| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:00:07 PM | Hello all
Is there any harm if a man who's in a relationship goes out with his mates to a club and asks other girls to dance and have a bit of fun but doesn't take it any further ?
The reason I ask is a friend of mine did just that and his girlfriend went ballistic  | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:09:56 PM | | First question, why didn't he go with his girlfriend??? If he didn't, he should have the courtesy to stay in. After all think of what the gf would think.....the bf went out to dance with some girls, um WTF?? I'd get pissed if my girl did that, so I wouldn't ever do that. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:18:37 PM | most if not all women would go ballistic over this but then shoe on other foot...so would the guys
if his g/f went out with the girls and danced with another guy, would your friend have been cool with it????
i doubt it.
treat your g/f or b/f the way you want them to treat you | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:32:37 PM | | There is no harm in that at all, once he did not take it any further. He went out with his mates, what was he expect to do sit on the sidelines and watch everyone have a good time. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:05:27 PM | | I say no way. If your b/f or g/f goes out with the mates dancing with other women, then trouble is going to happen in the relationship. Take the g/f or b/f with you. Maybe they like to dance too. If it's a guys night out or a girl's night out then it shouldn't be where dancing occurs. That's just my opinion | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:10:00 PM |
what was he expect to do sit on the sidelines and watch everyone have a good time. Yes thats whats expected. There's no harm in it if your in a swinger type relationship. Is it ok to kiss another woman if your in a relationship and your girlfriend is sat at home? If he was caught getting oral would he say 'but we didnt have sex!' and wonder why his girlfriend blew a fuse? The only way theres no harm in it is when you dont give a toss about your partner. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 2:09:16 AM | | There is a lot of if' s and but's here, and why do ye all make assumptions here, the guy knew his boundaries and he did not cross them, his friend was only looking for an opinion and looks like he got it and alot of negativity as well. Wonder what his friend would say if he knew he threw this question out on an open forum here. So much for friends eh! | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 3:55:57 AM | | Well what type of dance? A friend of mine goes out with a guy who dances, proper dancing, charlston, swing, and lindy hop she has no intrest in dancing at all, so he often goes out dancing without her. But its a bit different if he were to go out to a night club and just start dancing with some girl.....and by dancing in a club we all know what that entails....dry humping and groping. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 4:06:20 AM |
Yes that's whats expected. There's no harm in it if your in a swinger type relationship. Is it ok to kiss another woman if your in a relationship and your girlfriend is sat at home? If he was caught getting oral would he say 'but we didnt have sex!' and wonder why his girlfriend blew a fuse? The only way theres no harm in it is when you dont give a toss about your partner.
Floatsum I think you have lost they plot here, there was absolutely no sexual intent what so ever , just harmless dancing and a bit of fun, I'm beginning to think , judging by some peoples reaction's, it says more about their insecurities than any thing else.
Further more if one of the girls he danced with had asked him up would it have been appropriate to have refused her ?  | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 7:21:52 AM | | The picture you paint of a dance, is like an old styled hollywood movie........but any dancing Ive seen in todays clubscene is a bit of bump and grind, its a very physcial act. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:45:40 AM |
The picture you paint of a dance, is like an old styled hollywood movie........but any dancing Ive seen in todays clubscene is a bit of bump and grind, its a very physcial act. [quote/] Well he wasn't dancing the Viennese Walz that for sure but his Paso Doble wasn't bad  I'll have to stop watching strickly come dancing | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:49:08 AM | | I'm a bit shocked by the moralistic responses from a lot of the girls here, have none of you ever been on a hen night where ye meet up with a load of stags, have a laugh, a bit of dancing and flirting, yet most (apart from a couple of the singles who hook up), head off alone to their rooms at the end of the night?? Have you never found yourself out in town on a girly night and at some point bumped hips and shook your arms in the air with some guy to some classic 80's anthem? I think this is the kind of dancing with girls he was talking about, and in my opinion that is called having fun. Seriously, bumping and grinding a la a Snoop Dog video?? where does this happen, the thought of it cracks me up!! If a litttle harmless boogie is going to betray the trust of a relationship well the relationship is on very shaky foundations. If you love and trust your partner and he you, neither will be shocked or appaled or hurt to find the other bopped when out with the lads, and he should be cool with her having the same fun when out with the girls. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 10:49:36 AM | | Hmmm...what a convenient time for this thread. I was asked out to go clubbing with my daughter and her friends. I had a blast. I danced for 5 hrs straight with her friends, one of whom is a guy she really likes. Yup, we bumped and ground and whatever. The fact is that dancing is DANCING. What makes people think it is foreplay? I had fun, had no sexual designs on any of her friends, it is just dance folks. Ditto for one of the girls there, she was dancing and going wild and one of the young men got really uncomfortable....if a girl takes you off to a secluded place and starts taking your clothes off then you have an issue. If you are on the dance floor, fully clothed and bumping and grinding you are dancing. What is this, the 50's? I think I may actually be single forever if being with someone means I can never dance again with anyone but them. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:53:02 PM | is this, the 50's?
I'm thinking footloose!
And on another note, I've witnessed both my parents dancing at weddings and "do's" with other people, and it never caused a divorce. Dancing was never soley designed to be a precurrser to sexual activity, it is a way of expressing yourself and having fun.
Correction, i accused the girls of being moralistic, apologies I read the thread fully and noticed a lot of the male responses were similarly in the dark ages. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:16:25 PM | WOW!! A lot of the posts here are shocking narrow minded; personally i'm not too bothered if my (mythical) gal goes out and has a bit of a boogie with someone else cos I know that she's coming home and crawling into bed with me. If I thought she was gonna play tonsil hockey with some random dude then there's obviously no trust and without trust................
Bottom line is we are all creatures of ego and nothing flatters the ego as much as someone coming up and asking you to dance and if that puts my (hypothetical) lady in good mood and makes her feel confident and sexy then bring it on! | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/20/2009 3:21:07 PM |
and by dancing in a club we all know what that entails....dry humping and groping.
Not always.
I think it's very funny to get up and boogie on down with people who are either a) totally absorbed in the music or b) off their heads on some kind of substance, they never fail to come up with the best dance moves for you to emulate and they really don't care if you parody them so blatantly in full view and to the amusement of everybody who's being careful and not allowing themselves to get into having a bit of craic, just in case.
Dancing is a personal experience which you can share with a complete stranger safe in the knowledge that it won't go further than just having a brief connection on the dancefloor and having a laugh - it's called fun!
I've danced in my kitchen, danced in my sittingroom, danced to street buskers with all sorts of people and never once has the dancing wildly, feverishly, hypnotically led to having sex aside from when I've been deliberately seduced or vice versa. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/21/2009 1:52:38 PM | | Don't know how you people do it but in NY the nightclubs are either HIP HOP or Techno. If I have a gf, I don't dance with other girls at clubs, I just don't. I wouldn't want to because I have a gf. If my girl would go out without me and WANT to dance with another guy, she's done for end of story. If she is my girl, she shouldn't WAN to dance with other guys, it's that simple. Ever heard of dancing in groups with your friends??? Obviously not.... | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/22/2009 3:08:23 PM | I am thinking everyone is losing the plot here.No harm in it at all.We all love to dance.
There is no harm in flirting as long as you go home to your loved one. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:25:37 PM | | If i had a partner it wouldn't bother me if he danced with other girls when out with his mates........as long as it wasn't a slow dance at end of the night. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:57:22 AM | Perhaps I got the wrong idea from the OP
asks other girls to dance and have a bit of fun but doesn't take it any further ?
could you clarify what you mean by this? Where does having a bit of fun stop and take it further start because I would see kissing as just a bit of fun and anything more as taking it further. If I was dating a woman and was at the same time having a bit of fun with other women I think it could lead to problems in the relationship, however if the OP defines a bit of fun as telling jokes then its harmless and not very likely to lead to relationship problems.
So whats a bit of fun to you OP? | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:44:27 AM | | I love to Salsa dance it's a Latino style of dance that requires people swap with partners all night long (muy caliente)! My attitude is " it doesn't matter where he gets his appetitie as long as he comes home for dinner". | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:41:04 AM | a man who's in a relationship goes out with his mates to a club and asks other girls to dance and have a bit of fun
this was the question asked!!!
in my opinion if a guy in a club askes me to dance then he would like to get to know me better and maybe have a drink and a chat after the dance to see if we click and so on and so forth
this is not the 1950s or 1960s where men didnt dance with other men on the dancefloor, you see guys dancing together ALL the time nowadays which is great...i dont see why your friend was so hell bent on asking another girl or girls to dance ...why couldnt he just dance with his mates??
im not the jealous type but if my fella ASKED a girl to dance i would be questioning his motives
different senario if he was on the dance floor dancing with his mates and started to dance as a group with other girls....this we have all done on hen nights or stag nights
but this IS just my opinion  | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/28/2009 9:06:23 AM | Back in my twenties I had the forunate experience to live with a wonderful family in Galway. The father loved to dance, jigs, reels, etc it was one of his passions, sometimes his wife cam along other times she didn't everyone knew it was just good downhome fun. And part of a cultural tradition.
Not to mention, it was a rural area so you couldn't get away with much without all the neighbors knowing about it. | |
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| Men dancing with other women
Posted: 10/28/2009 11:17:15 AM | | Dancing is one thing but the OP said dancing AND a bit of fun. To me this implies more than just dancing. I did ask the OP for clarity as to exactly what he means by a bit of fun but no reply as yet. So what does OP mean by 'dancing AND have a bit of fun but doesn't take it any further'? Please OP define what you mean by a bit of fun!!! Harmless innocent fun? Dirty smutty fun? | |
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