| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:33:14 PM | I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now. We usually see each other just once a week. Well, the other night I was talking to him, and he said that he would invite me over, except that his apartment was a little messy. (I've been over to his place before - it's immaculate). I was a little confused and said I didn't care what his place looked like. The subject changed for a little while and then I asked if he was trying to invite me over. He said he wasn't.
My question is - why the heck would a guy say something like that? And totally out of the blue? It wasn't like I invited myself over and he had to hand me an excuse. I wasn't even angling toward inviting myself over because I had no plans to go out at all. Then out of nowhere he says that. I really would have loved to have seen him - it was like someone telling you "I was going to bring you a hot fudge sundae, then decided not to." What kind of sense does this make? | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:38:50 PM | Sounds like he thought it was somehow implied that he should invite you over. I.e, he feels like he should or that he wants to, because you're getting to know each other better and that's what friends and love interests do. Bottom line, it's on his mind. He probably does want to invite you over. Maybe he's floating a balloon to get a reaction. Time will tell soon enough. But it doesn't sound like anything weird, or that he's about to ditch you. I would relax.
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:39:08 PM | Could be a couple things, but the first thing that came to my mind is that he was trying to guage your reaction to let him know where he stood with you. He might have also been trying to impress you with his cleanliness.  | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:49:16 PM | | Lots of guys try to invite you over to "watch a movie" right away or so I have heard from girls. It is probably good that he stopped he is probably of decent intentions | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:07:24 PM | | As others have said, it's most likely for a perfectly good reason... as long as you're sure there's no wife or girl friend who wouldn't appreciate the company. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:28:41 PM | | sounds like a rather clumsy trial balloon, as has been mentioned. but if you would like to get together with him in private, you could invite him over to your place. if he turns THAT down, that'll tell you something you don't need to puzzle over in the forums. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:39:03 PM | | Sounds like silence filler to me. Didn't know what to say, so say something kinda dumb. Everybody does it. I wouldn't read too much into it. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:39:18 PM |
My apartment is messy = I have a headache
Ironic you should say that, given that thumb pic of you holding your head that way | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:48:08 PM | You'll have to explain how the conversation led to him saying that.
" I was talking to him, and he said..."
You left out the part about what you were talking to him about. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:56:39 PM | I have to agree Landra...
Somewhere OP he got the idea that you were wanting to come over.
He really could have had a messy apt or just didnt' want company.
I have used that excuse a few times...
Either way no big deal... You have only dated a couple of weeks. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:10:03 PM | | Many men unknowingly send cross messages by this. Like you said you got a message which wasent intended how you interpreted it. I am sure the guy by saying what he said means, he would like you to come over but is it appropriate to be so foward? Usually when a man invites someone over its for more than hot fudge sundaes, although that may be a benefit to. Men are pressured doing the inviting and asking and maybe he thought being to foward might drive you away, or might be too early to have you come over during the night. How would a women feel about being asked to come over a guys home in the evening? | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:18:48 PM | | Weird. Kind of passive agressive, too. I'd interpret it like "I'd like to invite you over some day, but not tonight." | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:25:58 PM | Clearly this guy is still playing the field and never knows who will be coming over that night. I would look elsewhere because it seems like he is just keeping you on the back burner. If I didn’t get psycho feeling from a girl that I was into than I would allow here over more than once a week. Especially if I liked her allot than I would want her over more!
Good Luck! | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:42:26 PM | | Mademoiselle, this is a perception issue then anything real. I can say, "I was going to rob you, but decided not to." Now you may see this as a positive thing, but ofcourse not me because now I have to find someone else to rob. So you see, your argument is flawed at best and its more of a feeling then something logical but again its how you decide to perceive it. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/21/2009 11:15:37 PM | You have been dating him for 2 weeks and seeing him once a week.. so you have only seen him twice.. dam I'm such a maths genius
He wanted to see you and yet he couldn't because his apartment was in a mess?? what a lame excuse. If he really wanted to see you and his apartment was indeed a mess, he would have run around like a headless chicken and within 10 minutes his apartment would have been clean as a whistle. If a guy gave me this dumb lame excuse then the siren bells would have started to ring, the red flags would have gone up and that would have been the end of that wonderful little relationship
Move on sister.. and happy fishing | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/22/2009 3:48:41 AM | it is sooooo........ simple
don't listen to the other guys' psychobabble
read that book: "He's Just Not That Into You"
you haven't?
obviously | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:27:17 AM | | Maybe he got the impression that you wanted to come over, but didn't feel up to it. It could mean anything from deception to honesty. I'd let it go and wait to see what his next move is. If this becomes a pattern, then you need to decide if these excuses work for you. After all, you could have just gone out, no? Do all of your meetings take place in his apartment? | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:47:13 AM | | I had guys say the most stupid, weirdest, right of the batt things to me, and when I posted here in ask a guy to find out why, I was told by guys that this is how guys talk.. they talk to make no sense. Happy fishing. | |
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| I'd Like To See You, But...
Posted: 10/23/2009 4:24:55 PM | I was gonna invite you over.
But then I decided that I didn't WANT you over.
BTW, my name says it all sister! | |
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