| Have you ever been put in a position where your friendship was well and truly tested?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:05:51 AM | Just read a story about a group of people who must surely be applauded for their sense of friendship - not!
'Rescuers had to help a man in a wheelchair down Snowdon after a group of people who had carried him there left him on his own during the ascent.
The six martial arts enthusiasts were taking part in a fundraising record attempt and had carried the man up Llanberis Path.
They decided to leave him before they reached the peak, and were too tired when they returned to carry him down.
They called out mountain rescuers, who criticised the group's actions.'
While this is a story which reveals the true lack of sense some people have before setting out on these things, it does beg the question just how far would you go for your friends? Have you ever been put in a position where your friendship was well and truly tested? | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:17:32 AM | I think they were being kind to him - i would have tipped him out and rolled back down in his wheelchair 
It depends what your limits are I suppose - i dont think there is limitless friendship | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:17:32 AM |
Have you ever been put in a position where your friendship was well and truly tested?
Yes many tines, some got kicked in to touch, others are still there...
It's the 2 faced, back stabbing b1tches that pretend to be a friend, but have their own agenda that really annoy me, manic does not even begin to describe them, So yes my tolerance has diminished somewhat...
Quality not quantity ...
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:18:55 AM | I went hillwalking a couple of years ago with some friends. One (an experienced climber) of the group I had not met before and along with my friends was my brother in law (inexperienced). On the ascent this experienced fekker took us up a route which was to give him a bit of a challenge. I ended up languishing way behind with my brother in law and lost touch with them completely. I do recall at one point having to scramble across rocks with a shear drop and thinking that one of us was not going home that day. Upon reaching the top I was all for giving this person the quickest route down. I made my feelings known and he stayed well clear on the way down, probably cause I would have shoved him off!
Just because people know their limits, they very rarely know the limits of other people. If I ever had to call mountain rescue for that sort of stunt, I reckon you should be charged. Its called hillwalking but that is grossly misleading on some hills. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:50:52 AM | | about 6 years ago me and a few mates went potholing in north wales..as we was making our way through the pot hole..one of my mates got his foot stuck in a crevice..we tried for hours to pull his foot free..but it wouldnt budge..as it was getting late and we was all hungry and gasping for a pint..we decided to leave him..and i far as i know..he is still down there now... | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:55:36 AM | This is just another example of people expecting others, eg the moutain rescuers, to clear up the mess they leave behind. They wouldnt have dreamt of leaving that person half way up a mountain if they didnt know there was this service. An emergancy service I may add. It speaks volumes about what kind of people they are not what kind of friends they are. I wonder what charity they were fundraising for? Certainly not the mountain rescuers I hope! | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:22:39 AM | They are irresponsible and should of been charged the cost of using the emergency services, if you've had to make the decision to leave behind your 'friend' for you to complete the climb then you know full well that it is unlikely you would have the energy/strength to help him down after so they should of given up at the point and tried to get down together.
The emergency shouldn't be used as a back up or get out of jail free card but there for real life emergencies and I hope their ashamed of themselves. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:32:18 AM | a friend in need is a nuisance .. real friends don't burden you with their problems.
this story just goes to show you that people who do kung fu and all that jazz are not to be trusted ... all that eastern philosophy stuff is a load of crap .. when the going gets tough leave you stranded on a mountain ! | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:48:34 AM | I don't think much to their fitness levels if they were too tired after doing the Llanberis Path, as it's the easiest route up the mountain.
There really is no excuse for leaving a friend in distress like they did. I'd like to think I can depend on my friends and would trust them with my life, not leave me the first chance they had.
They should be ashamed of themselves, and as stated above, made to pay back the cost of the rescue out of their own pockets. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:57:37 AM | i hate it when i read about people attempting to conquer the wilderness with out planning for every emergency as it could costs lives!! 
as someone who is disabled, through a work accident i might add, ive got used to people changing there minds and actions. its like i always say, you only know your true friends when you reach rock bottom and they will be there to help you. i was very suprised to which friends vanished, but even more suprised to the ones i gained. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 12:22:56 PM | | It reminds me of the so called friends, who are quite happy to go in rounds with you on a night out drinking but then when you keel over in a drunken heep, dont bother to make sure your okay, and get you in a taxi home but simply leave you! | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/19/2009 12:37:45 PM |
I don't think much to their fitness levels if they were too tired after doing the Llanberis Path, as it's the easiest route up the mountain
My thoughts exactly!! That route is for pansies haha. Haul him up the Pig Track and Id have respect lol  | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:52:18 AM | This reminds me of when I went shopping with an old friend who left me behind
at the supermarket so he could fill his car up with packs of beer as there was a special
offer on and I had to walk all the way home carrying my bags and wasn't amused at all.
(Were no longer friends)
In this case I think the Mountain rescuers have every right to be annoyed with
these martial arts experts who shouldn't have carried out this walk if they weren't up to it. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/21/2009 8:44:36 AM | | I feel quite strongly that they ought to be forced to pay for the cost of the rescue AND have to do a bit of real community service. Perhaps litter picking for a couple of hours everyday or dog poop patrol in their local park? | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:24:45 AM | As for the original story in the first post - get them to pay for the rescue operation.
As for my friendship being tested - plenty of times. Bailed out a friend numerous times, when she was made homeless my landlady (who also knew her) kindly agreed she could share my room, rent-free, till she got herself sorted.
My friend was unemployed at the time and she repaid us during the 6 weeks she stayed by;
- never offering to cook, despite her sat at home all day and my landlady and I working two jobs each
- leaving dirty crockery and ashtrays everywhere
- generally leaving a mess of shoes and clothes around the house
- telling us how skint she was but somehow managed to go out regularly and come home drunk several times and making an enormous mess
- never offering to do any act showing any gratitude for being helped out by my landlady. My landlady could have very easily said she could not have stayed and my friend would have been homeless.
In the end I bought her a one way ticket to Scotland. We're no longer on speaking terms. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:20:23 AM | Ive been in a horrible situation with someone i was once friends with.
She suffered with mental illness and when medicated was great but when she stopped taking it,she became a nightmare.
I loved her to bits but it was getting to the stage where her kids were suffering,she kept popping round late on at night n when asked who was in with the baby,would reply its ok hes in bed,or the older boy who was 11 at the time was with him.
She ended up falling out with me as she thought i was picking on her,by telling her she couldnt leave the kids,or have different men round,or forgetting to give them thier tea.
In the end i had no choice but to report her and the kids ended up with thier dad,i told her what i had done but it was for the best interest of the kids,so felt i had no other option,i had tried helping her as much as i could and i lost a friend but it had to be done. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:50:40 PM | Yes. Big time, we are no longer friends either but not particularly because of that situation. Sometimes people get caught up in things and you end up getting dragged into a mess that outsiders think is your fault when it has nothing to do with you in the slightest.
I've also got a friend who is in a relationship with someone who treats her like dirt, I only hear from her when it's falling apart, when it is going well she doesn't want to know and this has been going on for some time now.
I've told her how I feel, I've given as much honest advice as I can, but I can't do anymore than that because in the end I know she is always going to go back.
And I would never see someone in despair and tell them to sod off but the last 6 months for me haven't been that easy due to family and other factors and she has been nowhere to be seen. | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/23/2009 3:57:33 AM | Yes.
A friend of mine had been seeing a woman for a month or so and she was known for being a bit of a slapper.He liked her alot but as soon as his back was turned she was trying it on with all and sundry.I warned him that he was heading for a fall but he was having none of it.Anyway i was out one night and i saw my friends gf disappear up an alleyway with a lad.I rang my mate and told him but he said i was lying so i told him to get his ar$e into town,he did and saw her rearranging her skirt and the guy with his hands up her top.
My friend blamed me so i told him he was a tw@t and deserved better.We havnt spoken since and he's still with her,the idiot | |
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| Friends - love em or leave em up a mountain?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:04:16 AM | never lend money, sell to, or go into business with friends/family if you want to keep them around. When things go wrong, this really tests relationships/friendships.
I've learnt the hard way and lost some friends along the way. | |
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