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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:00:09 PM | What is sexual connection means? What is that means if someone tell you that you are a super nice guy, very fun to talk to, but there is no sexual connection?
Is it about your looks? Is it how you act? How you handle yourself?
Is it possible to say there is no sexual connection after only a few hours spent together, and there was a child present?
In case you haven't figured out yet, it happened to me.
I am seriously don't know what that means, so what better way to find out, than asking the forums, right? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:05:57 PM | Probably a cop out. Or maybe her previous guy really turned her on at first sight and she is looking for that same type of connection. Personally I would not know if there was a sexual connection with a child present. That would be so distracting. I'm thinking she meant more like a "physical attraction".
BTW, who takes children on dates...a first date at that? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:15:39 PM | Thanks for the respond...
If it's physical why not just say, I don't like you..Well put it nicer..LOL
Or is it a same thing..Oh well.
BTW..It wasn't a date
I don't call seeing someone the first time, AND my daughter being there a date.
But let's not turn this into a "It's so wrong to introduce a child soon" type of argument,please... | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:18:40 PM | as above - or while chatting to you - she thought your totally not compatable..and wouldn't be in bed also ??
as for child on date ? what woman in their right mind would do that ?
Count yourself lucky ..not dealing with her again! | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:22:31 PM | You didn't give her butterflys in her tummy.....basically yes, the same thing as she is not physically attracted to you.
and whether you want this to be about bringing your child ....or not......you opened the door for it......
You know this place well enough that is exactly what kind of arguement you can prepare yourself for.
Personally......I don't see how either of you can make any kind of judgements about each other with a child there.
Be an instant turn off for me too. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:24:48 PM | ^^^^Sorry Iamtryingagain, but I don't get your post..
It was my daughter, and she was super nice to her, and everything.
She was fun to be with, fun to talk to, we had a great time.
Later on she told me, she didn't feel the sexual connection.
But..Can we get pass on the child being there, please? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:27:54 PM | of course she was super nice to your daughter.......she didn't deserve anything other than being treated nice.....
fun to talk to and having a good time does not equate to physical or sexual attraction.
Did she know beforehand you were bringing your daughter? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:30:27 PM | Oh, okay. I get it. Sometimes the first time is just a "meeting" and not a real date. I can agree with that.
And I don't have a problem with you introducing your child "too soon" either. Just a personal prefrence for me that kids not be around for early meetings or dates.
Saying I feel no "sexual" connection sounds better then saying I feel no "physical" connection. The latter implies your unattractive to her. Or maybe it is the same thing to her. Hard for us to know what she was thinking.
Either way, you just didn't do it for her. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:30:29 PM | You keep wanting everyone to overlook the fact that there was a child present. Guess what - it probably affected her opinion of you. Not that having a child is a bad thing, but how can you focus on someone else if there is a child present? Everyone would be distracted.
Her reason IS probably a cop-out on her part. Would it make you feel better if she'd said she didn't like your car, job, lack of education or whatever? You can't artificially create what's not there. You either feel it or you don't. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:31:09 PM |
and whether you want this to be about bringing your child ....or not......you opened the door for it......
You know this place well enough that is exactly what kind of arguement you can prepare yourself for.
Oh, do I ever...but it's OK..I can take it, but it's not about that.. ..Sorry, but some poster missing a point.
MsMicki if you meet someone the first time and his child is there, that's a turn off?
Even if he says he'll bring his kid, so it's not a surprise? Why? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:43:33 PM | I guess you all right..
Yes course she knew I am bringing my daughter, so if that made me look bad, than I am more confused than ever...What else is new?..
Probably didn't help that I was wearing a spandex...
Oh, I didn't really wear spandex,OK.. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:46:56 PM | Yes......it's a turn off.....
because I think it's wrong.
I would wonder how many women your child has had to meet...
I would have to watch my launguage...........and it would stifle any flirtatious feelings I might have.
It would prevent "adult" conversations.....
and I would be wondering the whole time if the child is there to be used as an
easy "out" if you weren't feeling a connection.
Just doesn't sit well with me at all. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:53:39 PM | | My sister went on a date with a guy we both knew and she knew that I might have had feelings for him. He chose the wrong sister. He used to be in the war and was a bit jaded by his ex wife. My sister has no kids and is not receptive to kids (outside of work) although she was a kindergarten teacher. He took his kids to meet her when he came into town because his time was limited. She avoided him after that. WTF? Now why didn't she just let me go out with him, because she knew we could hit it off, but she wanted the power trip. I am not saying its the same scenario, but some women aren't ready for kids, even if they say they are, they arent ready for someone else's, empathic, patient and selfless. She did you a favor sweetheart, imagine falling for her and she turns out to be a real beatch with your daughter. What then if you are caught between both. Your kids come first, and finding a compatible match as a single parent means weeding through the really wrong ones fast. WE have a right to date, but not a right to fudge up their life permanently because of our mistakes. So yeah, I wouldnt be behind a girlie that uses that excuse and didn't really want to get to know you as a person. You are good looking and sweet from reading your profile, so dont let it get you down. We miss match all the time, its a numbers and chemistry game. Keep the chips moving until you both feel its just right. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:12:33 PM | MsMicki I respect your opinion..Never saw it that way tho, but that's a different story.
She did you a favor sweetheart, imagine falling for her and she turns out to be a real beatch with your daughter. What then if you are caught between both.
I have to come the her defense here..She didn't seem like a "turn into a beatch" type...AND..We had the "talk" how none of us is looking for falling for anybody..So, that wouldn't be an issue. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:36:02 PM |
What is sexual connection means?
It means when they initially met you they wanted to kiss you.
Is it possible to say there is no sexual connection after only a few hours spent together...
Yes, I know instantly.....and 9 times out of 10 I'm right.
Is it about your looks? Is it how you act? How you handle yourself?
Yes, it's all that and more. OP please don't think it's all about a "look" you must have...it's not all about looks. For me personally there is some sort of mischievousness that I'm able to pick up in people pretty quickly that I find very sexy...this has been a blessing and a curse. Confidence, kindness and a solid genuineness go a long way with me too. Often folks can fake the confidence but the kindness and genuiness they can't fake consistently.
so what better way to find out, than asking the forums, right?
Laughing out loud!
Best of luck to you OP!
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:49:59 PM | | It means one thing and one thing only: I like you, but am not attracted to you. There's really not much you can do about it. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:53:43 PM | It would be impossible for me to feel a sexual connection or spark on a first date if there was a child along on the date. It would awkward and as MsM said, you'd have to walk on egg shells.
Leave your daughter out of the equation. Nothing against children, it's just not the right venue, yanno? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 6:09:04 PM | No explanation needed really. You meet somone and you know if you like each other that way. C'est la vie...
I meant someone. That is a typo or perhaps I'm just tired? Who knows. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 6:50:47 PM |
Is it about your looks? Is it how you act? How you handle yourself?
Is it possible to say there is no sexual connection after only a few hours spent together, and there was a child present?
Of course!
How you look, act and handle yourself plays a huge part in how you are perceived.
How you look, sound, smell and the vibe you're giving off all come into play with a sexual connection and it is almost always instant.
It's about attraction.
I know right away whether or not I'd like a man to kiss me.
It's there or it isn't.
I know you don't want this to turn into an "It's so wrong to introduce a child soon" argument but that would show me a lot about your character and that you have no clue about the inappropriateness of exposing your daughter to strangers and I would personally find that to be a total turn off.
Aside from that, the fact that you couldn't spare half an hour away from your child to go on a meet and greet would lead me to believe that you don't have a whole lot of spare time for an adult relationship. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 7:24:00 PM |
What is sexual connection means? What is that means if someone tell you that you are a super nice guy, very fun to talk to, but there is no sexual connection?
Sometimes it's subtle, sometimes very obvious; but the feelings that cause that woman to have sexual desire were not there. Perhaps you weren't dominant enough; perhaps you weren't submissive enough. Being nice and being fun to talk to has nothing to do with it; at least not for her. Perhaps she is turned on by the appearance of youthful vigor, perhaps by strength, perhaps by confidence, perhaps by expressions of affection and desire. They are visceral feelings that literally make the juices flow, at least for her. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 8:02:12 PM | | Means you didn't get her moist in her happy place - no tingle - no bells and whistles - no desire to get naked - no wedding bells go off in her head - if she was a guy Mr. Happy would be sleeping! | |
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