| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:25:10 AM | Hey POFers, I need your opinion on this REAL LIFE Situation.
Did I miss something??
The scenario includes 2back to back dates.
Date 1 has 14 points.
Date 2 has 12 points.
I used point form as a way to only present facts without being biased.
The scenario/situation is below:
Background:
Girl recently got out of 4.5 yr relationship, lives on her own, in college
Guy recently got out of 3 yr relationship, lives on her own, graduated and is working
**** DATE NUMBER 1 (DAY 1) ****
1. Guy and Girl meet through POF, go on first date. Have dinner, followed by walking & talking
2. Girl invites guy back to her place to walk her dog. Go for a 1.5 hr walk, and then back to her place
3. They sit on her couch and talk for hours. (Total date was 6 hours)
4. Date ends with a hug, guy goes home. All is well
5. Guy and Girl start texting
6. Girl sends this text "Trying to get to bed, it's hard alone"
7. Guy sends text saying, "I could have kept you company if you want"
8. A few more texts exchange and both the night ends
9. Next day, guy texts girl and says he had trouble waking up the next morning
10. Girl texts back and says, "Same here, so it's a good thing that you didn't stay or we would both stay in bed"
11. Guy texts and says "who said that was a bad thing"
12. Girl texts back and says "I’m too cuddly"
13. Guy says "Cuddly is good"
14. Girl says "Always ;)"
**** DATE 2 (the day following date 1) ****
1. Girl invites guy over to watch movie the next day after a boring lecture (night class 7 - 10pm)
2. Girl gives option to watch movie in bed or on couch. Girl says couch is smelly from her dogs, so bed might be a good option (although they spent 2 hours on the same couch the night before)
3. Guy says he likes the bed option
4. Girl and Guy go to girl’s bedroom and put on the movie
5. Guy and girl watch movie in bed, girls legs are across guy and they are sitting close.
6. While in bed talking, girl says she gives really good massages
7. Guy asks for a massage
8. Girl gives massage, guy takes off shirt during massage, massage continues
9. Guy laughing during massage because it tickled. Guy and Girl then start to find each other’s ticklish spots on their bodies
10. Girl complains that the room is too hot and suggests opening the window (note: outside is just a few degrees above freezing)
11. Guy says it’s too cold to open the window
12. In response to guy's objection for opening the window, girl decides to take off her pants, and reveals that she has very short spandex shorts underneath
13. Guy makes a move on girl
14. Girl get’s upset.
Did the guy misread something?????? | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:35:04 AM | | Yes, get a life! Do you really expect us to get a calculator and start the count with you? | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:55:15 AM | Dude,
You jumped the gun. Should have waited until her shirt was off before making your move. Just going from long pants to short was not her signal. Patience my man - you were getting a massage. Why hurry? | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:21:51 AM | Yes, you missed something and so did I.... Um, let's watch a movie in bed because the couch we sat on last night is suddenly too smelly to sit on tonight? Pluh-ease. I'm too cuddly, I give good massages, I'm too hot so I'll take my pants off? Whatever.
You probably didn't do SOMETHING right in her playbook, although she could have at least told you what that was, instead of trying to drop hints and have you read her mind.
Spandex? Seriously?
Someone else got it right - she's nutty. Leave it alone. If you try to pursue something with her, it will be bad news. Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:38:03 AM | | IMO you did nothing wrong. She might as well have had a flashing neon "OPEN" sign on her forehead. She dropped a lot of hints, you went for it, and she freaked out. Her better judgment may have kicked in at the last minute; but come on, the girl is flaky at best. She is also a serious tease...I hate that word but if the shoe fits...Hope you got some sort of explanation for her behavior. Regardless, she needs to get herself together. Expect more of the same if you pursue this. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:48:32 AM | For a long opening post, at least you made it interesting! I usually pass the long ones by. What happened when she freaked out? The whole numbering thing just stopped and I wasn't done reading! Did she kick you out? Any contact since? What exactly did you do when you made your move? So many unanswered questions! Inquiring minds want to know....
Sounds like she wanted to be in the driver's seat. You were just a passenger.  | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:08:01 PM | Lol, too funny. I actually thought at first the Opie was the girl..my apologies.
Opie, she's a tease if she became angry when you reacted to all of her not-so-subtle hints. Or..you did something wrong. Could be the way you kiss (if you kissed her), or perhaps you were too rough, or went for the "kill" too soon..it is hard to say without more information. If all you did was try kissing her and she became upset, then she's definitely a flake and doesn't know what she wants.
And what is with the points thing? | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:35:04 PM | Sorry about the confusion with the "points" thing. I guess points wasn't the right word. I thought numbering the different events would make it easier to follow.
So they are not really points, just order of events. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:01:31 PM | She's a nut case!
I got some weird stories about situations simaliar to yours that I won't even get into,but by all accounts,you had the green light to you're move.
Let's watch the movie on my bed.
I'm good at giving messages.
Boy it sure is getting warm in here.
No,you weren't wrong to try,stay away from her,it'll only worst,trust me on this!! | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:08:42 PM | That was funny! 
She misled you for her own selfishness. Maybe she needed a confidence booster.. OR
maybe OP, you tried to stick your hotdog in the pot before boiling the water.. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:17:37 PM | | It would appear the girl is a P.T., and I’m not talkin’ about Phineas Taylor Barnum (although your last date could qualify as one of the greatest shows on earth). Truly, if there was a “sucker” born every minute, she’d have left you with a smile on your face. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:36:54 PM | Opie,
I agree with the others, she put herself out there. Not all of us are that nutty. However, it sounds [maybe] that her enjoyment isn't in the, "Get'er done," but more of the, "Let's play for awhile." So many folks want to just jump in and out instead of staying for awhile and enjoying the sites. After all, it's not a commando mission. ;)
What's the saying? "Come and stay for awhile."
Good luck fishing!
Izzy | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:39:23 PM | OP -- Wow man...lucky enough to find 2 back to back headcases? Good on you.
Just thinking about the 2nd one...Ms Spandex...unreal. SHE suggests the bedroom to watch a movie. SHE has her legs draped over yours. SHE initiates a chat about massages and THEN proceeds to give one. SHE says "too hot" which is universal speak for "too many clothes still on". SHE removes her pants to show you her...spandex (dude, I'm still killing myself with that). SHE freaks out when a move is made.
Unreal.
That chick is a total c0ck tease.
I'd have called her on as much and promptly left. Mind you I'm not a fan of first date sex anyways, so she woulda gotten the boot regardless. But still...
Head case to the Nth degree. She failed at life.  | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 3:51:34 PM | When people say the give a good massage! Do they really give a good massage? Very few OP...Very few. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 4:13:13 PM | hm .. pretty vague - was the 'move' involved violent? and define "upset"
where does the point system come in?
I need a dating coach | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 5:11:01 PM | | sounds to me maybe the "Guy" made a move to soon, remember the girl may like to be seduced, so maybe the should have went with the flow, then again I know it's hard if the guy got aroused to keep his composure. Did the guy miss something? I don't know, the girl can be hard to read sometimes that's life. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/24/2009 5:56:59 PM | Does anyone know how to edit your original post? I want to take out the reference to the whole "point" thing because it is totally misunderstood :)
Plus I want to update what making the move actually was since people are inquiring about it. | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:34:08 AM | You can't edit your post now...they only give you about 15 minutes to make changes. Just write a new post here now. We'll get what you mean.  | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:09:02 AM | "oh, its hard going to bed alone.... oh my, its hard waking up alone, if you were here we wouldnt get out of bed, im cuddly... oh, the sofa smells like dogs, let's hop into bed... oh my, I give great massages, let me help you undress... oh, its so hot in here, i should open the window, but its too cold.... oh my, let me take my pants off - in bed, next to half naked man who Ive been exploring his body and teasing him.... oh wait? you want to get physical?"
NUTJOB KOOK | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:13:16 AM | Maybe she still had a lot of film rolling in the closet?? Now the movie is going to be cut short and she wont make enough to pay this semesters tuition?
Yup, she is a tease and not a very bright one either. She will do that to the wrong guy sometime. Like they say on POF all the time. You dodged a bullet this time. Better luck next time.
Arp | |
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| Did I miss something???
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:26:58 AM | YUP, you missed a bullet.....and if ya can dodge a bullet, ya can dodge a ball!!! OYE!! | |
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