| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:09:23 PM | Most women like the idea of their guy having his own house that will become hers...
Ever hear about the study that found less than 10% of men kissed their wife 'good-by' when they left the house - but more than 90% of men kissed their house 'good-by' when they left their wife!
Be careful, or you'll be one of those kissing your house good by! I was... | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:12:42 PM | | i marries for the first time coz my parents didnt believe in sex before marriage it soon turned out it was bad... now with a house i would be careful who moved in coz it would cost me buyt if i loved them that wouldnt matter | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:14:12 PM | In Texas if you buy a house before you marry.
You can keep it when divorced.
(what you bring into the marriage, you keep)
Buy one when married...
and she gets half even if you put down all the $.
There is one drawback to being single and a homeowner.
If a girl already has a house, she may not want to move into yours.
Or if you meet a girl a long ways off.....
you may be tethered to your house and not easily able to move.
All in all, buy a house if you feel it is right thing to do.
Everything else can be work out. | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:00:43 AM | We bought 20 years after we married.
Got a great family discount on my parents home in the hottest housing market in Canada.
not too long after.... the divorce nightmare began....really sucks eh?
anyhow.... I bought out my Ex...and now I am carrying a hefty mortgage for a single mom with 3 kids...but it's my debt....my choice.... our home. | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:36:50 AM | Sure...having your own house does show a sense of responsibility. It also shows you are capable of supporting someone else! A pre-nup would be in order....no matter what she puts into the house, she walks away with nothing, leaving you your house. Simple solution.
I've seen a lot of two income couples buying new homes....big mortagage, and a nice house...usually a small lot...and not a lot of furniture in them cause they can't afford it!
They "have to have" the two cars, and the big screen TV and such things. They don't want to "crap up" their house with secondhand stuff or cheap stuff. Camp out on the floor on a mattress type thing.
Total crap.
Even a "fixer-upper" can be a nightmare.
A decent home can be bought at a reasonable price. Who cares how you furnish it, as long as you do? You can replace things piece by piece.
Go ahead...get what you can afford on your own. Don't be depending on "two incomes" for the payments and living expenses. Then, IF the right person comes along, get a pre-nup. If she doesn't want that, she isn't the one for you, cause she WILL take you for a ride....to the poorhouse!
Protect yourself first...cause nobody else will!
If kids become a factor, the equation changes. Have to keep that in mind too.
Have fun!
buy for YOU. | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:06:30 AM | | If I ever do decide to marry, it will be after I own my home outright. I will probably end up in a common wealth state. Then again, owning a home is not very high up on my "to-do" list, and it would make great fodder during a divorce. Women love the home and they tend to get it, and so I could easily sacrifice the home to keep my other stuff, since houses aren't that appealing to me. I can see it both ways. | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:13:06 PM | | Bought my first house at 19 with my fiancee at the time. Got married a few months later. Sold that home, lost my job so couldn't get into the one that we were planning on buying. Divorced now, and recently bought a house on my own at 25 with no co-signers. Its going to take a special woman to get me to sell that house, unless I find something that I like better that I can afford. | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:09:35 PM | I was married for thirteen years. We FINALLY bought a house. Less than a year later he moved out. I begged him to come back. He refused. I left him the damn house (that MY savings paid down-payment for, my paycheck paid the mortgage for) but I took everything that I wanted out of it (I bought most of that stuff, too, while he built up his gun collection). Moved back to my home state. Bought my own modestly priced house where I still live. Have never regretted it! Buying this house is probably the best thing I've ever done for myself. My cats agree!
I was cautious to buy a cheap little house that I could afford. Even during spells of unemployment--yeah, it's hard to get reestablished in a state after almost twenty years away--I was always able to keep my mortgage paid. When I was better established I paid extra toward my loan principle so this place will be paid off very, very soon!  Since I had to retire on disability a few years ago, it's a real relief to have manageable expenses. I could NEVER rent a place half as nice as this for even twice as much money!
Keep your credit clean so you don't have to take a sucker's loan. I really feel sorry for those who got taken in by the real estate/banking shenanigans of more recent years.
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You can always adjust if you meet someone and marry or whatever. If you wait for that before you buy a house, it may never happen. And you may never own your house. I'm glad I didn't wait to remarry! Sheesh! Been happily living here for fifteen years now! | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:00:46 PM | Some young couples purchase houses after they get married for the first time, for the obvious reasons, because it's more affordable with two incomes helping to pay off a mortgage. It also is perceived to make it less unnerving to take on a responsibility as such.
I get the feeling you do not have much faith in marriage
But of course there are different houses at different prices and it makes for different opportunities and choices. Meaning there are many others also who buy themselves a nice little starter house or are blessed with the income to buy something even cushier without even thinking about marriage anywhere in the process.
Stumped here and from what I see you pretty much just stated the obvious.
I dont know what road Ill take, but I for some reason see myself having a house before I have a wife for the simple reason that you can buy a house but you have to sell yourself to a wife. You can walk into a bank and with good credit and a good reputation get a loan for a house and the keys the next day, cant walk into any bank and take a loan out on a wife. The point im trying to make is that it can be a simpler transaction somewhat than meeting someone who wants to be your wife.
I now know why you said "..first time.."
If you are trying to be something that you are not to attract a mate, she will be telling her friends in a few years, "...you know he is just not the same guy I married..." and then you will be wifeless and houseless.
Back on to the subject: What group do you fall into. Proud homeowner before marriage, or after.
Wait hold on, that all was just filler for something else?
I feel used.
And for those who had their houses before you met your partners, do you felt that helped you become more 'relationship material' because it shows responsibility.
Yes, as long as you remember to keep it clean and do not forget to hide your porn
Don't get married, find a woman you hate and buy her a house. It will be a lot easier on you. | |
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| Homeownership: Before or after YOU married for the first time?
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:04:02 PM |
I get the feeling you do not have much faith in marriage
Well, why should one? Do you think 60%+ of all people who marry plan on divorcing or do so with any less "love" than the 40% that makes it a few years? Marriage is something with VERY poor odds. Only someone who is ignorant would not take this into account, and only someone suffering from delusions of grandeur would assert that their marriage will be invincible. | |
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