| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:48:16 PM | | Ok well i've spent the night over his house twice and now he want's me to spend the weekend over there but he work's the weekends and i know that i'm just not ready to spend all day at his place while he's at work and i think it's way to soon for that is it ok if i just tell him that or should i take a chance and spend the weekend next week | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:53:11 PM | | Let HIM know that you think being at his place alone is a little to soon for you, and ensure him that you will let him know when you feel that it is no longer an issure. but do it in a relaxed way so he doesn't feel like he was being to pushy. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:55:08 PM | | It's not like you're locked in the place while he's at work. Do what you want during the day and get back around the time he gets home from work. If you just don't want to stay there at all, then don't. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:59:07 PM | | I think taal is right ... just tell him that when he is at work, it will give you a chance to catch up on things at your house, and do it in a casual manner. If he is sane, he shouldn't care ... after all, it isn't like he can spend time with you when he is at work. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:53:40 PM | Based on what you're saying, you would prefer not to spend the day at his house, PERIOD! Whatever he would think or react to what you want is HIS way of reacting to it and is of no consequence to you.
You are free to do whatever YOU want and the rest of the world has to adjust to that! | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:53:58 PM | | Sounds like FB prison. We love it - i'm not sure it works for babes. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:57:18 PM | | I agree stay if you want don't be there alone if you dont want come back when he is home from work do what works for you | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:57:56 PM | You don' t sound real thrilled about it so why would you? If he's not going to be there all that much anyway, what's the point?
You didn't mention how far you two are apart or how much time he will be at work, which does make a difference. If he is working all day Saturday and all day Sunday, maybe you could just come for Saturday night and go home when he goes to work Sunday morning. If he only works a few hours than go for it, but only if you want to. Is this really the best he has to offer? Does he work every weekend? | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:50:13 AM | The guy sounds a little needy and clingy... jeesh... who would be thrilled about hanging out all weekend while he's at work? what's the point?
Then again, you dont actually sound that thrilled about this guy to begin with... if he was all that and a bag of chips, you might feel differently. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:57:45 AM | Maybe he wants you to clean his entire house while you are there, wash and iron his shirts, and have a 3 course meal cooked for him when he returns? for christs sake girl..put on your running shoes and run as fast as you can | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:17:28 AM | | If you don't want to spend a weekend there just say so. "I don't want to" is a good enough reason. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:57:16 AM | Why would it ever be not okay to voice a discomfort? If you are honest and up front, you have a better chance of a good start in the relationship. Lies about little things can quickly become lies about important things later on. You really should be comfortable enough with him to just say, "hey, why don't we try this on a weekend you're there -- it's not very appealing to spend all that time alone." If he respects that, then cool. If not, he's not stable -- move on sister. Good luck!  | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:22:46 AM | I don't know why he wants you to live there while he's away. Does he also want you to clean up and cook?
Sounds boring to stay at someone's place, and odd that they'd want you to in the first place.
Do what you want to do. If he has an awesome place and you have nothing better to do, then go for it. Otherwise, he should understand. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:29:05 AM | | He wants you to stay there while he is gone so you can ACCIDENTLY find his porn stash and see what kind of freaky monkey love he is into. They explained that one on "Sex in the City" . Whips, Chains, and Rubber Pigs Mask YeeeeeHaaaaaa. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:33:54 AM |
i know that i'm just not ready to spend all day at his place while he's at work
Then don't. What would you do all day, anyway?
…and i think it's way to soon for that is it ok if i just tell him…
Of course.
…or should i take a chance and spend the weekend
Only if you like being furniture. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:35:20 AM | | Maybe he just likes the idea of going home to someone being there.. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:51:54 AM | OP, maybe this is THE test. Just to see if you will scrub his place clean, while he's at work, and greet him when he comes home in just an apron with a wonderful home cooked meal waiting.
By the way, did he also invite your children over for the weekend? If not, who are you planning on dumping your seven month old baby on while you're at his place? Grandma? | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:25:48 AM | | If you're not ready then don't do it. You're worth the wait, and if he doesn't think so, then the sooner you let him go, the better. :) | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:25:32 AM | Ask him if you can call a few friends over to drink up his beer, watch some pay-per-view on his satellite TV, and bake a batch of meth on his stove.
This is moronic. Did he hand you a pair of shackles when he suggested this? | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:33:47 AM | | He isn't trying to lock you in or anything crazy like that, the invitation is more likely a display of trust, since you be able to basically browse through anything he owns at your leisure. This is a way of him showing you he has nothing to hide from you. | |
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| Sleep over's
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:00:56 AM | | He did invite my childreen to stay as well he know's i'm a package deal and that where i go they go as well | |
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