| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:28:52 PM | | Can I please get some input on my profile? Not getting any responses to people I email. Can't really figure out why, but I'm new to this so could be doing everything wrong for all I know. Any advice would be much appreciated, so thanks in advance everyone. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:36:29 PM | Ok, I hope this doesn't come across as cold but ... you're separated. I'm rather stick my hand in boiling lava than to date a person who is separated. Why?
1) Separated people sometimes get back together.
2) I don't want to be the guy that is Mr. Rebound, and then is dumped once the divorce is settled since she wants to move on with her life.
3) I don't want to be the human yelling board whenever she has to vent about her ex during the divorce process.
4) When you are separated, a whole myriad of emotions are going through your body. You're still trying to figure out who you are and where your life will settle.
It isn't personal ... but just come back when you are divorced. Until you get the paper, and have a chance to think it over, I believe it will be very hard for you. Personally, I think it has very little to do with your profile.
I'm sorry, and I really wish you the best of luck. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:38:23 PM | | Wow okay thanks...and here I thought i was funny looking or something. I never even thought of what you mentioned. Thank you very much for that enlightening information :) | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:38:36 PM | You are young
Beautiful
And have a great career.
The only issue is your temper as you said in your profile, men are not looking for women with anger management issues no matter how hot she is. Remove it or re word it.
Lastly you don't want anymore kids and you still young enough to have more, this will eliminate any man who is sincere and wants marriage and kids of his own, otherwise you just turn into a booty call until things change. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:44:02 PM | Wow okay thanks...and here I thought i was funny looking or something. I never even thought of what you mentioned. Thank you very much for that enlightening information :)
Oh, maybe to rephrase ... don't go AWAY ... maybe think about the setting "E-mail" or "Friend." You are a beautiful woman, but I think you're going to be unhappy with the selection of guys that want to date until you are divorced - because quite frankly, the relationship isn't over until you've got the paper. And so it doesn't come across as being mean to women, it cuts the same way with guys as it does with gals. I wish the best in whatever you decide.
edit: And what is being mentioned about pictures is good as well.
Also note that I am being direct because you are an attractive woman, and thus I'm sure that it must have been very perplexing to why single guys weren't interested. It was just a thing where it was better to tell the emperor that no clothes are being worn ... | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:44:08 PM | pictures
Yes, need a good, clear full-body shot. The ones you have now are neither clear nor flattering. You seem very attractive yet the pictures don't show it. Time to get a change of clothes, head to a girlfriend's house and play dress-up photoshoot.
About you
You've got some negativity that needs addressing. You mention a recent relationship - that's a bad idea too. Basically, read through your profile as if you wanted to take yourself out on a date and see the multiple parts where you paint yourself as unworthy to date, then address them ;) | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:01:06 PM | You also have a requirement that one must have a photo posted to message you. I thought you might be able to offer some insight into the type of dog you have, as I am a huge fan of large slobbering dogs; English Mastiffs in particular.
However, I am unable to message you, as I don't have a photo posted in my profile. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:18:20 PM | | thanks for the advice on the relationship information, I deleted that based on your comment. I don't know if i exactly agree re: the picture comments, as I notice you do not have 'body shots' either, and I feel like I have a multitude of pics that show me in various stages so people know exactly what i look like at any given time...but I appreciate the input. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:24:40 PM | Uhm ... yes he does have a body shot. It is the fifth picture from the left in his profile.
Maybe we are getting mixed up on terminology. We don't mean some sort of "stripped to the bikini" shot ... just a shot that shows your entire body. Don't wear saggy clothes in it, but a pair of blue jeans and a nice top would be more than appropriate.
The reason why we say this is because the Body Type category is a joke. In one persons mind "thin" is in another person's mind "a few extra pounds." By showing a picture, each person can come to a conclusion ... and trust me, over time on the board, you'll appreciate it when guys do it in their profiles. We're not trying to be mean. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:25:20 PM | Your pics are great, you're a beautiful woman, you're profile text is mostly good, you're a nurse, and if I were a good-looking 32 year old living in your area I'd message you. However, the "Separated" thing is going to be a problem for most serious-minded men. You're probably going to have to get your life in order first. Also, nix any negativity from the text. For maximum responses: Rule#1, good pics. (You got 'em.) Rule #2, no negativity. Rule #3, get a thick skin, Rule #4, patience. Best of luck.
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:35:14 PM | | yeah i guess he does have a body shot...i didn't look much past the first pic. I get what your saying though, now, with body shot...I guess i didn't exactly realize what was being said and more felt insulted. I'm not used to being judged so callously, so...excuse me please if I seemed a little snippy. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:41:43 PM | You're fine ... those of us around here hear about the messages about the creeps that leave "interesting and suggestive" messages in women's in-boxes. That is the only reason why I wanted to elaborate ... we weren't meaning to go there.
And I really hope the "separated" text isn't taken as mean as well. I'll leave it at this: I never realized how much my emotions were bouncing during my separated stage until everything was final and I was able to relax and think thing through. I think if you hit up most guys on the subject and ask their honest opinion on it, that is how they would respond. We're not meaning to "pile on" - we're just making sure you know we're being honest with you because that is what you deserve.
I wish for you the best. | |
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| men or woman can i get some input please?
Posted: 10/19/2009 7:45:17 PM | No it was great advice and I sincerely appreciate it. It was only the comments about my pics that threw me off guard...
Thank you very much for your honest and kindly phrased opinions. It was a enormous help. | |
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