| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:36:53 PM | Do any of you do this? I can see that the 20 somethings would still meet people in the old fashioned way but it seems to be far more of an uphill struggle for those of us with a few more miles on the clock.
My friends and I have been going out regularly over the last 18 months and not one of us has been chatted up let alone asked for a date or our phone number.
For those of you having some luck in meeting people when you're out and about spill the beans where and how are you meeting them? | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:45:04 PM | me neither , to be fair I dont go out every week, I have had guys talk to me have a laugh, but then thats it ..I just assume thats all it was a chat and a laugh and on to the next pub
I am in a big city too so drink and be merry instead  | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:03:56 PM | Last couple of times I have been out I have been hit on - once at a Pof night out at a club, by a leary old guy who informed me I was interested in him but was playing hard to get (yeah right). It was an open night at the club and he wasn't a Pof member.
Second time I was out with a much younger friend and one of her brothers mates took a shine to me. Wasn't even the end of the night but poor wee soul, it probably was past his bed time - he was all of 22 (I'm 48)  | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:12:17 PM | haha me too , I had an 18 year old not here but on another site were you cant set the age for mail ..18 ..my god my son is 3 years younger I had to laugh though , I have had a few younger guys pinch my ars as I have walked past , just turned and growled at them 
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:29:48 PM | The only guy that has cracked onto me of my age (there have been 2 or 3 very young ones) in the last 4 years turned out to be married. His idea of a date was to phone me at 11 at night to ask if he could come round. My reply was Foxtrot Oscar.
I wonder if men are more wary of approaching women when we get past a certain age because they are worried they might offend and we are married? | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:31:20 PM | I meet a fair few women when i'm at work believe it or not They come to pick up their sons,younger brothers,mates kids etc etc.Not that it does me any good as i can hardly stand and chat them up infront of the team...well i'm talking about before i met my gf of course
I also live in a house share with 3 women,me being the only bloke and trust me all their mates are a pain in the neck.One of my housemates as the hots for a certain welsh fella on here and does she ever shut up about him? Does she hell! | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:15:50 PM | One of my housemates as the hots for a certain welsh fella on here and does she ever shut up about him? Does she hell!
I wonder who that could be CB962? Still, us welsh boys are handsome devils I suppose (who am I trying to kid!) . I wouldn't say dating people, that you haven't met online is hard. I think it's more, of being in the right place at the right time in the "REAL" world.... PS: I'm waiting miss housemate  | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:02:50 AM | The last non-internet induced date I had was sort of a non date. I went to the cinema with a guy who is part of a social group I got to know. If things had gone well, it would have inevitably become a date, but my attraction to him expressed itself in a clumsy way... isn't it strange how attraction can affect your persona n different ways! I dont think this put me in the best light at all, and it didn't go well. I'm actually quite glad it didn't, as I'm not at all sure that someone who (totally through no fault of their own) had me feeling so unsure about myself could have been a good thing for me at all!
I just dont have the right social life to meet potential dates often. There isn't the right demographic at work, and I'm not sorry about that either to be honest. Most of my friends are either married or have a long term partner and a lot of them have kids. I tend to socialise with them at the kind of events where you dont bring new people in to the group becuse of the specific thing you have in common such as all having worked together. I'd like to change this, but I think you're right, it's much harder to break in to new social groups and meet new people as you get older. | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:59:01 AM | I met the toxic ex on a night out, but i do usually find it hard to meet guys out for a number of reasons, im a single mom so hardly ever get to actually go out, when i do no one appears to be over the age of 25, i also work with all women so dont get to meet anyone there either.
*climbs back up onto dusty shelf*  | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 2:42:51 AM | wow...totally the opposite here (and for most men I suspect)...there is such dog-eat-dog competition on dating sites that it's far easier to get a date out of someone I meet at work or socially.
To think about it, I don't think I've actually ever met anyone out of PoF, not at the beginning when I had a long profile, detailed and fun to read, not now that is a short'n'sharp thing regarding forums. | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 3:02:50 AM | Last time I met someone interesting it was on a plane, it was very rememberable gent working for the BBC.Then on a ferry - and interesting Italian guy working for the embassy but these instantly want to marry you . Then in a cafe.
And in here, in UK it is quite hard but I have a friend who is very chatty and I mean veeeeeery chatty so no problems for me
And oh... there was a situation where I just arrived in a cafe and the waitress came over showing a gent who wanted to offer me a drink and he was so good looking but I did not get it why someone would offer me a drink in the middle of a day so I refused and I got the waitress almost begging me to take something, still I refused and then I felt embarrassed as everyone was looking at me so I went over the gents table hehe ( that was a mistake!) and I appologised to him saying I was really not thirsty and he gave me a really strange look saying 'oh you did not need to tell me that' and he left immediately. OMG everyone was looking at me in there! | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 3:22:28 AM | I usually meet people in pubs and clubs. There's a lot of opportunity to meet people through work aswell. Trade show exhibitions and corporate events have a bit of a reputation for after parties, especially if there are big work teams attending.
For those who don't go to these type of events why not get together a group of people in work and organise a social.
Dreamy Skies I can't believe nobody in Tring has chatted you up. If you went on a night out in Luton the men would be queing up to speak to you, and I'd be first in line  | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 4:26:50 AM | The last time I was seriously chatted up by a 'Real Person' was by a barman. Slightly younger than me, incredibly good looking, and smooth as oiled silk.
Course - I was on holiday, and he was Greek, and I didn't think the whole Shirley valentine thing was quite my cup of tea - but I was flattered!
I meet a few men when I'm out and about, but not many. I think that spending so much time with married friends (very often at their houses, rather than in public) isn't condusive to finding potential dates! | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:32:00 AM | It all depends if your going out in a big group of people ,or just 2 or 3,
If you go out in a big group guys just think its a girls nitght out and you would not be interested ,but if there are just 2 or 3 of you they will come up and chat you up ,bars discos ,have even been chatted up having a meal ,I think you are more likely to meet a guy on a nite out than on line ,Weekends away as well are good for meeting people | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 7:54:07 AM | What a releief I thought I was the only woman in the world that never got approached when out. I had it down coz I was fat and old lol which obviously dont help but most of the other ladies are all gorgous which makes me feel a whole lot better  | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 8:13:16 AM | I get asked out still despite being an oldie, in bars, supermarket, work, but none that i fancy sadly.
I find talking to people online better than when out in a bar to be honest, as when out the majority of guys are just drunk and looking for an easy lay, at least online they can pretend to be interested and you don't have to put up with them looking down your cleavage  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 8:21:51 AM | | its real weird..cos most of the woman i date iv met them all in amsterdam..but i couldnt realy call any of them a one night stand..its more of a 15 minute stand...but still..non of them have ever turned me down..it must be the aftershave i wear.. | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:02:28 AM | I'm sorry to say, but I think it's an 'age thing'...
When I used to go out when I was young, most of the people in the places I went were still single, and all of my age group.
If I am out with friends now, and saw an attractive older lady the chances are, that she's one of the other girls' mum, and probably very married. The likelihood of people being single diminishes with age. (No I haven't done any research, nor do I have any figures to substantiate this, but I would bet!)
Also, and this isn't a 'whine', it's usually left up to the bloke to make the first move, and the older you get, the less confident you become, partly because of the above chances of probability. And partly because it's difficult to judge age, and I don't want to be called a "dirty old man" (again), some women look much older than they actually are!
So I think a dating site is a good idea for oldies like me, who are far too lazy to walk much further than over here to the computer!
I haven't had any dates yet, as, after extensive research, I discovered that contrary to popular belief, there is no actual obligation to kiss any frogs at all!
-But I have now spoken to a genuine princess!!
And that was from this site!
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Posted: 10/29/2009 9:10:15 AM | Well I think the problem with our modern society is that even though I would like to affirm that we are all free and emancipated we have to face the fact that we are not and it is almost impossible to initiate a conversation with a ladyi in public as that would be deemed to be too intrusive and almost perceived as an action perpretated by a sex maniac. So I rule out trains, buses, bus stops, stations, libraries, universities, work well where else can you meet one?
Oh yes online if you are lucky to meet someone who is willing to lower herself to your level and actually speak to you which is very very rare. So I am just enjoying my retirement from the hunting scene. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 9:13:24 AM | The last person I dated offline actually tracked me down online if that makes sense, but I had known him many years ago. I wouldn't actually crossed paths with him if he hadn't. We only live 2 miles apart but I hadn't seen him in around 20 years.
I haven't been out lately as much as I used to but I used to like going out to a pub where no one annoyed you which might sound odd but it was very nice going out with a pal for a meal and a drink without people in your face all night.
In saying that, I can't remember the last time someone chatted me up and even if they did I probably wouldn't notice. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 9:40:44 AM | I never really get chatted up, or like Pauline I don't tend to recognise it, the last guy who was obvious about it was married and got a short shrift. Mind you it doesn't really happen that much online either Sweet Jasus I am getting a bit paranoid now
Well now Duke you have certainly given me food for thought, lol. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 10:27:32 AM | For those of you having some luck in meeting people when you're out and about spill the beans where and how are you meeting them?
I don't go down the pub very often unless its for a sunday roast
and I'm far too old now to be spending the whole night out dancing in a club!
So the best place for me to find someone now is on an online dating site.
I do often get chatting to women whilst waiting for the bus which is very interesting.
There is one lady I often see that is very attractive who I might ask out for a coffee!
So I recommend guys to hang about bus stops even if your not travelling anywhere. | |
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| Dating people you haven't met online
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:12:28 AM |
crikey...is this forum the last resting place of the terminally unwanted? the last bastion for those that cannot get a second date?
well iv heard it all now.
line us all up against a wall and shot the lot of us,put us out of our misery.
i think the vast majority of us do get out and about,with or without paper bags over our head.
we have all had dates outside in the real world.
online datin was not about years ago..i still managed to get married.
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:13:22 AM | | Personally i don't chat alot to ladies when i'm out with my friends. I'm out to have a good time not to get turned down all night I think bars and clubs are bad place to meet people these days. Well where i live anyway! Trying to shout down someone's ear stinking of beer *cringe* not nice! | |
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