| Friends and money Never Mix
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:22:54 PM | It never amazes me how the shortest way to dissolve a friendship is to involve money.
Today I dropped off some concert tickets I decided not to use to a friend at her hair salon (she and her brother own it) She told me she didn't have the money for the tickets right at that moment, I believed her and told her I would see her tonight at a bar that she also works at.
I show up at the bar and find out she traded shifts with another waitress.
The thing that kicks me is that she stands to lose more (financially) than me. I sent brides to her for hairdressing referrals, other friends as well as myself.
Why do people do this?
All over $100.00; I wasn't even asking for more than face value for the tix.
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| Friends and money Never Mix
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:54:58 PM | Don't you think you are jumping the gun abit here? Yes, she may be wrong in not making sure she paid you today .... but aren't you gonna feel silly if she finds you tomorrow and pays you?
As to the title of your thread though ... that is often so true, "Friends and money never mix". | |
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| Friends and money Never Mix
Posted: 10/21/2009 11:05:52 PM | Have to second that. Way jumping the gun there, buddy.
You may be absolutely right but you could be so far from right that it's unbelievable as well.
Give it a day or so and find out for sure.
And yes, friends or family and money don't mix. If you end up lending or giving something without getting payment immediately, do so with the expectation of not getting paid. If you do, it's great, but if not, too bad. And it's for you to decide ahead of time whether the value of what you're potentially giving up is worth wrecking a friendship or family relationship over. If you cannot afford to lose it, then don't give it. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 4:54:59 AM | | i was friendly with a gal until she said to me one day:"You are rich and I am not,so you owe me". I do not consider myself rich though I did inherit a few $$$.Huwever she revealed herself to be a 'Taker" and I just cannot tolerate that kind of person as a friend.Now she says I am a homeless hoarder!!! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 6:00:05 AM | Sticks and stones may break our bones
But names should never hurt us.
A little rhyme I learned many years ago, and so often think of when name calling starts to rear it's ugly head. When that happens, you have to turn a deaf ear to what they say and know that you are above returning the insults.
I lent a room-mate $250.00 a little over 40 years ago, still hasn't paid me back, but I learned a couple things from that. If you lend money to a "friend", put something on paper and make them sign it before giving over the money. If you give money to a family member, put something in writing if it is to be repaid, and any conditions you both agreed to.
I have lent money to my kids, they sign, they repay. They have come to realize that getting money for some mistake they made costs more than that initial mistake, just my way of helping them cope with what life costs today. | |
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| Friends and money Never Mix
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:13:39 AM | I agree that friends and money rarely mix, but I also think you need to take a step back and breathe. There could be a million reasons as to why she switched shifts, something may have come up, maybe one of her kids got sick (if she has any), she had plans, who knows.
I think it's a bit premature to be accusing her of not paying before finding out the facts. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 6:17:14 AM | I spoke to her last night on facebook live chat. She wasn;t at the bar last night - because she got into an argument with another friend at dinner and there were drinks thrown, names called, etc....
She "didn't feel up to working tonight"
Made another meeting to try meet up and get paid.
SHoulda just auctioned the tix on kiigigi | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 6:45:09 AM | You know the other saying, "If you lend someone $20, and never see that person again; it was probably worth it. "
Assuming she doesn't pay you back, at least you know what kind of a friend she is now - and $100 isn't that much to find that out. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:59:34 AM | | something missing here...you say you had tickets you were not going to use anyway..so if you didnt use them, you would have been out your $100 anyway..did you offer these tickets to your friend or did she ask for them..in your offer was it to sell them or give them or did you offer her a discount rate just to get rid of them and not lose the whole $100? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:03:50 AM | | It's so interesting that the amount of money is almost totally meaningless; the reaction is always the same. My latest screwing was for 425 bucks and it makes me as mad as the larger losses I've had. Strange thing, money. --- Maybe she didn't really want to go to the concert and was thinking she was doing you a favour by taking them. Whatever, maybe you could tell her she's covered for xmas presents now. Then it won't be a total loss and you'll feel better about the thing. "Kids up Front" is a great place to donate tickets, although I'm not sure the concert tix you had would have been appropriate. They'll happily take most kinds of tickets. I don't know if you'd have any luck selling them on "kigigi". | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 9:01:05 AM | hhheeellllllllllllloooo??? it's KIJIJI !!!
I'm in total agreement, money + anything don't mix. Money suks if you have it, suks if you don't!
@ Mobile: I think it was really inconsiderate of her to let you show at her work and fawk you over. I'd skip the whole thing and just ask her for the tickets back -- I'd rather see them in the garbage than put up with being treated like a door mat. JMO tho. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 9:53:29 AM | One day doesn't make him a doormat. Sure she seems a little flaky but a day is a bit quick to jump to the conclusion that someone is getting f'ed over.
OP wait a day and see what happens... | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 12:42:56 PM | No Mobile, she's screwed you over twice.....once when you PERSONALLY delivered the tickets to her (and she didn't have $100 bucks in the till to give you)......second time you went out of your way AGAIN to go to her night job to get what she owed you, and she didn't have the courtesy to phone you so you could save a trip ---
yup, just get the tickets back, don't be a door mat.
How does that ol' sayin go? Once bitten, twice shy ----- | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 1:59:32 PM | good freindships are worth more than any amount of money. if you can not afford to lose it then do not lend it.
simply chalk it up as a learning experiance and dont do it again unless, it is a gift. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 3:19:30 PM | heres a good personal adage. if you cant afford to give it away as a gift, dont give it away as a loan.
personally i dont see thhe big deal. it was after all YOUR idea to offer them too her. she will pay you when she pays you, give up the loan shark angle n take a chill pill
a 100 dollar lesson iis well worth it to find out if someone is as good as their word. one such lesson cost me 5000 bucks , lesson learned......... never a lender or borrower be!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 4:29:51 PM | | Re msg 13-Hey Sambo do you still admit to being a Leaf fan ? Anti Elvis thinks they are a joke-more like choke yet again. Guess I have to admit to being a fan too.Sorry off topic I know!!! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 6:24:12 PM |
Re msg 13-Hey Sambo do you still admit to being a Leaf fan ?
I'm still a leafs fan as well.
Yes I know they're in the tank right now. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 11:19:58 PM | 1) No there is no end in sight. The leafs have swiss cheese for defence, a hard ass for a coach and 2 Back up goaltenders masquerading as a starter and back up. It's gonna be a loooooong season in Hog-Town.
2) I'm disappointed to say I went to the pub again tonight and she did not have the 100.00 bucks, So rather than make a scene in front of her boss and co-workers I asked her come outside "for a smoke" and she returned the tickets to me without me asking for them.
So I guess I'm gonna go to the show after all.
BTW the tickets were for PITBULL at the Edmonton Event Centre. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 7:00:14 AM | Pitbull!. You mean Mr 305? You mean Calle Ocho? I love that stuff
Useless Facts:
- Calle Ocho = 8th Street, which is the main drag in Little Havana, Miami.
- At the start of the song he says "75 Street Brazil" which is reference to the song he steals the sample from . The song is actually "75 Brasil Street"
- Cuban rumba is an extremely sexy dance
Most importantly:
Many of you have asked "AE, what's your imaginary GF look like anyways?" Well I'm pleased to say that she is the girl at the start of this video wearing the Brasilian shirt (with colours). Ella e gatinha ! Here she is.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2tMV96xULk | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:59:08 AM | OP sorry she let you down. She sounds a little on the flaky side... but at least you got the tickets back  | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 12:59:19 PM | | Well AE, it seems that we have the same taste in women. I would like to fly on that one womans airline. Haha. Not really into the Cuba Rumba rap myself. But hey, there is always room for musical tastes. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 3:40:31 PM | Anti Elvis you get a knuckle sandwich cuz I have saudades!!!Now I have to write to my friend in SP!!! At least I don't have to do it in Portuguese. Uma cerveza stupidamente frio par voce! | |
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| Friends and money Never Mix
Posted: 10/23/2009 5:51:48 PM |
I would like to fly on that one womans airline. Haha. Not really into the Cuba Rumba rap myself. But hey, there is always room for musical tastes.
LOL, yeah, there's always room for musical tastes especially when they come with hot mocha skin chicks in leather pilot caps.
BTW, did you pay attention to the pilot girl? That's um, some smile on her when Pitbull sings about the..um...cockpit.
/end dawg like male behaviour. | |
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| Friends and money Never Mix
Posted: 10/23/2009 9:30:59 PM | in 20o3 i met a lady and dated her for a while; at the time I wasn't ready for a commitment, and made that quite clear. This lady was in dire striaghts due to unpaid alimony. Her and kids were in fear of being kicked out of their rental. Utilities and rent were way behind. I offered to help her (bail her out) no strings. I only asked that she pay it back when she was able. I had such affections and respect for this lady I gave her $900 to pay off what was needed; with the caveat that i would get it back "when she was able". As of now i might as well have flushed it down the toilet cause that's as good as it gets. Do women look for guys like me or do i have a sign on my forehead lmao
not gonna mention the $800 to another lady pro bono lol who offered to pay back but hasn't. a sucker born every min i guess | |
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