| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:04:22 PM | i was hanging with some old co-workers last weekend. a couple days later , two co-workers who we not there added me to FB.
my GF noticed that i had 2 new friends and questioned me about it. i said they were co workers and to expect more since im sure i was the talk of the office that monday.
she then asks me in an innocent but probing tone..." soooo.....ummm....how many girls have you added so far?" BTW i only add people that i KNOW.
i see on her page that she has new guy friends weekly. we've been together for quit a while so i dont see how she can be meeting new male friends, but i never say anything about it because i refuse to bring it up and make it an issue. since she brought it up , i kinda gave her attitude and she ended up hanging up on me.......i told her she had to right to question me, since she adds "10 guys a week" and im sure they all "just wanna be your friend"......
did she have the right to question me?
should i call and make up? or tough it out and except no wrong doing? | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:20:17 PM | I suggest you close out your FB account and get over it.
Do you really need your co-workers to know your mood?
Unless you're married and only using FB as a private messaging space for family and no one else, it doesn't nothing but cause drama. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:47:53 PM | | Woe....ten guys a week? that means she has sex with 10 dudes a week! please give me your facebook addy so i may attempt to get a piece of that action! your situation sounds FUNKEEEH!! | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:03:30 PM | | Facebook has been known to cause problems like these between people. (Just Google it) From personal experience, I recommend you two unfriend yourself on Facebook so this jealousy slowly ceases. She may not like it at first, and will likely hate you for it, but eventually she'll realize it's for the best. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:22:36 AM | | Maybe it is true that people only get jealous of there partner when they add a member of the opposite sex to their face book when they think your going to do the same thing that their doing which is sleeping around or some other thing they shouldn't be doing. I think that her hypocritical ways embarrassed her and that is why she hung up so i think you should talk to her about what is acceptable and what isn't so that you are both clear on it. Don't turn it into something childish like who should phone first after the incident and carry on communicating with her as usual. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:48:58 AM | Emotions do run high with facebook
In the UK a guy murdered his girl friend, because she changed her status to single. No one will ever know if she changed it, or facebook did an upgrade and reset everyones setting, which it does quite often. Either way she is dead and her children motherless.
So remember at all times, not all people can cope mentally with facebook, would be a good idea to shut it down while you got this girlfriend she does not sound like she can take you having friends .................................... now that is more what this post should be about, and it comes to mind she does not want you to be having fun with your work mates.
Lets face it facebook is great for crossing the world and keeping in touch with friends in different time zones, if someone is jealous of it - geesh SHOULD THEY BE ALLOWED AN ACCOUNT?? | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:07:26 AM | I limit FB for keeping in touch with family and friends. I don't want virtual strangers having access to my account/family and friends and am discerning about who I add.
As others have said, FB has the potential to cause a lot of nonsense... | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:14:42 AM | I like FB. It allows me to chat with both my male and female friends from POF - none of whom I've ever met apart from the forums - at will.
It's also a great way for picking up contacts for games I'm interested in. Since my love life sucks and I'm really not in a position to do much about it right now, I've been building a farm on there.
So far I'm at level 30 and have met others who are doing the same from all over the world.
Should I ever get back to looking for a partner and he has a problem with it then I'd have to question his sensibilities.
If Juan or Juanita in Guatemala gifting me a virtual tree is enough to cause a fight between us then I won't be sticking around long. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:21:41 AM | wimen will do that.They'll do something and be up to something but think its ok because its different when they are the ones doing it.But heaven forbid if you do the exact same thing as they are and because they are up to no good it makes them defencive/feel guilty and grill you with the questions.pfft,wimen,... | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:54:05 AM | I teach middle school. I hate to say it, but your girlfriend's drama reminds me of the kind of frenzied inertia a number of my students create for themselves and then spill over onto others.
Based on what you have shared, I'd spend some time reflecting on whether or not you and your girlfriend are on the same emotional level. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:52:34 AM | | It would totally piss me off if my man would add people to his facebook or myspace or whatever account. What's the point of having an account for the puplic to view? Set it to private or close the account; both of you. This way the problem is dealt with. Case closed. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 6:04:21 PM | | This entire situation seems childish to me. If two people are secure in a realtionship, "kiddy stuff" like this would not occur. Why would either one of you get upset with "friends" on Facebook? Have you read some of the quizzes there? It is geared to "high school kids." | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:39:44 PM | 10 NEW guys a week.. that came from WHERE? And you put TWO "co-workers", people that you work with.. and she starts grilling YOU??
Frankly.. I dont see how she can be meeting new "male friends" that are JUST friends and ARENT interested in her sexually.
Dude.. she is playing you. She is an attentionwhore who wants to P-whip you while SHE gets ALL her attentionwhore needs met.
DTB. Dump that B. This is an example of what is to come.
Run forrest run | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 7:53:31 PM | ROFL!
To the guy that said "Un-friend your GF", whoa dude, that made me lol at the potential nuclear blast potential.
Do it! | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:08:48 PM | I am an office manager and my industry is rather small where I live.
People can find me on Facebook, but they are not able to see anything, nor add me as a friend.
The only people on my FB profile are close friends, family, my husband's family and some POF friends.
We recently hired an underwriter and as soon as the papers were signed, I deleted her from my FB profile.
Remember the following, OP:
If you can change it, then change it.
If you cannot, then you must accept it 100%.
If you cannot accept it 100%, then you must leave.
Change
Accept
Leave.
JMHO.
^^BG^^ | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:40:57 AM | | I think Facebook increases trust. These guys she is added, see's she's in a relationship WITH YOU(if your Facebook status is setup that way). If anyone WAS to "cheat" all they'd have to do is click on the partners name & message them if they wanted to let it be known they cheated with your man/woman. Plus, you can tell by wall posts etc. what's really going on. If they're deleting wallposts etc. then ya something fishy is going on. Otherwise, I think Facebook is good for the nosey. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:26:27 AM |
In the UK a guy murdered his girl friend, because she changed her status to single.
Priceless. Actually he murdered his girlfriend because he is a murderer, not because of anything she did. Kudos for relating this as lawful execution however, I assume you're getting counselling?
OP get a brazilian if you're going to display your vagina publicly like this. It used to be fairly ordinary guys could get hot girlfriends until at some point through university she realised she's hot property by the sheer number and quality of offers. Now with the internet hot women are realising this pretty much coming out of high school. The quality and frequency of offers for any good looking, reasonably extroverted girl has increased dramatically by the numbers game at sites like facebook and date forums like these. Now all those fantasies people have had over the ages of humanity and the importance of values and personality are being put ever further to the test, and unfortunately as mankind always has, we fail miserably. Even librarians are on BDSM sites now. You know the most common occupation of women I find who seem to place sexual encounter for a relationship preference are young school teachers, man I never knew they were all that horny when I was in school I want to go back now.
It has always been very few women are good looking and worth having a conversation with but at least the way it used to be was the majority had fewer options so you could still wind up in a relationship even if 1000 guys all want the only 3 high quality chicks in the town. The other airheads would accept your eyes weren't filled with stars at the very sight of them and still date you, and if you were lucky she was at least hot visually and in the sack. But now...the internet...it's all buggered. Now you have to actually seek out the one who really is right for you and thinks you're really right for her on some level of romance-novel fantasy, and this is the sort of thing which takes a life quest to find, you might maybe meet half a dozen women like that in a lifetime. The shake and bake relationship like Cleo psychologists talk about don't exist anymore except among technophobes who still read Cleo and nobody wants to date them anyway, just a few quickies and see ya later. They wind up on POF manhating as middle aged fatties from the trailer park. Or if they're smart they take up some of those facebook offers whilst they're still young enough to be hot looking and hot in the sack.
In short you're doomed. She's going to leave you.
Manned up yet? We could do some more bonding if you want but I think at this stage you should be supplying beer. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:13:14 AM | | if you have nothing to hide, then dont close your fb account... both my bf and i use fb.. currently we have to use it to communicate as he is overseas... he has female friends, people he knows and went to school with, i have male friends.. i have added male friends people i have met, such as djs etc since he has left.. I am open with him, he is open with me.. we both trust each other.. i think she was wrong for questioning you, i would never do that to my bf... | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:57:09 AM |
To the guy that said "Un-friend your GF", whoa dude, that made me lol at the potential nuclear blast potential.
I'm a girl, but it is true that Facebook is causing a lot of riff raft for couples. There's just too much familiarity that occurs.
Maybe if not un-friending her, at least doing some privacy restrictions for her so she can't see who you've added as friends. Out of sight, out of mind. She probably won't even notice that. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:55:51 AM | She is acting quite childish. Soon, she'll be questioning everything that you on your facebook. And really, do you want that?
Bottom line....
just dont close your facebook. | |
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| fighting because of facebook.....
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:41:39 AM | You both acted like children about your Facebook additions.
However, you're also newly on a dating site with a profile that reads as a great big "maybe" regarding whether or not you want a date... this reminds me a lot of another recent situation posted on POF, wherein a guy's girlfriend went ballistic over something truly stupid, but the whole truth was, she had good reason to be insecure as he thought very little of her and already had a foot out the door.
You're halfway gone, too, and I can practically guarantee that on at least some level, your girlfriend knows it. That's the real problem - and it isn't going away regardless of how you resolve or don't resolve this particular question.
I say, literally just ignore the Facebook argument, and address the underlying matter of whether or not you genuinely want to be involved with each other at all. It's looking like "not so much, really" from here. | |
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