| How do girls feel when the guy can't "finish?"
Posted: 10/20/2009 11:51:38 PM | | I've had issues ever since I was a teenager. Even then it took a long time. Now sometimes, especially after a few drinks, I don't "finish" at all. A lot of women just don't return my phone calls after the first time. Does getting a second chance in the sack really depend that much on whether or not I have the big "O?" If it is, what should I do about it? Should I tell the truth and say 'I probably won't have an orgasm tonight, but I probably will the next time?' Would a convincing fake orgasm be a better option? | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 12:32:23 AM | I was once with a guy like that.
The problem wasn't so much him not able to finish or not, but rather the feeling that I wasn't doing enough of a good job to get him there. He would change position, try this, that, there was a point when I would finish, and perhaps still have to "work" at trying to get him to do so, to not avail.
It made me feel frustrated and, somehow, unable to please him.
Sometimes I have read about people needing to sort something in their mind when they are unable to finish, or perhaps to masturbate enough to "accustome" their bodies to "function" in a certain manner, so I suppose it should be up to the guy to do what is necessary to sort it. But, mostly, they don't.
Life and relationships are hard enough as it is, without having to add dating a guy that makes you feel sexually not up to standards. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 12:44:51 AM |
How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Sore.
Just fess up, no need to fake anything.
If you normally take longer anyway, adding lots of booze to the mix isn't the wisest choice.
Most gals will appreciate your stamina and honesty...eventually.
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 1:44:28 AM | I don't know you personally or you sex habits, but: perhaps the problem is not so much you don't finish, but rather you jump in the sack to quickly...
Sure, a number of people, male or female may gain an attitude of dang is this what I'd like at when being intimate with him/her, uhhh no thanks...
It has been my experience when people have gotten past lust, and are really into you as a person, you would feel free to say babe I have to tell you I take a while to cum... It is SOOOO not you, just something I have had since I was a teen...
Would you want to say that to someone on a first or second date and jump in the sack???
Men can fake orgasm all that well, lets face it, a woman is going to notice that the condom is empty... There is a certain feel, and even though everyone is different, yeah most people aware of their partner knows the difference...
Don't get me wrong, if people are comfortable with jumping in the sack after a first date, no issues with me... HOWEVER if you are finding that the gal is backing away, then it would seem sex happened to soon...
Sensitive enlightened women understand that men on a first round, even if it isn't a first date, can have penis anxiety, and things not work like the guy would like... Heck women can have the same issues, however some can fake a touch more convincingly than a man...
Answer, you have to be able to talk to you lady, and if you don't know her well enough, then perhaps it wouldn't be a bad idea to get to know her better...
Heck I have had guys I never met explain they had that issue, and felt nervous getting to know me, or a person... TMI, but then again I am pretty easy to talk to, so I guess spilling their lifes issue was never a problem....
I agree with the others that said it is a LOT of work, and women do feel like they have failed the man if he doesn't cum like a Russian racing horse...
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 2:23:22 AM |
Sensitive enlightened women understand that men , , , can have penis anxiety
Penis envy, penis anxiety, penis proportions, penis endurance, penis preferences, penis haircuts- lol. What's next? Penis pie filling?  The penultimate, profligate, pervasive penis!
Heck women can have the same issues, however some can fake a touch more convincingly than a man...
Good! I'd much rather talk about pvssies, and their owners. Lol Hmm, "fake a touch"- I don't know this phrase. A feint, maybe? Penii lunge, pvssies bob and weave?
Not goofin' on ya, Nexthyme. Just bored to oblivion here. Btw, I faked an O once, but no condoms were involved. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:07:14 AM | its simple ...learn to fake it ..thats the only answer ...women are great at demanding understanding from men but are lousy at understanding when things dont go right for the guy ...and I dont care what most people say ..a guy can fake and the woman will never know ...I have had the same issue as you during different stages in m life ... and have never had a woman know when I fake it ...unless you let them know that you are having trouble ..most women dont check the condom to see if it is full..or test the wet spot to see if it is from her or you ....they will never know unless you let them know you are having trouble ... learn how to decide when it is not going to happen then put on your act ..and everyone will be happy ... in fact you probably will be praised as a great lover ..it is too late to fake if you let them know you are having problems
take my word for it not lasting long enough is a bigger problem...if you dont cum but fake it at just the right time ..you will gain the reputation of being a sex master ... I know been there done that and no one has ever had a clue ...but you have to put on a good act ...women pay attention to detail ... how you think you act when you cum and how you really act is different and women will sense the difference ..women have a faking advantage here because women act a large variety of ways when cumming ..plus most guys are not paying attention to the details of her orgasm either
.. next time you really have a orgasm force your self to pay attention to detail and then you can convincingly fake it ...problem is most guys have no idea what they do when they are cumming ....they are too into the moment to pay attention ...one little detail that many fakers neglect both men and women ..is that almost every one man or women immediately after cumming for real... either cough or clear their throat ...I dont know why but if your woman or man dont do it they most likely are faking | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:56:21 AM | My advice... be open and honest with women about it.... before it becomes an issue.
I've been with a man like that... in fact, dated him for about six months. The "problem" continued, if you want to call it that... but I didn't see it as a "problem" really.... not once he told me that he often couldn't finish. He told me about it before we ever got into bed, but I still took it personally, feeling I was "inadequate" in some way.... but after the second time we had a bit of a talk on it and he explained things to me.... and I accepted it. We dated for several months, and it was never really a problem.... the relationship ended for other reasons. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:04:58 AM | Please, for the love of *insert your choice here*, please do NOT fake anything. Ever. What a horrible disservice you do to yourself and your partner then.
I have a hard trigger myself. I've come to accept it. First times suck, so unless you are a complete d*ck in bed... not orgasming the first time with someone isn't going to be a deal breaker for me. If you're having fun, and enjoying yourself, it's all good baby!!
For myself... just be honest. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:35:27 AM | I don't honestly think the women aren't coming back because you didn't cum.
......more likely it's because they didn't cum....
and I agree.........just be honest | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:49:17 AM | Note the
especially after a few drinks
Slap your self in the head.
Yes it is common after drinking, first times and if you don't feel a connection with the person.
Don't fake it..
Plus a thread search will show you lots of opinions as this was just done to death by a woman poster...
Don't think she mentioned the drinking. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:50:49 AM | I have a question! If you know the drinking makes you unable to perform than why drink? Aren`t you being selfish by your own admission?
I think you need to look deeply inside yourself and stop worrying if you should fake anything. Your body is telling you what you`re doing wrong.. It also could be your not receiving enough vitamins in your system, which is a huge problem as to why you`re having erection issues...What woman in her right mind wants to be with a man that is unable to finish? What pleasure`s is she receiving from you`re lack of non-performance? I`m just curious why anyone would allow that to happen to himself when engaging in making love,especially for the first time with a new partner...It`s all about Chemistry and maturity... Is it any wonder they`re running away....
Good Luck... | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 5:20:14 AM | | I imagine a lot of women in that situation would be left thinking they weren't sexy enough/good enough in bed/unattractive ... we all "know" its easier for men to get off than women, and if he can't, you're left wondering what you did wrong, or what you didn't do, that caused it. So to answer your question - how do girls feel when the guy can't finish - they feel inadequate. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 5:26:13 AM |
So to answer your question - how do girls feel when the guy can't finish - they feel inadequate.
Another compelling argument for communicating, before, during and after.
Sex, whether neither, either or one partner "finishes" should be a great and bonding experience; it's another form of intimacy, at its' best. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 6:57:05 AM |
A lot of women just don't return my phone calls after the first time.
I don't think this has anything to do with finishing. Like you I have the same problem. So instead women want to please me, and want to help me achieve and orgasm. Why? Because instead of me trying to get my rocks off, I was trying to please them and concentrated of them achieving an orgasm. So change your paradigm. And they will change their perspective. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:17:29 AM | | Having dated a couple of guys that have had this issue, it really is all about the communication. Especially before the clothes fly. If someone knows what may happen and can kind of prepare for it-less drama and anxiety for all. If it is a surprise or not mentioned till after the deed? It will sound like a bad excuse and make a woman feel like she isn't enough so the guy is trying to be kind. If a woman doesn't feel good enough about things(due to poor communication) she will leave. Simple huh? | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 8:35:57 AM | I''ve had a partner like this and it bothered me at first, but He sure makes sure I'm happy, so, guess what? I'm happy. It happens mostly in the first part of a new relationship. The more relaxed you get with one another, it will Cum. (hehehe)
It would not be a deal breaker for me on a new relationship. Patience is sometimes very rewarding.
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 1:35:51 PM |
its simple ...learn to fake it ..thats the only answer ...women are great at demanding understanding from men but are lousy at understanding when things dont go right for the guy
Hold your horses there... That is a sweeping generalization, which would doesn't make any more sense than saying men are unable to be sensitive to what women need...
Deerdog, would you honestly feel like the MAN if you knew that the woman you were with was just faking it??? Would you feel like you did it for her, if she was so eager to pretend it was all good, when in reality you did nothing for her???
Communication, and knowing what makes your own body work is key... If it takes a long time, then it takes a long time... There are great supplements that can help with the it is taking me forever... A person just has to be willing to experiment, AND to be willing to know their partner well enough to know if she is understanding, or will think less of you...
Men can be the very same way, if they find out she's been faking, their ego gets deflated real fast.. Some men could give to shyts less, and as long as they get their's who cares what is good or not for her...
I would like to think this isn't the majority, but since I am NOT a pro in this area... I still think people should be honest instead of trying to pretend... People do notice.... | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:33:53 PM | | I've had a relationship with someone who had this problem. I didn't see it as a problem for me. Generally sex went on for quite a while and that seemed pretty good to me. Sometimes he did eventually orgasm and sometimes he didn't. As long as we both enjoyed ourselves along the way I didn't see a problem. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:40:21 PM | | I've dated a couple people like this and they have both told me up front that this is the way they are and that makes it ok. It's better to be upfront or, at least, if it does happen, let them know then that it happens from time to time. | |
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| How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:44:49 PM | Truly? as long as you do me well, and make me all happy, it's all good. But if you think you're gonna pump for two hours trying to get yours, you're FOS. I'm not aiming for callouses down there, tyvm. If I've gotten mine, and I'm starting to get sore, you better start taking care of yourself, at least until I've gotten some energy back. If you know it's not going to happen, just curl up with me and we'll go to sleep. It's all good. Who knows, maybe you'll wake up at 3AM for another round and be able to get yours!
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