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Posted: 10/31/2009 11:06:03 AM | | I keep changing my profile trying to make it better without sounding like someone I'm not. I pretty much get no hits or responses to my messages. Once in a while I'll get something from someone old or overweight. You should be able to tell by my pics that I'm in good shape and that I wouldn't be interested in someone overweight. I know that sounds shallow, but oh well. I wouldn't match up well with someone overweight. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 11:56:14 AM | Well, just as you have no interest in getting mail from overweight women (which is fine, just read, delete, move on...) the women you are writing to obviously have no interest in an army boy who thinks he's "all that." That's the way the ball bounces here kiddo. Cheers  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 1:05:00 PM | | Hon...I am as discouraged as you are. I by no means think that I am ugly, have NEVER been told that I am ugly, and when I do get emails, you should see who they're from....geez!!! Today for instance, 107,000 people on here, and NOT ONE email. And the 1 man that I emailed, didn't respond!!! I am ready to give up on this website. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 1:17:05 PM | | Threads like this also discourage me more and more on this site. You're obviously a good looking guy in great shape with a stable career and people still aren't interested? Heh. I don't think the problem is you.....enough said.....Says volumes for the quality of women out there though.....always want Brad Pitt. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 1:18:16 PM | | I've learned how to use this site by trial and error, and talking to girls on the site. I think a common mistake people make, especially if you're not used to communicating online, is that they are stuck in the old school mentality of dating. Competition is fierce online, especially for guys. If you think a girl is good looking, then she's getting a lot of messages. All guys play a numbers game to get the attention of girls on POF. But quantity is just one piece of the puzzle. When it comes to quality of communication, you need to stand out. Use symbols to offset your subject line...Here's one that works well for me ####I have question!#### That hits alot, questions trigger emotional responses in women, which is what you want. And remember, attraction IS AN EMOTION. In traditional social settings, women are attracted by nonverbal communication i.e. body language, confident attitude..etc. Online, you have to spell out what you are feeling, not just what you are thinking. Combine sharing feelings with confidence. They eat that up man, I'm telling you. Just don't do it to soon, mabey 4th message. One more thing, this works good. Take a break from dating and message someone you like that you are, you just want to go out and have fun, no pressure. Someone will do it, and that could turn into a dating relationship. Go get 'em man, and thank you for your service, that's from a two-war veteran. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 1:41:09 PM | Well aside from your 'no fatties' rule... not a lot of women are going to be interested in someone with such a transient job that can leave you going away from months or years at a time. Occupational hazard I think. Plus, you said you are looking for "fun" which is universally taken as a quick lay. Most women in your age group are not looking for 'fun' but 'the one'.
And if all you ever get... no matter how hard you try... is overweight women, why not find someone who has all the other characteristics you seek and turn her on to a healthy lifestyle? Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 1:58:51 PM | Two problems buddy.
First of all your attitude on here. You are so far up your own a*s it's unbelievable! And if that comes across in your messages, you've no chance!
Secondly and even more importantly, your profile is very poorly written - it's just one long lazy paragraph, a paragraph that needs to be split up to make it more readable.
Hi! How would you like to meet a happy guy who knows how to treat a woman right? Look no further! I enjoy life and everything it has to offer. I've been in love, but don't need it to make me happy.
What a load of cheesy nonsense that is! It's amazing the amount of guys on here who say they know "how to treat a woman right" so women should "look no further".
Hey I'm a guy! But I'm still pretty sure most women on here won't settle for any guy just because he announces his intention to treat her right.
Treating her right should be a given.
When it comes to what I'm doing here on this site, I'm just looking for fun right now, but if the right person comes along I definitely wouldn't rule out anything serious. If you're still interested, why not contact me now and seize the day with me? I'll be right here waiting for you
You'll be waiting a long time for anything on here let alone "fun". Your profile is boring and bland like so many other profiles on here - you're not saying anything different from most other boring profiles on here that don't get any responses!
Web dating is a highly competitive business (whether we like it or not). If your profile doesn't stand out, the person viewing you will just click on to the next profile.
You actually have to sell yourself in a positive, honest way.
So come on Mr Proudtobearmy, your spelling is good, so that's a good start - start using your imagination and write a decent profile. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 2:25:48 PM | You all have good points. I appreciate that. I do want to clear up that I don't think I'm all that. What I do know is that I am attracted to women who share common interests with me. Staying in shape, eating healthy, and being active are all things I thoroughly enjoy. If you can show me an overweight woman who works out as much as me, eats as healthy as me, and is as active as I am, by all means lead the way. It's not the fat that I find unattractive. It's the lack of motivation and commitment their appearance presents.
I didn't think about that when I threw in the "fun" thing. I'm so used to seeing girls on this site talk about the "fun" they just want to have for now it makes me want to find this "fun" and se what it's all about. I figured I might as well join the club. It's like, well, if I'm not okay with all these girls having their "fun" I'm pretty much **** out of luck staying home another Saturday night. I really don't want to share myself with more than one person when I'm dating. I'm old fashioned like that. Heck, I may even be out-dated and expired.
Another problem is the perception civilians have of the military. Not everyone deploys for years at a time. I've been in almost 5 years and have never deployed. If my unit ever does deploy, it'll be 45 days tops. Every unit is different. Also, not everyone in the military is aggressive, abrasive, and rough. Just the few who screw up and make the news. We have to be polite to everyone we see because we represent more than ourselves. However, people still have this 70s and 80s perception of the Army, and perception is reality.
Again, thanks for the tips! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 2:34:05 PM | Andy is right, your profile is painfully boring and you don't seem to have anything else to offer except said hard body.
And I feel what we are telling you is going through one ear and out the other. My spidey-sense is telling me you are going to be single for a while to come. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 6:21:43 PM | I briefly reviewed your profile and the following may give hesitance to someone that views your profile. To me it sounds like your relationship with 'the woman' might be a 1-nighter and that it would be something that you would brag to your buddies about. Anyway, that is my take on the sentence.
Good luck!
"However, once in a blue moon I like to have a wild all-night adventure that you reminisce your buddies about for years to come. " | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:42:59 AM | | I shook it up a bit... or a LOT lol. I think it may be a little too long, but I took all your advice and tried to spice it up. I tried to describe myself the best I could without writing an entire autobiography, so ones who contact me should be good matches. That is IF anyone contacts me. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 11:44:27 AM | Brother, don't give up hope. From one vet to another, it's like Xy said up there. Alot of them want the Brad Pitt. I can see what you are saying about the overweight and older issue. It's hard to explain for some people. If there is no "physical" attraction, however shallow that does sound, then it's hard to move on to something else. I am going through that myself. Just keep the faith man, most of us here are not having much luck. I get the same emails, however I enjoy the conversation with them, regardless of age and/or size. I just politely let them know that while a friendship is great, that would be all I would pursue.
It does sound shallow I'm sure, but I personally know what point you have and guys like us will NEVER be able to explain what we are trying to say. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 12:27:01 PM | Brad Pitt? Didn't you just finish a no "fat chicks" plaint? I'd guess you want Angelina, and are patiently waiting.
The criticism on this thread had to do with the 1 night stand allusion and lack of depth in OP's first profile.
It had nothing to do with dumping on his appearance or job. The OP was getting no luck because women read his profile, decided he didn't seek a ltr, and decided not to reply, or they thought being in the military was a problem--the absences, etc. It wasn't oh she demands Brad Pitt.
The excuses men make--gold digger or Brad Pitt. How about it was not a match, and she's waiting for "the one"(very annoying to opportunistic sex gluttons). | |
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