| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:16:50 AM | I do not believe in love at first sight. Especially at my age. I believe you can find out alot about a person by chatting for awhile. See if you have things in common and
like their personality or lack of. Becoming friends first, could lead to love and a lasting relationship. So why are you men so anxious to see us first? Are look all that matter?? | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:31:54 AM | You're kidding me right?
Get out from behind the idiot-box and create the relationship(s) you deserve. Anyone who thinks they can create one online and delay meeting is dillusional.
Sorry ... you asked
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:50:34 AM | i prefer to meet more quickly than not - reveals whether or not there really is attraction and similar interests/outlook
staying on-line too long can lead to creating a fantasy person and end with disappointment | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:12:48 AM | | I am 59 and over the past year I have met 3 women who did not look like their photo. 2 of the women admitted that their photo was more than 10 years old and the other insisted it was new, although to me it looked like a college grad photo. It's not just women who use old photos as men do as well. With online chatting, it is easy to hide the truth and be someone else, hence the need for recent photos or face to face contact. I also object to people who only post a photo of their pet as I am not looking to date their pet. I find a great way to meet new people is to attend a POF function where there are lots of people around to meet, talk to, dance with and start new friendships. | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:33:24 AM | | Considering that there are still going to be misinterpretation even when people do get to meet, it seems that the process of sending messages or holding on to phone conversations will make it a whole lot more difficult, especially when most people type rather slow. | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:53:43 AM |
Anyone who thinks they can create one online and delay meeting is dillusional.
Yet, they can partake in cyber sex without ever meeting. Go figure.
This virtual environment is a tough gig. I suck at personal messages because my sarcastic, dry humour usually gets interpretted as being offensive statements. I agree that a relationship does need to be established in the real world. But this online thing can lead to some rather great relationships.
The OP seems to be meeting up with insecure and desperate men.... now, they are certainly dillusional | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:57:25 PM | Chatting on the interwebs is a waste of time. I chatted with this girl (not from POF) for weeks, flirting, getting to know each other's interests, exchanging pics (and the pics were accurate representations from both me and her) yada yada yada.
As soon as we met in person, I thought she was alright she thought I was an ugly piece of bald shit and told me to piss off. This is a waste of time and effort from both sides. But as you can clearly see, the final judgment was made upon meeting each other in person. So yeah, in my honest opinion, if you want to know if you can click with someone, you have to meet them in person. If you want to have fun and **** around or kill time, messaging mindless text is the way to go. But if you want to **** around and don't want to leave a paper trail, you are probably better off with phone calls.
I don't have any friends that I have met online. I have still yet to find any success on PoF as well. But if something does come up, the first thing I would request is to meet in person.  | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:07:32 AM | Yes if you think you can know someone just by online your not too swift for sure!
As I have been to a few pof events and alot of you ladies & men do not even come close to what you have posted as a pic of you.
And yes I too have chatted with people before meeting them and after a few weeks it still does not tell you much about them.
I prefer to meet sooner then later as if theres anything either a spark /a fire or a flood you won't know until you meet.
As for calling someone before meeting No way! As they could hound you day & night if after you meet and theres no spark.
And when people refuse to show me a pic of them I find the red light poppin on and most times its not wrong.
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:30:32 PM | Say you want to buy a sweater
You see a nice one in the Walmart flyer
You drive to Walmart
At the door you are told to tell someone what you would like and they will get it after you pay for it.
You are not allowed any information other then the picture in the flyer about the sweater
Are you going to buy the sweater sight unseen?
Same goes for online dating, it only scratches the surface. To truly know who a person is you cant just go by their ad in the Walmart flyer. | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/19/2009 2:30:48 PM | No pics she has something to hide. Unless she has a warrant out for her arrest, there is
no reason for not posting one. Also mailing back & forth for weeks is like being overly
cautious. What's the point? None of us are getting any younger. | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/19/2009 4:24:16 PM | Yep good point there about the million emails back and forth and the no pic posted also !
Seems like a mind gamer looking for their jollies thinking why would you want to see me ! lol
Yes seems so many use the old scammer lines just to avoid others or for a lame excuse not to show who they are . And also the fact so many on here really don't want to meet anyone at all! But use this for a way to waste their time and other peoples time too. All I say is if your not here looking to meet someone then why the H .E. (double hockey sticks ) L L are you on a singles site!LOL
Those just looking to waste others time can use them web cam porn sites or lava live !HAHAHA! | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/21/2009 2:42:54 PM |
maybe the OP was talking about the people that send you one short message that says they want to meet you that day
Creepy, but effective.
Lets domineering folks pick out the easy ones:P
Seriously though, I wouldn't want to get overly interested in them to find out they aren't what they seem.
Oh, and.... we're shallow, and not chancing love on a possibly ancient photo.
It's true. I am, you are, he is and so is she. Attraction is, sadly, physical first.
Not everyone wants the prom queen, but I'm hoping for something that doesn't look like a drag queen either.:P | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:32:31 PM | i prefer to meet more quickly than not - reveals whether or not there really is attraction and similar interests/outlook
staying on-line too long can lead to creating a fantasy person and end with disappointment
I agree with that.
Odds are, talking for weeks or months before meeting will more often lead to disappointment and time wasted. People should meet within a two week period in my opinion. | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/24/2009 1:05:10 AM | No, looks are not all that matter, but they can be important and lead to interesting questions.
If someone is overly thin or fat, is the cause physical or psychological?
Also, you can't smell a picture. I don't mean that the other is foul smelling, although th happens on occasion, but recent research seems to indicate that we pick our partners partly due to pheremones that they, and all of us, give off. There are thousand of clues that we pick out and we don't even realize that we are doing it. Those clues can argue either for or against, but to get them we have to have a personal meeting. You don't get a real sense of a person until you meet them face to face.
One lady wouldn't see me any more because she didn't like the way I cut my meat when I eat. Really. I couldn't make THAT up!
So no, looks are not all that matter but for thousands of years looks have been one of the first, if not the first, things that we experience in the process of getting to know others. Changing an instinct that primal won't be easy. | |
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| Why do men insist on seeing you before getting to no you?
Posted: 11/24/2009 7:12:07 AM | Not sure what the big deal is all about...
You are going to be waking up ... well hopefully... next to this person for the rest of your life so you better have some kind of idea what you are getting into.
I have a beard. Not everyone likes a beard. I have had some people say that they do not like facial hair. That is great and I wish them all the luck. I have not shaved my beard in over 25 some years and I do not plan on shaving it anytime soon. That is part of who I am. And that is not going to change. Just like if my eyes where too close together or if I had connecting eyebrows. Who would think of putting in there profile, oh yeah I have connecting eyebrows?
Let me remind you ... A picture is worth 10,000 words  | |
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