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Posted: 10/30/2009 2:17:32 PM | | Ok I am new to this and have read the tips and other suggestions so lets see you everyone has to say about my profile. I know my separated status hurts me but I can't do much about it now. I wish more people would have their profiles reviewed. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 2:47:35 PM | Naw, just pass me the whine... I mean wine!
Your profile is pretty bland... try and spice it up some with some humor if you can pull it off. I am an engineer too and know that we all struggle sometimes with humor that "normal" people understand. Women like to laugh but not at geek jokes... well unless they are laughing at the geek and not the joke.
I would switch your main pic to the second one. You have a smile on that one. Also, you need more pictures and preferably not ones where you are taking them yourself. Try and dig up some of you doing your outdoor activities that you have listed in your profile. A full body shot would be good as well.
I am not into football at all, but I would assume that the scarlet and grey is referring to a team close to where you live? I didn't get that one, but maybe women around where you are from will.
Cheers! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 2:51:11 PM | Hey, here are my thoughts I don't whether you need to share that you are in the midst of a divorce. I also think you don't have to list your possessions such as car, house etc. Just saying I work a stable job and am self sufficient should suffice. Lose the I don't watch football bit it's irrelevant.
It's always better to be more expressive and be more detailed on your hobbies, interests etc, just listing them off is so done to death on here. Defy the norm and express yourself and what your about and it'll get you more attention. Typically seeking to hang out or friends doesn't go over well here. If you want to be friends with a woman and possibly more change your goal to dating. Add humor if you can to your profile and that will be of aid to you. I'll say it again express yourself on your profile, tell us your story! Your profile should be a positive window into who you are. Do not post anything negative at all on your profile. Positive, positive, positive until you can't be positive anymore. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:03:59 PM | My observations...
1. More pics would be nice including a body shot. And maybe a pic of you doing an activity you like, since you seem to have a lot of interests. Have a friend take one of you on a bike, or swimming, etc.
2. You have a lot of activities in your interests. I would remove the characteristics (honest and laid back) and leave those for the About Me section.
3. I would put the divorce part after the little blurb about yourself. Not that you're hiding it, but it doesn't need to be the 1st thing mentioned. Because you're kinda down about it (the tone evoked) it gives the profile that vibe as well. And add some zip to your profile by using more exciting word choices. Things like "I love a woman who...", or "I'm an avid....", or "I really enjoy....." or "I am a great...", etc... Show you have a spark. Enthusiasm breeds excitement. If you sound energetic and exciting, people will feel that way about you. A man with so many active interests shouldn't sound like he's bored.
4. Expand on the kind of woman you'd like to meet. Is it important that she be active? While everyone is different, we all have preferences and by stating a few important ones, you will weed out those who aren't the right "fit" for you.
5. Your "P.S." seems very random. No where on your profile did you mention football yet you state it's not a big part of your life. Did someone message you about that or something? It just seems out of place.
6. Fill out the First Date section. Even though you just want a friend, friends can go out for dates as well. You could also use that space to talk about a meal you might cook since it's an interest..
just my 68 cents..... | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:51:12 PM | Geez majic...GO BUCKEYES!
OP, I would change your "looking for" to dating. If you put friends, you are not going to come up in a lot of searches. You can keep the comment about starting out as friends in the text. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 4:34:40 PM | Thanks for all the comments. I realize I need new pictures, I just have any current.
Buckeye football is big here in Ohio and since I am originally from Michigan their arch rival (although not in Michigan) it is a bit annoying. I will work on my profile and post again when I am ready for you scrutiny again. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 12:28:46 AM | OP - I think you are better off leaving in the divorce info as it will tell the women you aren't separated and might possibly be thinking about getting back together. Just my opinion.
Pam - Football sucks. Ask me a question about hockey. That is a real sport! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 12:50:50 AM |
Football sucks.
wtf......is Majic french? | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 4:39:03 AM |
I think you are better off leaving in the divorce info as it will tell the women you aren't separated and might possibly be thinking about getting back together.
I have heard the same about separated. I want to make it clear that getting back together is not an option for me. She moved out when she filed, so I am separated, right? ( I do not need the legal definition)
I really do not expect much until I can change my status to Divorced, ugh...
I made some changes as suggested, it is still a work in-progress and I still need new pics but it is a little better. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 11:13:08 AM | Surely you can’t pay any attention to anyone who doesn’t like football, so ignore Majic!!! Go Badgers
Your about me section is OK but rather sparse, needs a bit more meat I think.
Did you forget the first date section or do you not want one? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 1:16:33 AM | As an Ohioan at heart, I would have understood your comment about the scarlet and grey!
I want to weigh in here. My response after reading your profile was... move on, nothing for me. Not because the activities aren't interesting, but because there isn't anything that makes me feel that you are courting me.
You might feel that this is too much to ask, that all you have to do is lay it out there, but it isn't enough these days.
"Want some cheese with that" sounds like you are putting someone down. I don't know who, but it sounds unpleasant.
Good grammar and spelling is important. They exist because they make it easier to communicate. Corrections follow.
A little about me, I enjoy the outdoors and nature, camping out in a tent, hiking through the woods, and off to grandmas house we go... (what is that last part about grandma's house? Plus, it would be grandma's house, not grandmas)
Water is a blast and I love to ride the rapids whitewater rafting, or kayaking in a calm lake, sometimes swimming when I can't seem to stay in either, even swimming in a pool is fun. What a run-on sentence, needs cleaned up. Periods are good!
When I am not adventuring, I am laid back, Period, not comma.
Spending time at home with family and hanging out with friend is just as important to me. Correction - hanging out with friends (plural) Also, do you have any children? It would be nice to tell us about them.
When it comes to food, I love dinning out in places where you look down at the menu rather then up, picnics in the park, or just cooking at home. Good little joke. Dining, not dinning
I believe in being honest, so here it goes, I am in the process of getting a Divorce (filed in April) this should be final this year. Delete the "I believe in being honest, so here goes, "
Those were the basics. Now, talk to me like you'd like to entice me to do these things with you.
Hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 1:50:04 AM | Listen all - Football is just one of those "other" sports" that don't really count. So sorry to be youz guyz.
Is Ohio a state? Can't remember.
OP - I like your changes. Good luck man! Lots of quality emails and you will do well.
Cheers!
Edit: Majic has taste. French need not apply. :-p | |
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