Sherlock101
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:17:47 PM
I take care of myself, neat, clean, smell good except when working but there's a limit. I think Gene Simmons said it best, "Metrosexual=gay."
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:21:08 PM
Is this the same Gene Simmons who has a line of handbags and has worn makeup, and platforms professionally for the last 35 years?

Must be a different guy.
 flyin squirrel
Joined: 5/25/2009
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:24:53 PM
Don't do anything you are uneasy about.If you can't enjoy it then do not go out w/ him anymore!
Not born to be metro....raised to be...LOL!




HA !My first bf used to blow kisses at himself in the mirror...and seemed to spend more time in it than me>>
I can't help dating the pretty ones.....is there a 12 step program for that?
 haildestroyer
Joined: 8/5/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:24:55 PM
Tell the man he needs more testosterone in his life or he'll die early.
Then tell him to grow a mustache and harden the f*( ]< up.

It worked for me, I used to be very metero. I still care about hygiene, but I am no longer spending 20 minutes on my hair.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:40:11 PM
People are all individuals, labels don't always fit. If you don't like the way a man acts, don't date him but to feel the need to bash him, what's the point? It's not like he harmed you or was disrespectful, he just didn't fit your needs. What, should a man not date a woman because she doesn't like to shop and likes football, should he call her a lesbian or feel like she's not really a woman?
 Kofi - 68
Joined: 2/20/2009
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:47:59 PM
daynadaze:

....don't date him but to feel the need to bash
She is NOT bashing him. Where in OP's post does he bash him. She is asking how she can get over it. She didn't call him gay. She didn't say he is a bad guy.

OP I can understand your uneasiness. Likewise, I will feel uncomfortable dating a woman who prefers to act like a "butch" all the time. I love my women to be feminine.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:50:59 PM
I wasn't referring to the OP, I was referring to the people feeling the need to bash metrosexuals for being who they are.
 DeepLuv09
Joined: 7/24/2009
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:54:19 PM
I dated this guy that was obsessed with the kind of beauty products I was using it was such a big turnoff. I don't want to use the same lotion like my man, please! Everytime he asked to borrow my lotion I was like uuuugh! Huge turnoff.
 Markvegas
Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:55:33 PM
What is today called a ‘metrosexual’, 40 years ago was called good grooming, and was the norm for the male society in general. Today slovenliness is the norm, with pride in appearance suspect. This was not always so.

Do not confuse a little class and sophistication with ‘gay’.

I worked with a man, 20 years married, tried and true family man, looked like he stepped off the cover of GQ. 6’4, hard body and immaculate attire. Navy Seal in Viet Nam.

He talked about the latest grooming products, Italian shoes and $300 shirts with the same ease he talked about the 3 men he shot to death during his 20-year career with the LAPD.

I had a patrol partner (I worked 450 miles north of my buddy, in the SF Bay Area) who turned down professional male modeling jobs. Pre-shift, we had to swear to our supervisor we wouldn’t get the city or department sued.

Sometimes it’s misleading judging a book by its cover.

I noticed one reply from a woman in Colorado; I lived there for 12 years, spent a lot of weekends at Stampede, Grizzly Rose, PT's on Evans and Cowboy's in C Springs. Good memories!!
 cherryking
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:59:44 PM
I AGREE WITH ARABIANGEL!!!!

a Taipei Original post.
 cifuareal1
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 10/18/2009 11:00:15 PM
What's wrong with a man who likes to shop and takes care of his appearance? I prefer this to those who hold up a giant fish in their profiles ANY day.
 Onlyluvcando
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 10/18/2009 11:03:34 PM
No thanks, as my profile says..


would luv to meet an attractive very down to earth '"MASCULINE '''' unattached simple easy going down to earth type of guy for dating and friendship..
 Gem With Flaws
Joined: 9/28/2009
Msg: 25
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Posted: 10/18/2009 11:51:14 PM
He is just a different type of guy. You either go for it or not.

I prefer a man that gets his hands dirty, and if we get them dirty together, all the more fun
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