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Posted: 10/31/2009 11:39:42 AM | Well I've been fairly active on this site for about 2 months and have had zero luck. I'm lucky if I get 1 profile view a day. I only message girls who I feel I would be compatible with. I don't message anyone who could be a model. When I do message someone I do my best to be creative and as pleasant as can be. I ask questions about their interests and never comment on anything physical (you have beautiful eyes.. etc) I'm the kind of person who puts a lot of thought into my messages and it definitely ruins my day when I log on a few hours later and I read "read deleted"
So I need your help! Is there anything in my profile that is sending out the wrong message? What do you think of the 3rd paragraph? When I originally wrote it I thought it would be unique, but now I think perhaps it's too cluttered? What about the pictures? Which ones are good, which ones are unflattering and should be removed? I like the one with the white shirt and jeans, however it's not a great shot of my face, should I get closer to the camera?
This ones for the ladies specifically, how important is height to you? I'm a little on the short side (5'5") and sometimes I might message someone who is 5'4" or thereabouts. Do you generally look for a guy who is 3 or more inches taller than you?
Thanks to anyone who helps,
Mike | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 9:49:00 PM | Delete negatives like no smoke--use settings and anything else bossy or demanding or filler.
Text needs work but first--
Get better pics-lighting dark, and all t-shirts with glasses on, not looking at camera.
Do something good with the hair, replace t-shirt with an ironed button up shirt in nice color--close up head/shoulders, with eye contact relaxed smile, no glasses in 1. 1 body pic, delete any old pics.
User name--replace with positive one. Lostie turns-off.
Don't be heightist yourself--there are many appealing women shorter than 5'4".
Best of luck. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 11:00:14 PM | Hi, Mike - unless you're a complete "Lost" fan, the name is rather a downer. I've never seen an episode so I don't know if you are a fan and the headline is a reference? Plan B?
I was thinking the information in the second paragraph may have more of a 'wow' factor than the first, slightly. It may be better as your opening paragraph. The information on who you're looking for generally is better toward the end of the profile, once your viewer has learned about you and gotten all interested.
The third paragraph with the random sentences is a hard read. You could have some fun with the profile and insert a couple of random facts between each paragraph like little commercial breaks? Open with a couple, then a paragraph, then a couple more, and so on. Maybe see how it looks to you and decide. But- the facts are pretty cool, maybe just reorganised?
For me - honestly, I don't actively message guys under 5'7" but will respond and follow up if they message me. It just seems that I've always dated (or been married to) guys 5'10" or taller. But that's just me and there's thousands of women out there for you to introduce yourself. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 5:10:21 PM | | Thank you both very much. I will take all your advice to heart. And yes the username is a lost reference I never really thought it could be seen as a downer so I'll probably start a new one soon. Thanks again! | |
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