| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:50:56 AM | This thread is by NO means disrespecting those over weight or the people who find fat sexy, but as a big woman I have always wondered why some men find rolls of fat sexy----I mean I've had some men even ask me to describe my 'folds of fat' 'fat apron' ' sagging breasts' 'how fat and round is ya rump' etc.
I certainly understand people have preferences, but in a nation where the expectation is for healthy bodies especially when one wants to engage in sexual intercourse, how is it that some guys really are TURNED on by FAT. I have no shame about my shape----and I can have sex with the lights ON or OFF, but given all I know I just don't get how some guys really NEED a large woman in order to be sexually aroused.
This is not an opportunity for some posters to berate the overweight, but rather I'd like to slip into the minds of both men and women and find out what about body size actually cranks their engines and stirs that need to get nakey and do the naughty. I must confess I do like big men---not really sure why---but a tall guy with wide shoulders---a sexy beer belly and a smile does catch my attention. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:06:59 AM | OMG,Mary......the men are going to come out in droves and have a field day with this one...................................................!!!!!!!!!
Ie: The men who HATE fat women and take every opportunity they can to bash 'em..............
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:15:51 AM | Sweetie,
I haven't gotten this far in life without having a bigger set of b*lls than some men and a great sense of HUMOR. Thing is, I'm truly curious about this...I mean is it a true preference or just a fetish. Do some men really find fat sexy? If a man is attracted to a big lady I know from first hand experience they get a lot of flack from their so-called buddies, but a lot of those guys ask a lot of FUNNY questions.
To the men who aren't fearful of getting ribbed for their desire to bed fat women or the need to see some chunky butt to get a hard-on speak up...I promise to protect ya ;) | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:24:52 AM | i watched a programme a while ago about men who like larger ladies, some of them actually had a thing for humping between the creases!
I think everyone has a preference, a certain type of person they are attracted to. If this is a larger person, then good on them! there is more of the population in western countries that are overweight/obese (defined by BMI), so they need to get used to going with larger ladies, as soon enough there wont be enough skinnies to go round! hehe
seriously though, when your carrying extra pounds i guess its more soft to the touch, you can manipulate areas of the body that you couldnt if it was toned and hard.
good idea for discussion, but i can hear the skinny lovers banging at the door!
Caro | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:27:04 AM |
I must confess I do like big men---not really sure why---but a tall guy with wide shoulders---a sexy beer belly and a smile does catch my attention. I know exactly why I love big and tall men that carry extra weight.
It shows that they like to eat, and I like nothing more than to cook a good meal for someone that truly appreciates the food. I also adore getting a hug from a guy that towers over me... to be cocooned in his arms gives a feeling of divinity that simply cannot be described. Add to that the softness of a few extra pounds and such and I'm in heaven...
Of course he can't be all jello and mush, there has to be the strength of a man underneath the extra layer.
This isn't to say that I don't find guys that work out and are toned attractive, I absolutely do... but I've also found that most of them are a little too into themselves for my taste though there are exceptions... and I'm absolutely turned off by guys that have bulging muscles with the veins popping out... there is nothing that I find attractive in the least in that look...
Nope... give me the great big bear any day of the week and I'll be a happy camper...  | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:40:05 AM | I'm not dismissing healthy bodies----my man friend is athletic and recently introduced me to all his buddies----they all liked me and none made any wise arse remarks, but even if they had I wouldn't of cared. When I was younger and people would poke fun at me it was painful, but as I've matured I've noted that its often the people who poke fun who have more self-esteem issues than I could ever have.
As I eluded to in my first post---I understand the emphasis on being a 'healthy' body weight---particularly when it comes to the bed Olympics, but the thing is we all come in a variety of shapes and sizes--for me I'm a short fat lady, but I've never lacked for male suitors, but my thing is---how is that a guy gets all hard and horny over a roly poly sort like myself. I'm sure I'm not alone in my thinking.
Don't get me wrong---I'm glad that some men have an appreciation for those of us who aren't slim or average in shape or size, and I have nothing but love for all body types---my question is why do some guys find FAT SEXY??? | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:00:26 AM | | Hey Mary, maybe some men find your high self-esteem and good sense of humor sexy regardless of your weight. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:33:49 AM | | Laughing.... (never at someone) .... I was flipping thru the channels one night on directv. very late night.... I ran across this porn.... It was a huge/fat/giant lady and a guy, On the floor of some kitchen ... he was tossing flour on her and kneeding her fat like it was bread dough!!!! So I guess if they make a video/movie/porn of it there must be guys out there that like that! Oh, if I could just find that guy.... I could have that extra piece of fudge.... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:54:15 AM | I think It's a fetish....
Some men like to be humiliated,
Some like to wear diapers,
Some like transvestites,
and some like fat women....
all kinds of weirdos out there... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 6:00:12 AM | | ROFLMAO----------ya'll are too funny. Seriously though, what is it about FAT that some men equate to SEXY????? I get the sex part.....cuz for some men all they need is a hole, not a reason...flip off the switch voila....but for some men they find FAT sexy----and if she's not got some fat on her he can't get hard. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 6:18:14 AM | MM, you might just as well ask why some men are attracted to feet. It's just what turns the guy on. All of us are different, as we well know. Two guys can look at the same woman. One may find her attractive, the other may not. That does not mean that one woman is better than the other.
Just enjoy the fact that someone wants you for being you! | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 6:38:03 AM | | I've never liked really obese women,but I've found that bigger ladies are so much softer than some thinner women. Overall I prefer my women to have some extra weight. The only body type I don't like is when a woman is too thin to the point of anorexia. Just something about all those bones sticking out. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:01:52 AM | | I've dated small, medium and large women. There was something exciting and inviting about each of them. The older I get, the more I find the whole person of more interest than particular body parts, or type. It seems to be more about the person, and their ability to engage in life and the activities I enjoy. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:16:43 AM | i understand what you are asking and i gotta agree with yarimelma, it's just a fetish.
it begs the question of what decent woman would want to be objectified like that? | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:23:49 AM | OP, I don't know if I ever heard (as CaRo31 said) of men having a thing for humping between the creases, but I tend to like larger women versus thinner ones--especially larger and taller than me. It's a turn on. Just my preference, I guess. However, I always focus on personality after the initial look. I can't be with a drama queen or a high maintenance woman. I have found BBWs & SSBBWs are just as nice, sweet and desirable as women with a few extra pounds or what is considered "average." | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:35:09 AM |
it begs the question of what decent woman would want to be objectified like that?
I don't get the impression that the op wants to be objectified that way, however it really isn't much different than muscle heads prancing around in their tight tees, showing off their ripples... These guys/gals are just as much objectified for their body, as a "fat person" would be for their fat rolls...
However it seems that muscles equate beauty, discipline, hotness, and being better than someone that isn't all muscles...
Reality to each their own... For some it MAY be a fetish, but for others it may just be what gets there motor running... Only thing is, in this day and age society says you ain't shit unless you are skinny...
Meh, in the Renaissance times tubby to fat was desirable, because it meant the person was well fed, and being well fed meant the person had money... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:44:45 AM |
For some it MAY be a fetish, but for others it may just be what gets there motor running.
Well that's what fetish is.... make the motor running....
Meh, in the Renaissance times tubby to fat was desirable, because it meant the person was well fed, and being well fed meant the person had money...
And ? Times change... Today it's the exact opposite. It means she's poor. Eating healthy is expensive. Crap food is the cheap food.
Where I live, tomatoes are more expensive than MCdonald's menus... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:57:31 AM | | I like women with curves and this generally means they will have some extra weight. When it gets to the realm of obese, I find nothing sexy about it. As has already been said, those men that are into obese women have a fetish. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:00:36 AM | Mary the reasons why someone likes a particular thing about someone else are as varied as there are people in the world... you should know this... hehe..
I don't go out of my way to find a partner with more meat on their bones, I do have a slight preference for the more athletic/muscley guys, but really.. it's for me it is more about what's between their ears as opposed to what the wrapper looks like.
I've dated the spectrum.. tall and skinny, short and muscley, and my current is 6' and a bit on the soft side. Meh.. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:11:39 AM |
And ? Times change... Today it's the exact opposite. It means she's poor. Eating healthy is expensive. Crap food is the cheap food.
Where I live, tomatoes are more expensive than MCdonald's menus... Very right about that. And I think that is what contributing to the so-called obesity epidemic. That and the hormones they are putting in the meat - which I believes causes an onset of puberty in girls and increases their weight. Fruits and vegetable are not hella hella expensive... but fast food is cheap food - laden with salt, preservatives, fructose, and all that. I am not ready to go completely vegitarian or vegan, but I would like to buy organic meat and produce more and I think it's a dam shame that something we could have gotten 50 years ago that was the norm is now considered 'specialty' and cost so dam much. I was going to mention something about the inner city but I digress. Rural folks are fat too and what I was going to say about the inner city doesn't apply to them.
As for the question - All fat should not be lumped together because my fat doesn't look like your fat nor do I feel the same way about mine as you do yours. I can dress well and feel hella sexy and look sexy and appealing so why wouldn't a man find that attractive on me? I don't think it's the 'fat' that makes me attractive I think it's ME that makes me attractive and that is what he goes for.
What you describe sounds like a person into a fat fetish, and I am not interested in that. Anyone who says 'describe your rolls of fat and let me cum in your folds of skin' is freaky to me and to be avoided. They might be 'feeders' and would love to contribute to your steadily increasing weight because the more you got the more they are turned on.
Uh.... no thanks. Love a man who can cook and accept me for me but will allow me to be me - whether I'm fat and go on to lose or or whether I'm just fat.
I pretty much try to avoid all fetish types. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:19:54 AM | I think it's the "that's what females are" thing. I know, being a completely straight woman, that I find sinewy muscles and veins SUPER sexy (get your minds out of the gutter--I mean like on ARMS). They are like the epitome of manliness to me. And something females rarely get.
It's the same thing with soft skin, men get all excited over it because they don't have it. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:27:28 AM | Sorry, for most men there is nothing sexy about making love to an overweight woman. Just like i`m sure it`s not sexual to make love to an overweight man.
For me i see nothing sexual looking at globs of fat protruding from someone`s mid section , nor is it sexually appealing to view someone`st fat dripping from the Gluteus maximus region.many overweight people have health issues and can barley breath, forget having long sessions of making love. They simply tire way too fast for my liking. Positions are extremely limited and that's a definite turnoff....
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:30:07 AM | I know, being a completely straight woman, that I find sinewy muscles and veins SUPER sexy (get your minds out of the gutter--I mean like on ARMS). They are like the epitome of manliness to me. And something females rarely get.
It's the same thing with soft skin, men get all excited over it because they don't have it. Not true. Fat and flabby men are very soft. They aren't hard bodied, they can be as soft as women. I don't mean just soft skin - muscular and athletic men can have soft skin. I mean they have rolls you can cuddle up with a like a teddy bear.
And women can be sinewy with muscles too. like some women have firm muscle butts. Some have round soft butts. Same difference as a man would have. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:31:25 AM | | ok heres my 2 cents...im a BIG guy 6'6 320lbs and females fnd me attractive but i have also found that some BIG females wont date BIG men and they also talk about the FAT factor on men...so its a 2 way street here.... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:32:45 AM | I am very interested in the responses here. I am an fat woman, although I still have a good shape and my fat is evenly distributed, which I'm very grateful for!
Since my divorce 18 months ago, I have met a few 'fat fetish' guys. One of them I had a short FWB relationship with, until he admitted (after being questioned) that he found me beautiful in a sexual way, but not in a girlfriend way. For him, the fat was a turn on, and I had to stop it right there, I just couldn't be someone's fetish.
Another man who I am friends with and had a FWB relationship with LOVES big women, and as it turns out, I'm on the smaller side of what he's really into. He can't explain it, he just finds it sexy, erotic, and beautiful. He's even going to a BBW convention in vegas this year. He told me about one of the websites he goes to, and I was stunned by the size of women there.
My fiance and I are long-distance, and fell in love with each other over the phone and email. After seeing my pics, he said I was beautiful, but would like me to be a few sizes smaller. After meeting me and falling in love with me though, he is very turned on my body and loves my body because he loves ME. I think I've hit the jackpot. I'd still like to lose weight, but not so I can fulfill his fantasy of the perfect body, but so I can be healthy and live a long life with him. | |
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