| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:19:03 PM | | I happened to stumble across an article that mentioned that men who reach 35 years old and who have never been married or in any relationship will almost definitely remain single the rest of their life. Do you think there's any truth to that kind of article? | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:23:47 PM | Do you think there's any truth to that kind of article?
There are lots of articles that claim lots of things...
Take em with a grain of salt and keep moving forward. All you can do. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:28:44 PM | As long as you breathe it is never too late! Time, being what it is, offers many things/modus operandi which allow many different choices in life. The only "too late"there is is to want but not go after what you want. By 35 I think people make more reasoned choices than some of us did in younger years.
I say set a goal and go for it! Good luck!
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:07:21 PM | OP: Are you sure that is what the article said? That just doesn't sound right. lol
If you want a relationship or marriage, it's never "too late". There's no shortage of single women, so it's safe to say you'll be fine............. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:48:21 PM | | Yep, It is true. At 41 women my age want nothing to do with men my age. Younger women think you are too old. Older women think you are too young. Yep you are screwed. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:47:16 PM | | When you are a great guy, age doesn't matter. It is not your age when they want someone different. It is you. I happen to enjoy men around my own age. I am 47. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 1:39:29 AM | Stop stumbling... Pay attention, and realize most of the crap you read in magazines is written by idiots fortunate enough to have a job... Consider the source...
I'm not an adviser... Simply an observer... And no... It's never too late... | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 3:30:30 AM | | Davdo, I am exactly your age and I think you are right. The reason though has nothing to do with age, and everything to do with life experience. Where you have never been married and never had children, my children are older and almost grown. Actually, one already is grown, lol. Most guys my age or younger either want children or have young children. I'm at that "been there, done that, ready to move on" phase, so typically I end up dating men in their fifties, who are at the same "life stage" as I am. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:26:10 AM | pamsfl,
So should I put I am not looking to have kids? Yeah I haven't followed society's scripted life for someone in my age range, and most women (I guess rightly so) are very suspicious and avoid guys like me. "
"What??? you don't have thousands of dollars of credit card debt, don't own a home, aren't a ceo or vice president of a company, aren't a world traveler every week, don't have kids or grand kids, speak 4 languages, know all about wine, drive a new car you can't afford, laugh about life, don't care what others think, not into keeping up with everyone else, Can't raise my standard of living or tax bracket" "What the heck is wrong with you?" You get that feeling, from time to time that you did something wrong. When in reality you just made different life decisions. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:36:04 AM | Geez, I wasn't putting you down for not being married...just explaining why I don't usually date men my age. If you want kids, that's great, you should have them...but you will probably not have them with an older woman. At least you have the advantage of being able to have them long into your fifties or whenever.
I WOULD date a guy my age if he didn't want kids or had older kids. It's just not usually the case. At least I'm not whining about it. You, on the other hand, sound a bit bitter. I'm starting to think that the abovementioned are just your own insecurities about why you are still single. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:48:16 AM | pamsfl, Having kids is not my priority. As a matter of fact I pretty much think I won't have any, but life has a way of surprising you.
I would love to date a lady my age. But most of them seem to share or express the attitudes I mention in my previous post. Yeah I try to avoid sounding bitter but it just seems that here in Jacksonville this is the predominate attitude of the women around here. Maybe it is time to move to a real city. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:55:29 AM | Well, I think it is important not to generalize...MOST is not ALL, that's all I'm sayin'.
I'd date ya, but you'r e too young, never been married, don't own a home, probably want babies and live on the WRONG side of the state, lol. JK | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 6:21:13 AM |
Well, I think it is important not to generalize...MOST is not ALL, that's all I'm sayin'.
I'd date ya, but you'r e too young, never been married, don't own a home, probably want babies and live on the WRONG side of the state, lol. JK
Sums up my POF experience!! All the interesting ladies live so far away. 
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 6:53:28 AM | Yes, it's too late.
Adopt several stray cats and prepare for male spinsterhood.
Good luck with that. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 7:59:08 AM | | It depends on when they die. If they die one day after their 35th birthday, well there you go! | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:04:23 AM | | It's only too late if you decide it's too late. Life is what we make it! Ask girls out and accept rejection. Move on and ask again. It's a numbers game but if you keep at it you will find the right girl for you. Best of luck! | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 10:17:51 AM | My first rule about the internet is: Don't believe everything you read on the internet.  | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 3:51:22 PM | | I was talking about men too. Not women. Notice I said 'MALE spinsterhood.' | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 4:49:47 PM | RE: Read the thread heading. He is talking about MEN who are 35 years young and whether it's "too late" for them to start anything with a lady.
I think 35 is the perfect age for a man to start something with a lady. ANY age is the perfect time to start something with a lady...apparently men outnumber females now. So get on it buddy. The gals are waiting! | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:40:52 PM | | yeah because at 35 they've realized...marriage isn't that great of a deal for men in the west. brings no benefits and all legal consequences. why can't you love a woman without marriage....too much business riding on it. men over 35 who never married have figured that out. they are the ones enjoying the spoils of the rest of us suckers. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:04:21 PM | Oh crap, really? I am always incorrect these days. Oyi.
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:21:03 PM | | Yes, too late - roll over and die. Of course it's not too late. The aricle was probably stating that this happens typically, but not always. Also, did they mention any other demographic factors, like the educational level of their study subjects, their income level, occupation, and so on? Cause it's also known that those who pursue advanced degree tend to marry later in life. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:43:16 PM |
Yes, too late - roll over and die. Of course it's not too late. The aricle was probably stating that this happens typically, but not always. Also, did they mention any other demographic factors, like the educational level of their study subjects, their income level, occupation, and so on? Cause it's also known that those who pursue advanced degree tend to marry later in life
Apeaking from experience, if you have not found someone by the time that you are 30, then you will never find someone.
I now I never found anyone before I turn 30, and I still have not found anyone, nor can I attract any woman | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:52:02 PM |
Speaking from experience, if you have not found someone by the time that you are 30, then you will never find someone.
I now I never found anyone before I turn 30, and I still have not found anyone, nor can I attract any woman
What happens for those of us who divorced in their 30s? We've attracted someone, and then it went "poof"...
Rat -7, You have no way of knowing if you'll*never* find someone. If you were 85, and if you were to say "I noticed myself being single in my 30s, and I'm still single now' then I'd say yes, you fall into that category.
Also, not to pick on you, but i was using those who pursued high level degrees as aan example, and you don't have one, neiter you mention other life circumstances that kept you too busy for a relationship. In that case, you might be part of the stats that OP had mentioned,but again, you're not 85 yet. | |
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| Is it too late?
Posted: 10/27/2009 10:01:41 PM |
not to pick on you, but i was using those who pursued high level degrees as aan example, and you don't have one, neiter you mention other life circumstances that kept you too busy for a relationship. In that case, you might be part of the stats that OP had mentioned,but again, you're not 85 yet
I barely finish high school, and could never go to any high learning level since I can not graduate from high school due to physical limitation, so high level degree was never a problem.
The main problem that I can see with me is that I make Frankstein look like Miss Universe compare to me.
And whether or not I am 85, the fact remain the same, I never was able to attract, and never will be.
Also it well known that over 30 it not possible to find a mate, in most case it will only last a few years nothing more serious than that | |
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