| People With No Conversation Skills
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:23:07 PM | | Ok, I've been using online dating for about a couple of month and seriously is the education system in the U.S. this bad. Some people on here and other sites that I've emailed would answer with only one or two words. I mean some of their profiles ask the other person to write a meaningful message to them yet when they get one and decide to reply it usually ends up like this "lol yeah." I've even gotten a "It's fun" before when I asked a girl what is the most interesting part about her job and why. I mean if you have the time to answer a message at least make an effort so that the conversation can continue and if you don't want the conversation to continue why in the blue hell would you answer the message in the first place. It just common sense no interest then don't reply at all if your interested reply with something meaning and just like the other person ask a question back. I'm of course referring to a first message to a person and then a reply back. | |
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| People With No Conversation Skills
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:25:44 PM | | They're just being polite. A lot of people complain if they don't get a response. By not offering up a uber response, they're showing you that they aren't interested but taking the time to respond none the less. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:28:24 PM | | Yeah I've heard that a lot and believe it to be complete ********. You could just avoid the person by not replying to his or her message at all and if they send another message "Block Them" easy as that. No Fuss No Muss. Your not helping the guy or girl if your being polite to them by replying. It's like saying hey I don't like you so maybe you'll go away if I reply to you but in a very short manner. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:42:08 PM | | Be happy that you got a few words, most dont respond and just delete it. I would think just a few words was being polite but they arent intrested, so they just humor you instead of saying what would bring closure to your inquiry email. I like when someone thanks you for the email but that your not my type. That states it well, no offense and good reason not to write a more discriptive response to the email. | |
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| People With No Conversation Skills
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:54:04 PM | | I have found that with some women it is a feeling out process and the more they get comfortable talking to you the longer the responses and the better the conversations... | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 9:21:29 PM | | Once you start getting two word responses, it never stops. Honestly, if you're not going to put effort into it, it's better to not respond at all. Stop wasting our time and yours. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 9:32:16 PM | | what about the people who email you and then don't ask anything about you and just go on about themselves? My god that is annoying, uh hello you contacted me, brush up on your flipping social skills. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 10:41:05 PM | I agree. They should all be shot execution style. JK.
Seriously though, you are the one picking these shing stars of academia. Excuse me while I muffle my laugh.
Usually this is a sign of lukewarm interest. They like you enough to keep you around for a rainy day but don't think you're worth wasting keystrokes on. You're better off w/o them. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 10:41:39 PM | | really, if I could just find someone who could self spell-check I'd be happy. there is nothing more unattractive than a grown-ass man who can't spell, especially in my age group. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 11:02:40 PM | Im continuously amazed at ppl whining about others simply coz they dont respond or even if they do they dont respond to the satisfaction of the whinee ...
is the education system in the U.S. this bad.
Let me tell you a lil secret .. its NOT the education system ... that stops ppl from talking to you ...
they just dont want to talk to you ...
Why do you believe your owed a conversation ... let alone the time of day here by anyone ... | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 12:31:56 AM | OP -- If you ever question the ability and effectiveness of the US educational system...just pop open a random post and start counting the errors.
When you get to triple digits...quit wasting your time.
All you need to do is take a look almost anywhere on these boards and see both the young and old who clearly failed at English. Those who have ESL are excluded - at least they try and make it look passable. The rest just fail and look ridiculous doing it. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 1:12:53 AM | "Let me tell you a lil secret .. its NOT the education system ... that stops ppl from talking to you ...
they just dont want to talk to you ...
Why do you believe your owed a conversation ... let alone the time of day here by anyone ..."
You missed the point.
The OP is right. If you don't want to talk to someone, don't. Responding back with a couple words "lol sup" wastes time for both parties. It has an action that has zero benefits but creates harm (by wasting time). | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:04:53 AM | I think all the guys in this thread should open a "...why don't women respond...?" thread and tell them to stop posting with complaints about women who respond because it's causing you to get half azz responses from uninterested women.
Make up your minds, dudes!
When we respond politely though uninterested, we're leading men on. When we don't respond at all we're rude and inconsiderate of the time and effort it took to put together a "thoughtful e-mail". Pick one and be done with it. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:45:42 AM |
Yeah I've heard that a lot and believe it to be complete ********. You could just avoid the person by not replying to his or her message at all and if they send another message "Block Them" easy as that. No Fuss No Muss. Your not helping the guy or girl if your being polite to them by replying. It's like saying hey I don't like you so maybe you'll go away if I reply to you but in a very short manner.
What I truly love about threads like this one is the belief that people should act strictly in accordance to how the OP believes they should act. Any deviance from this is judge as wrong.
While I would rather not get a reply if the person is not interested, I do not feel it is a waste of my time to read a simple polite reply from someone who is not interested. So it took a whole minute to click on the message in your inbox and read two words. I waste more time than that trying to decide what beer to order. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:48:00 AM | | It could be that for people who are used to online chat and phone texting, the short messages are normal, whereas for people who write emails a longer message is expected. The one line message is a chat conversation skill, but not a pen pal skill. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 9:04:17 AM | Maybe if they had written something more backatchya you could tease out for sure whether it's lack of any real interest or just that they're morons. Since they didn't, you can't. Of course, large helpings of both can produce the same net result since either alone suffices.
Since only ~10-15% of the US population is fully literate you're always pretty safe assuming you're dealing with a dumbsh1t until proven otherwise or unless there are very clear indications that you aren't from the start. | |
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| People With No Conversation Skills
Posted: 10/23/2009 9:51:59 AM |
You could just avoid the person by not replying to his or her message at all and if they send another message "Block Them" easy as that.
Works for me. The number of clowns who have messaged me in the past, and continuously have been placed right on my blocklist. I can't tell you how EASY it is to simply hit the block option.
what about the people who email you and then don't ask anything about you and just go on about themselves? My god that is annoying, uh hello you contacted me, brush up on your flipping social skills.
I know exactly how that is. I particularly ::cough:: enjoy the one's who send their little "About me" through email, and then tell the recipient to view their profile to see if he/she would have any interests in them. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:02:48 AM | It's your age pool.
Just insert like, uh a bunch of like times. Then like you'll get more yaknow, yaheard,like uh you know and some whatevers
Dude.. it's a great filter. It lets you filter out those women who are clueless BEFORE all the blood leaves your head in a southern rush south to your pecker.. leaving you speechless anyway.. like uh.. ya know? | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:20:50 AM |
Ok, I've been using online dating for about a couple of month and seriously is the education system in the U.S. this bad.
Yes. it is. Can't you tell from reading the forums? I find that people from foreign countries for whom English is a second (or third or...) language are better able to spell and compose a sentence. Write a profile that weeds out the idiots. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:45:32 AM | Well, i can agree there, but there are times when the answer in just a few words, i am sure i would be better at it in person, but online it can be difficult to talk about anything.
Since, i would spend time with someone i like by watching some movies with them and then going for a nice walk, get something to eat and then eat together, talking about the movie and then which movie they would want to watch next.
But online its hard to find something to talk about extensively and when i do find something, they find it dumb and get bored of me. lol | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 12:37:12 PM | I think all the guys in this thread should open a "...why don't women respond...?" thread and tell them to stop posting with complaints about women who respond because it's causing you to get half azz responses from uninterested women.
Make up your minds, dudes!
When we respond politely though uninterested, we're leading men on. When we don't respond at all we're rude and inconsiderate of the time and effort it took to put together a "thoughtful e-mail". Pick one and be done with it.
You don't get it. Receiving lame two word responses after sending a thoughtful message to someone just irritates us. We know the woman is not interested after two or three of those. Either don't respond or show some courtesy and just write "thanks for the message, but I'm not interested." Is that so difficult? | |
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| People With No Conversation Skills
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:01:11 PM | | Evidently women find it difficult to say they are not interested, or at the very least delete the message right away to give you a strong hint. It is strange though, since I somehow picked up the idea that women were better communicators but this site proves otherwise. | |
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| People With No Conversation Skills
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:04:44 PM | bad conversation skills, unless they're due to nerves on a first date or whatever tend to signal to me that there's a definite lack of compatibility.
Me: " So have you traveled much...I've been to many places like Paris, all over England etc..."
Her: " Oh god no...though there was that one time I went to the dominican with my gf's and got hammered...I met this really cute american guy..."
OR
Me: "So what's your take on the whole health care debate in the U.S.?"
Her: " I'm more into fashion..."
Me: "ugh...I mean...I need to get something out of the car...be right back....vroom vroom...SCREEEECH !!!!" | |
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