| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:46:50 PM | | Mid-50s and I've been single for almost 3 years. I'm not adjusting to singledom too well. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. Lets share some tips on the upside to being single when you're over 50. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:00:32 PM |   aww sugar life is simple...at 50 at 40 at 30...wanting someone in your life and not finding the right person can wear you down...but still better than being shackled with the wrong person! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:01:33 PM | Just read the forums. 
I just hit 50. The upside of being single is that you can do most whatever you want without having to consider another in your thought processes. I think most everything else positive is a derivative of that. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:12:36 PM | The upside to being single and over 50 is sitting solo on a Scary Saturday (Halloween), letting the walls down while wondering is it me, or is there anyone else who doesn't like the word cougar. But the RED FLAGS should have told me that when we were young, things were pretty simple. But duped again? Give him a chance or serendipity? I think gaining weight later in life is a problem, especially the second (or third or...) time around and always when there is dishonesty on a profile, but sometimes you can find information this and health issues and people our age.
I hope this helps.  | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:17:22 PM | | Not living with someone who is bipolar is nice - I don't have to hide knives and skillets every 28 days. The nice part about being single -- and dating -- at an older age is that by now, peoples' personality flaws, behavioral quirks, and mental illnesses have manifested themselves. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:27:37 PM | hahaha, FFS. Good one!
OP, I'm only recently 50 and technically am not single yet (2 weeks, god willing!) but your question got me wondering. . . how will I feel 3 years from now if I don't meet someone special? Here are some of the things I'm expecting I will enjoy:
Extra time with my kids, always a bonus.
Extra time to do the things I like to do but haven't had much time for--writing, walking, hiking, running, POFing ( ), meeting up with friends, going back to school, doing extra things for my job, trying new things.
Having complete control over my household. Coming home to a kitchen as clean as I left it. (Ok, maybe this isn't important to many of you, but if you could see what I regularly came home to, you'd understand)
Being able to get any and all pets I may want.
The silence of no deep, disappointed sighs when I want to see a movie (WTF was that all about, anyway?)
No demands on my body from someone who never put any value on my desires.
Freedom to go where I want, when I want, for as long as I want.
Not all of these are essential to my happiness, but they can certainly contribute to it!
I hope this helps! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:20:08 AM | Having been single now for over 20 years.. AND being in your age pool.. Here are the advantages
now.. These are just statements. Some have been culled from friends who DONT have them, and in fact have the implied negative. I didnt personally have all of those implied negatives when I wasnt alone and/or single. I HAVE been a single custodial father the last 14 yrs or so with them only being our recently. Dont infer anything from this list about me.
You do WHAT you want, WHEN you want, with WHOM you want
Your home is found the way you left it when you come home
You get no criticism
You dont HAVE to do the dishes
you dont HAVE to have a meal ready if you dont feel like it
No remote control conflict
YOU get to choose your vacations
NO second guessing
NO money conflicts
MORE time with your friends
More time for your hobbies
More time to do any self-improvement work you desire
More time to like yourself
More time to pamper yourself
That's just a short list.
True story. 5 years ago I scheduled a trip to Las Vegas for a WEEK for my birthday. I happen to enjoy Vegas and have a particular hotel where I've gone often enough that the majority of the casino and restaurant(s) staff know me. Many are friends where we've socialized away from the casino too. 3 min after sitting at my first table to begin gambling upon arrival, I made a betting mistake and won over $8,000. I eventually won over 7 times that in the course of the week stay.
I splurged on myself. I saw ALL the shows I wanted, ate the food I wanted WHEN I wanted, slept when I wanted, got pampering DAILY like I wanted at the spa. I had several dinners that cost over $600.. JUST FOR ME.
ONE SOLID WEEK about ME ME ME ME ME ME ME
Now, before I'd left, all of the women I was dating at the time (yes I said all since there was no exclusivity or anyone particularly serious) got sortof miffed that I wasnt taking any of them with me. Well, my week-to-myself started on a sunday.. with my birthday being the following Saturday. ONE of the ladyfriends called me on thursday and asked if I had seen Elton John yet, and when she learned I hadnt, offered to fly up that sat and take me to see him. (It had been on my list to do, just hadnt done it yet)
When she arrived on Sat morning, she came off the plane, took a look at me and remarked:
"It looks like you've had a facelift! ALL of the stress is gone that I've noticed the last couple of years.. you are looking GREAT!" I hadnt yet told her how much I was UP.
Point is.. that it was the first time in 50 years that I finally did something for ME. ALL ABOUT ME.
I've been back each year for that same "Birthday Week in Vegas" and it's the most raucous party time of PURE ENJOYMENT that anyone there has ever seen. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:37:19 AM | No one giving you condescending looks.
Well my cat does but ..... other than him no one.
You can buy all the expensive sports cars you want (video games).
You can eat your own cooking (and soon get sick of it).
You can tOOt and no one cares.
You can talk to other girls if you want.
You can have sex anytime you want (the internet goes 24/7)
You can scope out chicks - without any guilt.
You can sleep in the middle of your king size bed.
No one ask you "what is for dinner" (except you asking yourself)
Boy ..... I could list a hundred upsides.
(yes I was married most of my life) | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:58:09 AM | I just turned 50 and have been single just over 3 years. I have good days and bad days. I admit sometimes I feel lonely and would love the company of a man, other times I’m perfectly happy in myself. Like most, I’d rather be alone than with someone who’s wrong for me. My biggest concern is that one day I’ll find someone who feels right, but that I’ll find it hard to share my space with them if I’ve been single for a long time.
I live in hope though. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:29:54 AM | I come and go as I please.
I painted the walls the color I wanted the trim white....I don't care of wonderful the wood is....
I cook whatever I want when I want without anyone telling me they don't like it.
I bought all new furniture that I wanted.......
I put tons of fluffy blankets on my big bed and its now warm and inviting.
I can shop without anyone griping about how much I spent.
I now have clothes....
I now don't have my Daughter borrowing my clothes.
I buy expensive perfume just because I love it.
I pay my bills on time.
My house is clean.
Or my house is messy...
I have tons of dinner parties...
I have tons of friends so are really different and I have learned great things from them.
I have good credit.
No one telling me the top of the refrigerator is dirty...if I can't see it I don't care.
I can talk on the phone late at night...
I don't leave the TV on all night.
I watch whatever I want whenever I want.
I cut down all the tree's no more gum balls.....I don't care how pretty everyone thought they were.....pulled out all the bushes I hated them..
I painted the outside the house a new color...the one I liked.
Camping, repelling, backpacking, going out and feeling free........
The key is to make your home your home.....to find things you love doing. I have reached out and made wonderful friends...I love outdoors and now I am doing stuff to be involved in it....to cleaning out trails and meeting tons of people. I have to find my way. I try different things on to find the things that I love and get involved in them. Not everything is perfect sometimes I let myself think about the Good ole days that weren't so great....I tend to romanticise it. But its the day dreamy stuff that isn't true. Today I do get bored, hungry and lonely....then I get busy and do something about it. But right now I love my Peace in the world.......and I would like to meet someone special.....but I am happy regardless....and I think you have to get to that point. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:54:20 AM | 1. you can do what you want...
2. you can do it whenever you want to...
3. nobody has to know where you are going or when you're coming home...
4. you can decorate the house with a little class (and believe me, for interior designers completely stupefied by the typical man's choice in decor, this is BIG! lol)...
5. you can stretch out all the way to the cool side of the mattress... ahhhhhh...
6. you can trash those f#ckin' sinatra CDs and listen to tony bennett instead...
7. you never have to explain why you brought home another totally killer antique, great book, brand new digital SLR, or that awesome 30-pound kayak with room for all your gear and a dog...
8. you never have to look at the jello, banana moon pies, white bread, diet cokes, and all that other garbage food he used to bring home...
9. you can do your yoga without the pointing and laughing...
and last but not least...
10. no snoring.
wow, i think i just convinced myself stay single.
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:17:03 AM | | After a long and reasonably good marriage I became single. It took some adjustment and I am OK with it although I do hope to remarry some day. The thing is the longer I am single the more comfortable and happy I am with it. The freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want is the best part of it, I guess. There are plenty of women around to keep me company in various ways which is kind of nice, too. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:25:32 AM | You can make passes at men who wear glasses - and it's OK!
Seriously g/f, reading between the lines, I'm sensing you're lonesome? So I read your profile - lots of negatives there - and you expect your ideal partner to live within 15 miles? I think you need a dose of reality. You say you've a sunny disposition and that you're an optimist, but your profile doesn't support that. Sorry to be brutal. You're obviously a caring person or you wouldn't be involved in the work you do. And it's commendable you're a mature-age student, but it doesn't seem like you have any time to invest in a relationship. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:32:53 AM | | In reality you know you could get with a man and be a couple. But no, the men you meet aren't right for you. That leaves imaginary men. Those aren't actually available and so neither is the relationship you would have to not be single. That leaves being single. The upside is that you don't have to suffer being with a man you don't want. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:39:56 AM | | Well only 49 and single but going to comment as I feel the upside to being older and single is taking the time to know who YOU are without someone in your life. Then you start living life instead of spending and wasting a whole lot of time thinking about someone else in your life. YOU can enjoy each day and if someone happens to come into your life, enjoy it. I've been on my own almost 10 yrs and its been a difficult road to accepting just being me but I made it. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:45:32 AM | I've been single for quite a while.....and love every minute of it. I don't have to respond to that scary question "how was your day"! I don't have my evening planned out for me by someone else, I can strip off and have my shower, then walk around naked without a care! I can enjoy watching my sports shows, go out with anyone I want, talk to anyone I wish, male or female.
I love my own company, am comfy in my own skin, I don't get lonely like some people do. I enjoy life to the max! What's not to like about being single, whether you're over 50 or not! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:49:21 AM | It doesn't matter if you are single and 30, 40, or 50.....the answer to your question is the same, it's all a matter of degrees.
1. Freedom
2. The possibilities are endless. Limited only by what you believe you can do.
With the world seemingly made for couples it is easy to get stuck in the negatives of singledom when you have no other half, but if you look at it realistically, there are positives too.
I just love being able to s t r e t c h o u t and take up the entire space on my bed.
I just love reading a ridiculously trashy novel in bed into the wee hours of the night
I just love spending a lazy Sunday in my pj's doodling on the computer for as long as I want.
I couldn't do those things if I were coupled up....well, I could, but my mate might not appreciate it. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:51:59 AM | "Not living with someone who is bipolar is nice - I don't have to hide knives and skillets every 28 days. The nice part about being single -- and dating -- at an older age is that by now, peoples' personality flaws, behavioral quirks, and mental illnesses have manifested themselves"
LOL you are to funny! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:53:19 AM |
Lets share some tips on the upside to being single when you're over 50.
1. No extra laundry
2. You go where you want to and when you want to
3. If your not hungry you do not have to cook
4. You can run around in your flannel PJ's and not have to worry about how you might look in them.
5. Your satin and silk lingerie wardrobe still has the tags on it. Might even last you a lifetime..
6. No going places you might not wish to
7. You got the remote
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