| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:02:14 PM | | I know that people can only think for themselves but are woman, in general, more likely to initiate contact if they find interest in someone? Should the man still make most of the first contacts if they have been viewed by someone they have interest in? | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:10:24 PM | I give up waiting for someone to contact me to see if maybe I might be interested in them. I decided that I would take control of my future and email those that I find interesting. Unfortunately none of them answer me back Good thing I am not a quitter, and my skin is getting thicker by the day  | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:28:24 PM | | It does not matter. Yes some women are too shy to email so you are better off trying... hey thats why most of us are on here right. | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:56:13 PM | 1) Viewing you means nothing. If they viewed ya for 2 seconds and screamed at the top of their lungs while frantically clicking back space how do you know? They are just browsing. If they add ya to their favs it showed some level of interest.
2) Look some gals have no problem making first contact. Others refuse to.
But viewing your profile means nothing usually. They might peek at 100 a night and be interested mildly in 6 and serious in 2.
If YOU are interested in someone contact them! But don't base it on the fact they viewed your profile. Pick the ones you feel are a match after READINg their profile.
Cowboy | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:00:31 PM | | If a profile caught my eye yeah why not. Or at least add as a fave, a subtle indicator of interest. Then leave it to the male to take the iniative and make first contact. I wouldn't get too excited about people who viewed you..frankly if they haven't messaged you or added you, that to me spells disinterest. Once they see past the pretty picture, it's likely they decided you're not suitable. You can still try your luck for the reason that there are women who do hold back from contacting. | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:56:30 PM | I don't think a girl should contact you, if she wants it to work out. My friends complain about this, they contact a guy first, IRL or online, and it causes problems.
The guy eventually thinks there is something wrong with the girl, since she did the approaching. Some guys think it gives them the upper hand in the relationship and perceive the girl as desperate.
Reading your profile:
If you can do laundry, cook, change a cars oil, fix things around the house that are broken and willing to support a stay at home husband.
hum... so, you want a girl to financially support you, and also fix things, plus cook and do laundry? What exactly will you be doing, as the "home husband" ? You aren't going to cook or do any laundry? | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:01:35 PM | | Reread Cowboy's response. If you're interested in someone who's viewed you, message them, but don't expect interest back just because they viewed you. | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:40:42 PM | | I have emailed and only had one guy email me first. I emailed one that even deleted my email w/o reading it. I thought that strange. I would at least be curious. Anyway, no one emails me back after a few so I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I quit emailing. | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:44:47 PM | 16Madison
I kinda think he was being sarcastic in his profile  | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:49:18 PM |
I don't think a girl should contact you, if she wants it to work out.
Oh good grief.. Most my long term relationships on here messaged me first. I would of imagined you were 50 years old and living in another generation until I saw your age on your profile.
ANYONE can message anyone on a online site like this!
Guys get such a low response rate they appreciate a gal contacting them even with a simple message
Cowboy | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:37:54 AM | I have no problem initiating contact with people I'm interested in. I mean, the worst that happens is they're not interested in me.
If you find someone interesting who viewed you, go ahead and contact them. It's always worth a try. :) | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:57:50 AM | The guy eventually thinks there is something wrong with the girl, since she did the approaching. Some guys think it gives them the upper hand in the relationship and perceive the girl as desperate.
Geez...do you really believe this? Would you want to be with a guy who had this train of thought, even if he approached you first?
OP: I don't believe there are any hard rules for this. Someone has to email first, and it shouldn't matter who did it. If there's commonality, then great! | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:22:11 AM | Sure, ANYONE can message anyone else ~ and, cowboy, maybe you are an exception, who knows? Maybe you are more considerate/reasonable than some other men.
I just said that my friends seem to have problems, eventually, with the guys who didn't do the hunting.
I personally have never made the first move, and am happy with my outcomes.
And, I think that other girls on this site have posted similiar statements.
Everyone else is free to do things whatever way they want. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 2:10:23 AM | | I met 4 guys from here- I initiated contact with ALL of them. Read my profile and you will see I found my fishie here 2 years ago. I emailed him just because he was close by to say a polite hello in a large country with a small population. I didn't think we were a match but I am proof that taking a punt works. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 2:24:09 AM |
I just said that my friends seem to have problems, eventually, with the guys who didn't do the hunting.
I'm surprised to see this ascribed as a reason for relationship problems. Sounds like scapegoat reasoning to me, when it really concerns other issues within the relationship. Good grief alright. | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 11/1/2009 2:29:05 AM | Talking from personal experience I have to admit I always make the first contact why?
1) I am not that attractive
2) If I wait for them to initiate contact I can wait for eternity.
So basically I am ruined and the only way to meet some is to persevere. If i were good looking it would be a different story alas. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:38:12 AM | When I was still looking, I cheerfully emailed first. I actually initiated contact with my current guy, otherwise we may never have met, since he lives in another town 30 miles away.
I think everyone should be willing to contact someone they are interested in. Let's face it, the toothfairy is not a mind reader, and isn't likely to just drop your soulmate in your lap because you sat there wishing and hoping and not getting off your butt and doing something to make it happen.
I learned a very important lesson in my sales training. If you don't ask, you don't get.
The other lesson is that it won't kill you to say hello. | |
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| who e-mails who first
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:01:53 AM | | As soon as I find someone I am interested in I will gladly make first contact. | |
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