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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:10:24 PM | | ok so i was talking to this one guy, and we hung out alot of over the summer I met he's parents and whole family, and he met mine. he kept saying how he wanted to be with me but he had to focus on taking he's LSAT but after that we would start dating. so a few days after hes test i txted him asking how he did, and then asked about what was up with us... he says he's too busy with school right now i told him it was cool i would get over it...i still have feelings for him but am unsure how he feels at this point and i feel like he might still too but im not sure what to do? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:13:18 PM | "feelings" what FEELINGS can you have for a guy you JUST MET?? Lust? Horny? Ok.. so call him and ask for a bootycall.. remember your profile??
"I am also very laid back and am up for anything new and fun."
So go have some FUN.. and remember.. those FEELINGS are lust.. pure lust | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:17:33 PM | Personally OP, I think he was being sincere. Look, you're 20 years old - at a stage of your life where when you are at school, you have almost no life whatsoever if you are in college. I don't recall ever breathing between 18 to 26 due to engineering school.
What you had was a summer romance, and they can be great. However, now the summer is over. You both have to now live your normal lives, and his is just plain booked. If you want a relationship, I suggest you find someone a little less booked.
I wish for you the best. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:23:30 PM | Yup Lovie, I agree with with other posters...
Read your profile...you got what you ordered....Plain and simple. Live and learn.
Take care. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:29:10 PM | | lol, if you honestly talked like that to him then I see why he may acting like that. Don't say to a guy it's cool and you will get over it. It sounds almost like a defense mechanism and you almost go on the offensive. Be strong and just tell him what you desire. Always tell a man you miss him or something if it's how you really feel. If you get a negative response then it's him who is the problem. But, you kinda gave him a negative response by what you said. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:33:05 PM | | what you should do is go get some classes on how to act like a lady, learn to read and write. then a nice guy might take you serious | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:41:40 PM | | OP, I really think you know how to be a lady. However, the thing is that you can't be both the party girl and someone searching for a long term relationship. From your profile, it sure looks like you're the party girl. Who know, maybe your profile is not doing you justice. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:56:48 PM | Ah, to be young and clueless again.
You are so young at 20, and so is he, that you think a few days is a long time. He's (hopefully really) focusing on his education, and therefore making a viable future for himself, and who ever he chooses to spend his time with. You should do the same at this stage in your life. You'll feel very strong attachments to guys like this,and they will likely come and go quickly. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:34:29 PM | | Your wasting time texting, tell him you have something important to talk about and invite him to meet you for coffee/beverage at a local place. That would be a first date, enjoy the time and see how he likes spending some time with you. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:39:20 PM | Sounds as if you would like him to fit you into his life. May I suggest an alternative view?
A man who is devoted to the one he loves will not "fit" a woman into his life. He will carve out a place in his life for her. Heck, he will find a way to transcend the time/space continuum for her (credit to a guy who previously posted this on here...can't remember who). He will see you as being worth it.
Do you see yourself as being worth it? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:39:26 PM | Meeting the parents, friends, family....he's preparing to be committed to his education, so he may be enjoying hanging out with you and bringing you along when he's hanging out with his parents, friends and family because he knows that once his educational commitments kick in, his time will be limited.
Been there done that, at a different time and phase in MY life, but the commitment to education....it's very serious and sucks out time for more personal stuff.
I can only speak for me as an OLDER woman, much older woman, who recommitted to education at a much advanced age....it's a decision I never regretted.
He has people and relationships in his life that are established and will always be there. They're supportive of his decision, it's a great one, so don't think it's anything to do with you.
I made the decision and stuck with it and persued it. Regrets, no...sacrifices...yes. I was a single mom with young children, and my parents living. Would I have wanted so much more to spend time with them, YES! Did they support me....YES! Time to date....ehh..not seriously, couldn't get that involved, but I was honest and upfront about that. And noone that I met for a quick drink after work, a lunch, or a game of pool in between finishing up a homework assignment.
If you care about him, be supportive. Understand what he's committing to, not saying put your life on hold, but geez...you should be doing the same. Finding something you have as much passion for that you would dedicate years of your life to. Understand that's what he's doing...you should be giving him a high five! Wow a man with determination, dedication, drive and amibition....you may want to take a page of his notebook. Just saying but it doesn't appear, first off that you understand, secondly that you couldn't appreciate, so yes it may be a summer fling. He's not the right person for you and you're not right for him. You don't get that, he does.
So when he gets a lesser grade on a test that he's studied his azz off for, and he wants someone to talk to and vent....it won't be you. Whoever it is, when he walks across that stage and gets his diploma, he won't be scanning the audience to see you there.
"A man who is devoted to the one he loves will not "fit" a woman into his life. He will carve out a place in his life for her. Heck, he will find a way to transcend the time/space continuum for her (credit to a guy who previously posted this on here...can't remember who). He will see you as being worth it.
Do you see yourself as being worth it?" Well said and with MUCH less words....haha! Go have fun, and find the laid back fun loving guy, this one isn't. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 9:21:52 PM | Madame,
If he's into you, he'll come for you. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 9:58:51 PM | Oh to be 20 again, and not so jaded.
Darlin', I think he's made his choice and it ain't you. for now, at least, he's committed to education, and by golly, I think he's making a smart choice. I remember taking the LSAT and that first year of law school. I was married and there wasn't a whole lotta time for much else.
If you and the young lad are to have anything in the future you are just gonna have to wait him out - but don't expect much from him, if'n he is in law school he is occupied if he is expecting to excel.
TK | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 11:43:51 PM | You hit the nail right on the head by saying “I still have feelings for him” and you ar3e making things really hard for yourself by saying “I am unsure how he feels at this point and i feel like he might still too”.
Bottom line here is regardless of HIM and what HE feels or MIGHT feel, what do YOU want to do? Of course you can wait until he changes what he wants down the road or you can think that you do not want to wait for a “maybe” and keep looking till he is ready… if he ever is ready. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 12:13:49 AM | | He needs to focus on his education. If he's worth waiting until next summer for then, by all means, hold out. Otherwise, focus on your own education and see what happens. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 1:21:43 AM | You don't seem to be in the same place with priorities.
Let it go.
Do you see yourself as being worth it?"
Well said. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 6:40:41 AM |
Mve on...He has... Like paz said
Yes and being open to new and fun stuff like you are, should be a no brainer.
Wow paz..great crotch shot of a thumb nail pic
Can I borrow that idea? I hate to plagiarize material/ideas with out asking.... | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 6:55:16 AM |
Wow paz..great crotch shot of a thumb nail pic Can I borrow that idea?
OHHH, by all means, please do! Although, somehow I think that you'd have the decency to clean up the room first... pretty nasty, Dude.
OP, you deserve better. Move on. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 12:24:44 PM |
learn to read and write. then a nice guy might take you serious
Wow--this advice from someone with no caps and a missing -ly? I guess you 'think different' than I.
OP the *actions* of people will tell you more than their words.
People will often say something other than the truth b/c they think the truth is too difficult to say or hear.
If he was truly interested he would have made time. | |
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