| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:33:09 PM | For first meetings, I dont know why guys think it's a good idea to bring a lady to an isolated area like a path in the woods (where no one can hear you scream) or invite them to your place (and pretend nothing sexual will happen  ). I dont mean to be paranoid, but this is the internet and you have to be careful!!!!
These outtings are romantic and appropriate with a partner you have seen for X months or X years, but for a first date? No.
I wish men would *think* and *TRY* to be more considerate of a woman's security! Doesnt mean your MOM thinks youre a nice guy that I should trust your mom's stamp of approval and go in the middle of a forest with a stranger! | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:36:34 PM | I've never had anyone ask me to meet them anywhere but in a restaurant or coffee shop.
I would never consider meeting anyone anywhere but in a public place. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:38:56 PM | | Uhm ... yeah ... this is such a brain-dead idea on so many level. For a first date (actually couple of dates) it is wise to meet in a*public* well-lit place. The fears are based on sound reasoning. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:12:23 PM | | Always, always, always meet in a very open, very public place with lots of people around for first few times. There are a lot of criminals out here and they would have no problem using a made up person to lure victims out to be robbed or raped or what ever. Even guys should understand this, one guy against four is a no win situation and the best you can hope for is to just lose your money. For women that goes double, so any guy that will not meet in a very public and safe place is women should stay away from. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:51:34 PM |
I dont know why guys think it's a good idea to bring a lady to an isolated area like a path in the woods...or invite them to your place...I dont mean to be paranoid, but this is the internet and you have to be careful!!!!
Who said the guys think it's a good idea? Maybe they think it's a bad idea, know you will say no, and then make you come up with the next idea so they don't have to take responsibility or control? Meaning you chase them and tell them what you want to do rather than say "I don't know, what do you want to do" all night.
They are just ideas, why not at least ask? You never know, maybe you will say yes.
Although the walk in the woods thing seems to be pretty stupid based on you writing in your profile you don't really like the outdoors stuff.
Maybe they want to creep you out in order to get you to go away?
I wish men would *think* and *TRY* to be more considerate of a woman's security!
I wish everyone would live up to my standards and expectations too.
Maybe they are thinking of your security? They might have guns.
One thing I've noticed is that most, or at least a lot of, guys seem to have it ingrained to be conscious of a woman's security with online dating. At least among older guys.
That's why they tend to wait for the girl to ask them out, or offer the girl his phone number to get her to call (and block her number). It's why they ask her what to do for a first meet. Basically try and get her to make the decisions so she doesn't feel pressured. Because he assumes she's going to play the "I need to get to know you first, establish a mini relationship before meeting so I can feel secure in meeting you, because there are all sorts of creepies on here."
I dont mean to be paranoid, but this is the internet and you have to be careful!!!!
You should be careful no matter if it's an online date or someone you met in a bar or your dad's best friend.
The internet is no more dangerous than the people IRL. As the population of internet daters...is simply the people you see everyday IRL.
Doesn't mean there aren't some that are. But IMO you should be no more paranoid about online dating than IRL, but no less paranoid about dating IRL than online.
IOW thanks for the rant. Here's one back. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:59:48 PM | I would never go out in the woods with a guy. True if he intends to rape/kill you that is where it happens alot. Simply cause chances of you being found (if at all) alive are slim.
Watch I think that guy really has bad intentions asking you to go to the woods on a first date. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 12:03:47 AM | Well if a guy suggests it....the woman has a voice and if she's smart she'll say a big fat, NO, and run like hell.
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 12:33:02 AM | haha .. I think you haven't made yourself clear to the guy before your date.
Guys will try anything, but what will YOU let them get away with. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 12:58:52 AM | | Its Halloween ! Hell I wont even go into the woods this week. Bunch a freakin teen vampire wanna bes out there trying to capture some sort of Twilight fix. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:28:10 AM | | You would have to be a little nutty to go on a walk into the woods with a man you don't know. You are pretty much asking to be raped or even killed. And no I don't think that is being paranoid. Just because you have talked to someone on line does not mean you know them. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:09:13 AM |
For first meetings, I dont know why guys think it's a good idea to bring a lady to an isolated area like a path in the woods (where no one can hear you scream) or invite them to your place.
You work in security and you ponder these suggestions?
I wish men would *think* and *TRY* to be more considerate of a woman's security!
The men that have asked to meet me are.
I would think someone is out of touch with reality if they suggested what you’ve had posed to you.
You need to think for yourself; really it’s a no-brainer. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:10:31 AM | Sorry I'm still laughing over the "freakin teen vampire wanna bes out there trying to capture some sort of Twilight fix".
But no, if a guy wants to meet me in the woods, I'm gonna be a vampire... girls gotta protect herself ya know...Boooooo
Seriously.... don't walk in the woods with strangers... bad idea...
dang sounds like one of those stupid horror films where you are sitting there saying NO, DON'T OPEN THE DOOR....
NO, DON'T GO OUTSIDE ALONE...
NO, DON'T SPEND THE NIGHT IN A HAUNTED HOUSE....
NO, DON'T WALK INTO A DARK ROOM...
NO, DON'T CHECK OUT THE BASEMENT.... | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:34:51 AM | OP - good reminder about safety. A public place is always a good idea for a first date or meeting. Although, I wonder - the "woods" scenario may seem kind of creepy for a first date, but the "let's go to my place" not so much for some? I'm amazed to read a number of posts by women who ask for advice, and as part of setting the scene it comes out that they ended up at the guy's house on the first date.
Hopefully the guys who suggest a walk in the woods as a first date are more into the romantic ideas from "The Road Not Taken" (Frost) and just need to catch up with the learning curve. Hopefully. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:40:18 AM | | No way I'm 'going sailing', either. Yeah, buddy, I'd be glad to be all alone with you on a vessel with nothing but ocean all around | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:05:27 AM | | No guts, no glory... Actually, a lone walk in the woods at night only sounds like 'no guts'. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:10:08 AM | "This is the internet," again.
As if this'd be any safer for a first date if you'd met the guy in a supermarket. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:25:12 AM |
I wish men would *think* and *TRY* to be more considerate of a woman's security!
That's why I always insist on taking the bus. Do you have any idea how dangerous it is to get in a car and drive somewhere, compared to public transportation?
No, really, all the better mass murders know they have to be "more considerate of a woman's security", so they are. At first. The fateful walk in the woods happens later. (Hey, it's Halloween...)
So I'd think you'd be safe with someone who's so incompetent as to suggest it for a first date. Even better, hold out for the guys who insist on having a chaperone along. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:46:04 AM | Strangely enough I had a woman ask me to go for a several hour hike in the woods for a first date...........hmmmmmmmmmmm   | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:51:44 AM | As if this'd be any safer for a first date if you'd met the guy in a supermarket.
You mean that they find dead bodies in the morning in your supermarkets? Wow, you live in one rough town ...
It is safer because you are meeting and getting to know one another in public. Not many serial killers are going to do it right in the middle of a restaurant or supermarket.
Think of the old Elmer Fudd saying "2 go out but only one comes back".
I love this Looney Tunes saying - I brought it up at work just the other day, and it always gets laughs. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:12:58 AM | One idiot who was messaging me one night and literally said :
"lets do something spontainious, and meet up right now and go for a drive in my pick up truck in an unlite forest and explore an off beat trail. I have hand cuffs and rope"
This guy was serious........seriously derranged and after me disecting his sick mantality for him to mirror he then sends a message back saying that I was a serial messager and woman like me make him sick... he then deleted his profile ....
His toxic existence and the venum spewing out of his hole made me ill. But thankfully some derranged sick people don't have the intelligence of knowing how to tactfully capture their prey, because stupidity always has a way of seeping out.
Nonetheless this is an example of why you need to screen people CAREFULLY and ALWAYS meet at a public resort | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:15:51 PM | | What if it's the lady's idea? I've had several dates in the past where the lady I was seeing wanted to take a walk through a dark secluded park,or maybe a drive along a secluded country road. I'm a big guy,and all of these women were much smaller than me. Guess they recognised me for the big teddy bear that I am. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:53:00 PM |
For first meetings, I dont know why guys think it's a good idea to bring a lady to an isolated area like a path in the woods (where no one can hear you scream)
Is there some reason that you want other people to hear you screaming from all the great sex I'm giving you? Thats pretty kinky if you ask me. | |
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| Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:04:57 PM | | AWhhhhh....give the guy a break, 1st of all...not all men can read your mind! why didn't you suggest somewhere eles?,besides this is the year 2009 you have the right to openly express your mind.. Don't be afraid to say " why don't we go grab a cup of tea instead?" Get to know the guy, I say... yea he wasn't too smooth but who knows there could be the dream man of your life waiting inside that guy, but the he could be a mask mudered...lol...... best of luck to you..Scream loud!!!!lol................... | |
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