| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:26:18 PM | | If you were with someone for a while and they never gave you an orgasm, would you leave them? Would it be a legit excuse to end it, especially if there were other problems in the relationship? Or would that be a petty reason to dump someone? | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:29:25 PM | | The first time, no big deal. Second time, I'm a little cranky. But when this happens most of the time, it's a deal breaker. Call me selfish and yeah, I know I'm responsible for my own orgasm, but if that's the case, why be in a relationship? | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:31:28 PM | GAVE you an orgasm?? I didn't realize that it was up to someone to "give" someone an orgasm..
Did this happen to you or are you the one who left??
In any event, relying solely on someone else to get you to that point, is silly.
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:31:32 PM | | Did you try to teach him what turns you on? I guess my question is he trainable? | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:38:29 PM | Having an orgasm especially mind blowing and multiplies are not just about foreplay and what your man can do to get you off...its about trust, safety, respect. So if your relationship is not good in other areas it could very well be showing up in the bedroom.....comunication is key!
Good Luck I feel bad for woman that are not able to reach climax...its the most happiest place to go... | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:38:49 PM |
I guess my question is he trainable?
Yeah, this is what it comes down to for me. There are two sexual dealbreakers in my book:
1) Frequency - specifically, lack of. You can't fix this, IMO.
2) The ability to learn (or lack of). If the person doesn't listen to you, it isn't going to get any better.
As long as they are willing and they are able to learn... it's work... but it's not break-up material, IMO. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:41:29 PM | I know how to get my own orgasm, so this is never a problem for me.
However, a man who is against me having one to the point where he has no interest in participating is another thing entirely.
I mean, it's not the only thing going on - but if it's never on the table and I have more when I'm alone (or could be had elsewhere), it does tend to beg the question "why is he here?"
Did you try to teach him what turns you on? I guess my question is he trainable?
This isn't a real simple thing to answer. Most men that are trainable and want to learn will ask; they'll notice it's missing and want it to happen...if you're not sure after a while I'd say no, only because he should be open to it and make it clear at some point. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:46:44 PM | Have you explained that to your partner? have you discussed it and told them what you need to get off? If you have and he isn't taking any notice, yeah it would be a dealbreaker.
Doesn't he notice that it does nothing for you? Sounds like he is a lazy lover. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:00:24 PM | | Does he need instruction? Either he's clueless or selfish. Clueless can be fixed fairly easy. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:04:49 PM |
in the relationship?
Op,just read your profile and you're on here looking for "Intimate Encounters",NOT any sort of a relationship (least,thats how *I* read your profile).
You have a LOT of specific requirements as to what he must LOOK like.
So,id just move on to the next one.
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:09:39 PM | oh my no O's, no ah's or aww's either. Sorry. But I never get O's just by someone poking me, it has to be the whole experience. So if it really bland, and he's not getting that he needs to up his romance, the fore and after play, the kissing, the sweet talk.. nope. You are done faster then you can get your trousers back on.  | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:10:11 PM | OP According to many studies No matter how hard a man tries many women can't orgasm or will ever achieve one   | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:11:33 PM | I was curious if this was posted by male or female???
Obviously and probably female. I'm probably the rare male who has had a female come, get off the ride, roll over and go to sleep! I kid you not! lol
A good relationship is all about trusting someone enough to have good communication about their "sexual programming". Because, most times, it's that specific and important to a fulfilling sex life! It never ceases to amaze me, how people tend to project THEIR sexual ideas onto their partner. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:12:56 PM | [Does he need instruction? Either he's clueless or selfish. Clueless can be fixed fairly easy]
Exactly! Although, at my age, clueless is downright scary!! | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:15:32 PM | I say just buy her a variety of toys, spread a fuzzy blanket on the floor and let her have at it while you're watching the game...
... during commercials, dive in there, fer fvck sakes. Don't be chitzy.
Shit I'd do her during a couple of commercial breaks as long as she keeps the god-damned Hoover off...
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:17:31 PM |
I'm probably the rare male who has had a female come, get off the ride, roll orver and go to sleep! I kid you not! lol
It's not as rare as you think. I tend to want the bed to myself after 15 minutes or so so I can sleep soundly but I do the same. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:26:11 PM | | If you are committed to trying to be a great couple with openness and communication then you should also use that openness in the bedroom. It is harder for someone to orgasm when they are not comfortable. Give the relationship time, interest, and growth and I bet good things come. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:34:32 PM | No orgasm for her...that's ok, it's not a deal breaker...but no sex for me, heck yes! There's hell to pay and am dumping her ass to the curve.
To my future mate who might be reading this now or in the future...I was just kidding...honest! That stuff we can always work out....you know I'm the lick-o-matic with variable texture, tensile strength, speeds and rhythm...you know it honey, you know it damn well. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:50:16 PM | | I feel that if you truly like the person you should be with them. Experiment with things so you can get your organism | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:55:25 PM |
Experiment with things so you can get your organism
Well, yes, experiment until your head esssplodes, but DON'T go for the organism....
... have orgams till you do the funky chicken, but use lots of protection so you avoid the organism.
... just sayin'....
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:00:39 PM | Yep!
Oi, what's wrong with his tongue or is he just plain lazy to make up if the other don't work . | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:26:09 PM | ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww
from these arguments I find it ironic that pros/hookers are not 0nly better experienced but care even less...
what does this make anyone who values putting this on the shelf so highly, even lower?
gross, gross, gross... and I know what I am doing and embarrassed to even read this stuff!
I feel like a prude in shock LOL
what a riot some gals can be unless they are actually serous | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:30:48 PM | | Yes if a man was selfish in bed and only cared about getting on top, pumping for 30 seconds , getting himself off and then rolling over and going to sleep then yeah he would be out the door. If I am going to have sex with someone then my pleasure is as important as his. If he does not attempt to pleasure me then what good is he? | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:42:44 PM | Did any of you read her profile before you answered? here ya go
Hi, I'm looking for a *White* male for short-term casual fling. Must be chivalrous and respectful and willing to satisfy their partner. No tattoos or piercings. Must have all of your teeth and a full head of hair. No glasses. Lean to muscular build. Prefer the preppy, yuppie, sporty or classic look. Please be circumscised and orally inclined.
I'm 34 and petite, 32-22-32, 90 lb. and like to be wined and dined. I'm into dry humping and getting tickled.
No obscene pics or I will block you.
Honey.. you are close enough to me to make it worth a drive to GIVE you an orgasm. Heckfire.. I'll "GIVE" you a dozen.. or get lockjaw trying. And that will be BEFORE I engage the circumsized supersized behemoth. Really.. I promise. If I dont PERFORM well enough.. you can dump me so fast I'll barely be CARRYING my clothes to my car.
I have dental records and just got a haircut and STILL cant see my scalp.
Heck.. I'll tie you down until you cum. I mean it. No joke. "SHOW you the ropes"
I tried to email you but you had age-limits still seeking BOYS.. Email me.. a REAL MAN. You sound tasty enough.. with your tiny little 90 lb hottie body.. Sure hope you are waxed.. I just LOVE it smooth.
then once we're done.. you can come on here and put a great testimonial about my
"skills" to entice ALL the fish in the sea to jump in my boat. | |
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