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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:06:32 AM | I been here in the Website not so long, it's been great here..As I have chances in getting to know who comes and writes to me a message or having chats. There a couples of males here who are awesome and there some I do not even go there. There is problem maybe is just me.
There is a young man who we had pass on messages to each other, but is not a matter of a week. He is already telling he wants to get involved, he asks a lots of question some I avoid. We planned to meet up , we did. Now he is telling to close my profile and I believe it's to risky haven't been two weeks and wants to get close and personal. I thought I did say to him and others I am here in dating and if I meet someone who I will be open to possibilities...He says he dreams about us and wants me to meet his family....
Isn't that too quickly to risk?
To close my profile should I ?
He mesaages me then ever now, is that bizzard?
I thought about it nothing comes upon on me I feel that he going to fast.... | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:21:08 AM | Apparently you are not feeling the same as he does after such a short time......
Chemistry must be mutual, not one sided...you should not feel pressured to get involved romantically....I'm sure his agenda is about getting to know you intimately as soon as possible.
Maybe tell him you are still dating a few other guys and you are not ready for an exclusive relationship....that should cool him down a bit. | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:27:44 AM | | Go with your feelings. If you feel it's too fast, then it probably is. He doesn't have a right to demand you to close your profile down. That is YOUR choice and yours alone. He sounds way too rushed and controlling. If he's making demands already, what's it goin to be like in a few months??? | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:29:28 AM | Well, I don't see deleting your profile as a risk; if you want to sign up again if it doesn't work out, you can do that.
But it sounds like he's just moving too fast for you in general, so, I agree that you need to talk to him about that - and decide for yourself if someone who jumps in so quickly is someone you want to date. | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:30:55 AM | I had explained to him I am here to date others and see where it goes..I seen miss calls, emails from him that are too much to handle. I even had to block him but my phone non stop rings.. He makes feel that I am the blame and I thought this why I had loss my intersted in him with his actions.....but will not give in, Thank you | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:38:23 AM | Im going to take a stab in the dark but you are the type of girl that has alot og guy friends. You are also uncomforterble around people. When things like this happends you back off way way off. This put you into a friendship zone. I'm also going to guess that there is a guy in your live that you can not be with cause he is married, in a long term relationship, or not interested in you like that. You may even call him your best friend.......
Well the answer her is both. All i can say is Go with the flow. You have to risk to gain anything. You have to first of all ask yourself. It does not sound like you are really into this guy. Does he actually get your wheels turning sort of speak... Does he stir up emotions, deep thought, are you comfortable enough with him to at least hug and hold hands? It really sounds like this is the first thing that came up and your out there just trying things out.
Dating is like driving a car. The first time behind the wheel you take a deep breath and turn the key. The roar if the engine is un nerving at first but you quickly get used to it. An agressive guy is unnerving at first but you get used to it. Most women will tell you they hate guys that are too shy, that will never make the move. "I know 100% he likes me but he does not make the move!!!! It's soooo annoooyying!" yea i hear that alot.
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:44:00 AM | | Oh, so, this is already over, he's just still calling. That's a whole different problem. Your phone service should allow you to block his number(s) from calling; if you don't know how, call the provider and ask. | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:01:57 PM | Do I understand this right:
- you have not met him in person yet
- he wants you to close your profile
- he is the first person you're going to meet here
Sounds like he is possessive in a way - wants to make sure to have exclusive access to you before you can meet anyone else.
I'm no psychologist, though. Just do whatever you feel like doing. If you meet him and want to pursue the relationship further, then do so. He should not be dictating the rules for you, though, and, of course, the converse also applies.
A little too pushy if you ask me... my gut says something's not right. | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:42:14 PM | | This happened to me three times, in the three times they happened to be people with serious mental health problems. Run for the hills and don't date him in a first place. If he wants you to meet his family after two weeks, the guy is a fruitcake. | |
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| Oh no,n,no,no is it just me?
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:23:19 PM | No, you're not crazy. When I was asked for my number, I replied with it, but explained I would be away the following day. His number came up in my caller ID 10 times while I was away (that was a Saturday) and then he tried calling at least another 10 times on Sunday. It freaked me out.
Another thought......am I strange, but does anyone else prefer to exchange emails for a bit before talking on the phone? I don't mean email for weeks....but I am not a fan of chit chat on the phone to play 20 questions of getting to know you. And I sure don't want to rush out the door to meet a guy that I haven't communicated with.....almost everyone today wants to meet after, "hi, my name is," before I've had a chance to even get an impression if this person is nuts.
Don't close your profile, but maybe change your status to "seeking friends" or "dating" if you have long-term relationship indicated. I think many of us here wouldn't mind a long-term relationship, but it's how you get there that matters. I have to be a friend first. I can't remember how I have my profile, but I will be reviewing my profile.
That's okay......do it on your terms. Someone else will be along. That's the beauty of online dating. | |
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